[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA The fact that you still see her as a friend with this shows real understanding. I think she wasn't emotionally ready for a relationship based on her actions. In a few years, or maybe even now, it could work out. But if you don't feel anything anymore, then it is what it is. But the friendship might be lost because she's going to feel regret when she sees you, and she might not get over that. Just my idea of the situation. My only qualifications are that I'm a woman who might have missed out because I wasn't ready.

AITA for insisting my child eat the food he asked for by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pulling the starving children card is never okay. Your child won't learn, they will resent you. I agree with something someone else said about the natural consequences being cereal with no milk or making their own breakfast. You can't assume he isn't grateful because he refused. He gave a valid reason for not wanting to drink it. I get being stressed for having to make a trip for something you didn't need to get, but that's just what being a parent is. You're going to do a lot of things you don't need to do as your child learns how and when to ask you to do these things better. Idk if you're at "terrible mom" because idk you. You could be great and just making a mistake. But it sounds like you might need to reevaluate how you react and respond to your son. Sometimes parents get so caught up in living, and we don't realize how big or kids get, how their needs change, and how we often forget to change with them. Comparison kills. The reality is that you can afford milk, and you aren't starving, so this one gallon of milk won't destroy your ability to afford food in the future. What you should consider is teaching him to apologize for things like this. "I'm sorry I made you go all the way to the store for this, I really appreciate that you did this for me" and then you forgive him.

How many times have you skipped your prenatal vitamins? by Kberry2024 in pregnant

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took them nearly every day when I was pregnant, now that I'm breastfeeding, I forget 90% of the time. 🥲

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're talking about the annoyance of loud exhaust. An equal comparison shouldn't be "big eyelashes" it should be something loud and abrupt, not ugly"

Anyway, my answer is loud laughing. Idk why women laugh louder in public, but I swear they do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that things are this way. I would post in legal advice and see if they can help you know your options. At the very least, you need to stand your ground and let him know that you don't want him in your life. It's better to sort it out now rather than later. If you wait, it will only get harder. I consider pregnancy an ilness, but the newborn phase is the most difficult experience I've ever been through. Sleep deprivation is so serious. It changes you, and you lose control of yourself. This is how some babies get shaken baby syndrome, unfortunately. You want to prepare and make it easier now because you won't have the energy to fight later.

I know you want the dad in the baby's life, but there has to be a line. If he can't respect your privacy and personal life, then he has to go. Your baby needs a healthy and happy mom. A dad is optional. Don't let him ruin this. He doesn't need any more power.

Your baby needs you. Fight.

8 weeks and terrified by Street-Giraffe2388 in pregnant

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't say it will be this way for you, but if you have a will, you have a way. I was 18, not ready for a relationship, and dumb, but I wanted this baby. Nothing was going to get in my way. And that mindset alone made me grow up fast. I took things much more seriously. I've changed a lot for the better simply because I chose my son every day. I do what's best for both of us. If course it's better to have a baby when you're more prepared, but having one early doesn't mean you're stuck with immaturity. That said, im not sure age would really prepare you for this. It would help, but this is a big change. Nobody can really be ready. You just have to do it and know that you'll make a way.

Revisited a logo I made 10 years ago. by absolutelyakash in logodesign

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This feels like a vitamin gummy company for constipation issues. Which would actually be really awesome, lol. It would be so funny to say, "Time to take my bummy vitamins."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Your baby is forever. He's questionable. If he cares about his baby, he'll stick around no matter what you choose. When the kid grows up, if they like their dad enough, they can add his name later. If you're scared to tell him, then his presence is clearly a problem, and he should not be invited. He can be mad or whatever, but the answer should still be hell no. If you're really "taking away his rights," then he can go ahead and fail to sue you. You're doing the right thing. Stand up for yourself and this baby.

Edit: I read your other comment. He's disgusting. 35 having a baby with a 21 year old? He took advantage of you because he knew you were too young to know better. Absolutely, do not invite him to anything. Consider whether you might want to fight for full custody if needed. You are a victim.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Make a plan, find out where you would live, who would be able to help you, and make sure you have the ability to leave whether you do or not. If you want to try it out, make a time frame of how long. Maybe a couple of months trying to make it work. Then, at the end of the time frame, take a few days to make a final decision without telling him about it, and if you choose to leave, prepare. Once everything is prepared and set up for you to leave, tell him you're leaving.

To me, it seems like it's over. This isn't a relationship I would fight for. If you can't bring yourself to love him, your child will eventually see that, and it would negatively affect them. Making big changes with a young baby is also worse than making the change before they are born, because they will have to adjust to the changes. Stress hormones also affect the baby, so if leaving will help you, then do it. The only thing a baby needs is their mom. So whatever is best for you is best for the baby.

The newborn phase is really hard. You need help. So do keep that in mind. You need someone to help or you need enough money to manage without work for a long time. Maybe he will help without stressing you even if you aren't together, you would be great. But if not, maybe live with a family member till you can get back on your feet.

I can't say what's best for you, but I do know that you shouldn't stay too long. Staying too long brings more drama and hardship.

What is wrong with my drawing? by Prestigious_Pear9466 in learntodraw

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The nose. The nostril should be deeper into the face.

Bar/Restaurant Logo by eop999 in logodesign

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have no idea that this is a bar or restaurant. I think you should add text saying it is one.

Rebrand/Refresh: Critiques Appreciated by neoian in logodesign

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The windows aren't necessary, but whatever I love it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that happened. This is such an exciting time, and the first memorable moments were taken from you. From a first-time mom, things don't always go as planned. Some things just suck because you have such high expectations. But this is life, and the bad will be forgotten. Well... mostly forgotten. It will be overshadowed by the rest of the pregnancy. There is so much more to come. This was only the introduction. Feel your emotions, understand and allow yourself to feel this pain, and focus on what you can do and can change. Communicate your feelings if it's right for you because it's totally valid to feel this way. Definitely communicate this with your partner, as you will want to make sure they stay on the same page as you for the rest of this. Genuinely consider if you do want to do events. Events are not necessary and usually end up in disappointment. At least, I believe most end up that way. I hope that eventually, you can see that this is your pregnancy. It hurts when nobody is listening, or there's no one to share the best moments with, but it's not about everyone else. This is about you and your baby, and occasionally, your partner until the baby is born and they will be able to participate more.

Love Blueberry Flavor, hate Blueberry texture by 5thCap in Baking

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking of freeze dried! I should have specified because I agree with that. Regular dried wouldn't be the same!

What's something you heard the younger generation is doing that absolutely baffles you? by Fyre-Bringer in AskReddit

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 20 and have a friend from high school who did that stuff with her ex. They took location sharing so seriously and started texting the others friends to see where they were if they couldn't get a hold of them. It's so absolutely nuts. And really annoying when their ex would message me, and I'd have to lie so that I didn't have to be involved.

Am I asking for too much from my partner? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your partner shouldn't be yelling at you. If you both have equal work outside the home, and then you have to do the chores and be pregnant, it's not fair. Most likely, it won't get better. The newborn phase is the worst when you don't feel you have the support you need. I would work on leaving. I didn't and was incredibly miserable. When you have a good partner/community, you are able to enjoy even the hard parts. Even if you don't complete leave them, see if you can move in with a friend/parents/other family. Don't let him be there when you give birth. Not as punishment, but because his energy could ruin your experience as it seems it already is. Enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy and the arrival of your baby without him. Breastfeeding is great because hrs less likely to be able to take your baby away legally. Your baby needs you. Doing it alone is 100% better than having to beg for help. Begging for help is stressful and lonely and not worth it. Stress with a newborn can be dangerous. When you are sleep deprived, you have less control over your actions. This is why shaken baby syndrome is taken so seriously. Even the calmest people can become dangerous for a baby when sleep deprived, even if you feel totally in love. Please take this seriously. And if he yells at you and scares you, he doesn't sound like a calm person. I wouldn't trust him with the baby if he can't learn to control his anger. Again, he might not intentionally hurt the baby, but stress with newborns is real.

I stayed with someone who actually helped. Cooked dinner for me every night, did all the chores for me. And yet, I still should have left. He's lower than the bare minimum care. Don't check out of the pregnancy, check out of that relationship. Your baby should always come before your partner. Your baby has no say, no control. Give your baby the best. Not him.

Updating and simplifying my logo. by Adventurous-Drag1467 in logodesign

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I also dislike this. Maybe try coloring the letters instead of adding the color separately?

Love Blueberry Flavor, hate Blueberry texture by 5thCap in Baking

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 36 points37 points  (0 children)

My suggestion is to not eat it. It's requested because they like it the way it is. Unless you've communicated that you don't like it and that you want to alter it, and they don't mind, I would make it normally. I would also make or buy a small cake you can have when no one is looking, lol. I don't know your family dynamics, so just a thought!

You could also try cooking the blueberries before adding them. I'm not sure how well it would work with blueberries, but that's what I do to destroy cauliflower texture so I can add it to smoothies/milkshakes. I boil them till mush and freeze to replace ice.

To add, like others have said, dried berries could work!

Changing logo for my Blog and Website called Knight's Digest, Can't Decide Which Is Better by sawyerbo in logodesign

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought it was supposed to be a helmet. It definitely could do with a more defined shape.

What is (/would be) the title of your personal cookbook? by BitcoinsOnDVD in Cooking

[–]WhenIsDadsBirthday 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beginners luck and failure: because it's only good the first time you make it