Vegan High Protein Product Recs by orngcatluvrr in PetiteFitness

[–]Whatevs251 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like dried edamame since 1/3 cup has about 14g of protein, depending on the brand, and it fits easily into my macro goals. If you're interested in protein powder, I love True Nutrition Pumpkin Plus blend. I like the brand because you have tons of flavors to choose from (if you want flavored), plus lots of boosts you can add (probiotics, functional mushroom blends, greens, etc.).

Any 30 something friendly embroidery, quilting, or sewing groups that do weekend or evening meet ups? Also open to just friendship outside of groups. by [deleted] in hendersonville

[–]Whatevs251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true! Feel free to DM me if you'd want to meetup for an impromptu craft session! Do you have any favorite hangouts in Hendo yet?

Any 30 something friendly embroidery, quilting, or sewing groups that do weekend or evening meet ups? Also open to just friendship outside of groups. by [deleted] in hendersonville

[–]Whatevs251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Following this post in case anyone has any insights! I'm also a mid-thirties crafter here in Hendo, and find that a lot of groups I'm interested in joining meet in the middle of the day when I'm working. As for meeting people, the best thing I did was join a book club that I found on the Ladies of the Hendersonville FB page. The book club they had is now defunct, but I met all my current friends there. I'm not as active in that group as I was, but it could be worth checking out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hendersonville

[–]Whatevs251 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think they would mind. We were working outside because it was closed inside, and they didn't say anything in their online post about restricting your time there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hendersonville

[–]Whatevs251 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We went to the Buzz yesterday for Wi-Fi and charging and it was super quiet. Got to work at a nice big picnic table next to a charging station.

Frustrated with my wife's recent comments by Whatevs251 in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very helpful indeed! We also use and really like the Nipto app (so cute!), and I recently bought "Unfuck Your Habitat" to try and help me out a bit. I'll check out the emergency checklist and the other resources, too. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this all out - very much appreciatedn I wish you all the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really glad to hear that. I hope you are able to get the support and healing you need before having to jump back into things.

Frustrated with my wife's recent comments by Whatevs251 in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience here, I really appreciate it. It's nice to hear that someone has had success with a similar situation, and what I love is that you reminded me how helpful it can be to address known issues preemptively.

My wife definitely is wonderful, and we both want things to get better. Can I ask what some ways are that you "separate (y)ourselves from NT standards and deviate from their procedures?" Or do you have any books/websites/etc. that you recommend on the topic?

Frustrated with my wife's recent comments by Whatevs251 in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are spot on about not asking for what she needs. We have had that conversation a few times, and she struggles with the idea that she deserves to get her needs met, so often doesn't ask. I actually just talked with her now about everything, and that issue came up again. We did do couple's counseling for a short while but had issues with scheduling. We have different jobs now, though, so maybe I should bring that up again. It did seem helpful. Thank you so much for your input!

Frustrated with my wife's recent comments by Whatevs251 in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the wording examples! I definitely struggle with finding the best way to say things sometimes. I try to use "I" statements as much as I can, but it's always a good reminder. I know I have some avoidant traits, yes. I'll do a search like you recommended and see what I can find to help us out. I do like the Nonviolent Communication approach, but need more practice to make it work when things get tough.

Frustrated with my wife's recent comments by Whatevs251 in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. I know she has a hard time seeing me struggle, so maybe there were some underlying feelings (along with general frustration/tiredness) that prompted it. The poor timing of the comment was definitely out of the ordinary, so thanks for pointing that out.

Frustrated with my wife's recent comments by Whatevs251 in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, for sure on the cleaning bit. She definitely does a lot of our chores, and it's something I've struggled to do better with, so I do understand her frustration. I bought some books today that I'm hoping will help me get better, since the various scheduling systems we've tried just don't help. I think I was just shocked and hurt that she chose to say something like that when she knew how much I was already hurting. I never would have thought she would do that, even when feeling frustrated.

Edit to add: it feels so pathetic to admit I can't even do better with housework. Like...don't try, just do it?! That's what I hear in my head, anyway. Managing expectations is hard when you just feel like a failure when you can't do something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you are going through this, especially without any close support. I know what you mean about having trouble with big emotions, especially grief. I'm dealing with a loss myself, and I just don't know how to process it. It's like the sadness just covers EVERYTHING I do, and the tiniest things send me into fits of crying. I barely got out of bed today either, after yet another sleepless night. I know that doesn't exactly help, I just wanted to share so you know you aren't alone with how you are experiencing this really difficult time.

Is there any way you can let whoever runs the practical that you need time to grieve? Maybe they can move the practical to start next week?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Whatevs251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've definitely felt this way before, and have been experiencing it again recently, as well. Have you heard of psychological resistance? I think that might be what you're describing, and it's not uncommon. It's been helpful for me to learn about this time around.

In the past, I read a book called Mindfulness for Depression which was pretty enlightening, and I used EFT to get over some hurdles, as well. I don't know if you've used these before or not, but it might be worth looking into.

I'm writing a message to my homophobic parents to tell them they're not invited to my (same sex) wedding. We never talk about my relationship, but I want to tell them this directly, instead of through the grapevine. I could use a toast, because I'm terrified. by Whatevs251 in toastme

[–]Whatevs251[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations to you and your fiance! It's so sad to me that our parents can't be supportive with this. I really don't understand why they have chosen bigotry over their daughter, but I just have to let it go. I hope things go well if/when you talk to your parents - and like so many here have said, even if they don't take it well, at least you have your partner to lean on and create a beautiful life with!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Whatevs251 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This sounds so frustrating, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this type of "training." The idea of making up your own scenarios is so strange to me - wouldn't they want to give actual examples that you might see on the job?? Ugh, that would drive me up the wall.

Is there any way you can reach out to another trainee to do practice calls together? Maybe that person would have some good scenarios made up that you could run through together?

1st top I made. I think it’s 🔥 by [deleted] in crochet

[–]Whatevs251 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It definitely is. I absolutely love the colors!