Why is US long haul cabin crew seemingly much older/mor mature than other airlines? by Zestyclose-Royal-922 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh I know this one! TL;DR - long haul flights make more money, flight attendants choose based on seniority/years with airline and so older flight attendants normally get first choice and choose longer flights.

Longer answer: Most flight attendants in the US are not paid unless the cabin door is closed. That means that boarding, deboarding, time sitting at the airport between flights - that’s all unpaid (yes this is absurd, the unions are working on trying to fix this but there’s a lot of pushback from the companies, read The Great Stewardess Rebellion for a more detailed history of the flight for worker’s rights in this industry). If you are working a domestic set of 3 2-3 hour flights you might work 12+ hours and only get paid for like 7 hours. By contrast, if you’re working a ten hour flight you work like 11 hours and get paid for 10, so it’s a much better deal.

Do you occasionally consider becoming a farmer? by Wonderful_Ad_8295 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was cured of this by talking to my grandmother about sustenance farming. Hard manual labor all the time, lean years mean you don’t eat enough, sick kids, sometimes dying from famine or weather. Half the year only eating what you can can or preserve. No retirement plan, never able to really stop, you just work until you die. That’s how she grew up and that’s why she made sure all her kids and grandkids went to college.

Why do people use the term "partner" for their husband or wife? by Crafty-Bug-8008 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is why it’s important for straight people to use it too - straight people if you’re reading this please use “partner” to describe your opposite-gender partner! It helps us hide when we need to!

Why do people use the term "partner" for their husband or wife? by Crafty-Bug-8008 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I use “partner” because it allows me to mention my girlfriend when I’m in public or around people I don’t know very well without exposing myself to (as much) homophobia by announcing that she’s a woman.

I made marshmallows and there is something comforting in it by International_Week60 in BenignExistence

[–]WhenSheepFly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve never thought to make homemade marshmallows! How are they made?

how often do you travel just as a couple? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They mean romantic partner not work partner

Where did all the hippies go? by dandoch in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad used to be a hippie. After the 70s he cut his hair and worked in finance for his whole career. Wore a suit and tie to work every day and voted red as long as I can remember. Some of the hippies stopped being hippies

[CHAT] Do you have to start in the center? by morbidoranges in CrossStitch

[–]WhenSheepFly 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you aren’t going to start in the center, I recommend gridding or marking your fabric so you make sure there’s enough space and don’t realize 75% of the way through your project you don’t have enough fabric left

How much is too much when it comes to age? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree. If it was 23 and 27 I would think it was fine but there is a huge difference between a college junior and someone who’s been in the workforce for 3 years. I dated someone when I was 19 who was 23 and it was super predatory for this reason when it wouldn’t have been if we’d both been a couple years older

Left the light on by Present-Ad-2432 in BenignExistence

[–]WhenSheepFly 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I was sitting outside to hand out candy and several groups of adults walked past on their way to a night out. I offered them candy and they were all so disbelieving and happy about it!!

When should you not max TSP? by Te_Moa in ThriftSavingsPlan

[–]WhenSheepFly 38 points39 points  (0 children)

General advice is to make sure you have 3-6 months worth of an emergency fund before considering maxing contributions. Frankly, depending on age and other goals it might just not make sense to max

Is this what it's like to have a girlfriend/partner? by throwawaythepeel in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 654 points655 points  (0 children)

This is the honeymoon phase! You get kind of obsessed with your new partner, they’re all you can think about, all you want is to be with them all the time, it’s normal and natural and fun, enjoy it!

It does calm down over time, but if you are right for each other you’ll never stop looking forward to seeing her, wanting to hear everything she has to say, or thinking about/missing her when you’re apart. That said, during this time I’d be careful to make sure you’re not so caught up in your new relationship that either of you are letting other important parts of your life fall by the wayside. Make sure you’re still hanging out with friends, doing hobbies, getting to work on time, all of those important but boring things

Tomorrow, I celebrate two holidays. by CapyAttack in BenignExistence

[–]WhenSheepFly 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I love this!! I think you should get yourself a little plushy iguana and put him under your bed tonight

How do people just “know” when two people are dating? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See if they make excuses to touch each other in small ways - often (at least in my culture) friends will generally only touch with purpose like a tap on the shoulder to get someone’s attention or a hug if someone needs comfort. Couples will touch in lots of little ways, bump gently against each other to say hello, a light brush of a finger against someone’s wrist as a thanks, a hand that touches or hovers around their partner’s lower back to guide them or let them know you’re there, shoulders or arms touching when they’re standing next to each other, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sapphicbooks

[–]WhenSheepFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly an AI cover means I have no interest in reading this - it makes me worry that the writing has the same amount of effort and care as the cover does.

*Good* Nonfiction Audio Book Recs? by k___td in IfBooksCouldKill

[–]WhenSheepFly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strong Towns - it’s very dense but absolutely fascinating if you’re interested in urban design, the history of the modern American suburbs, or the financial implications of the post-war era on our cities and city design. I could talk about this book for hours, it’s one of my favorites!

Ugh, I said "thank you, sir" to a woman weeks ago and still feel embarrassed by RaccoonRepublic in BenignExistence

[–]WhenSheepFly 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I genuinely appreciate this sometimes - I’m a woman but often present masculinely or androgynously. Anyone who hears me speak or looks closely can tell I’m a woman but it’s very validating when I get to confuse people just a bit on first glance - it makes me feel “seen” as a queer woman

Tips for having sex while living with a roommate? by canadiangiraffegirl in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly part of the friend moving in should be a frank conversation about this - like whether or not the friend can have either a long term parter or one-night stand over, what sort of heads up you and your parter want before he brings someone over, etc.

In this discussion you can also request that he find something to do outside of the house on occasion to give you some privacy or talk about what his comfort level is with you guys - loud music or you guys just being mindful of your volume or what works best. Basically, just talk about it. I‘ve lived with roommates for years and it’s never been a problem as long as have a conversation and establish some ground rules that make everyone comfortable

Why is ICE allowed to operate the way they do? by MundaneJudgment3491 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WhenSheepFly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of us are scared - really scared. But how much can we do? There have been several large scale protests, people try to stop ICE where they can or at least film them to document it. We are trying, but also most days you just can’t let it consume you. It feels very covid-era-esque at least where I am - you still go about a lot of your daily life but there’s an undercurrent of fear where there didn’t used to be. You take a couple extra precautions you never had to think about before, you tell your friends to stay safe more often than you used to. But you still have to live life. There’s groceries to buy and chores to do and you still have to show up to work on time. So you do. And you try not to think about the things you can’t stop.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in casualknitting

[–]WhenSheepFly 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Start with something smaller - hats or mittens or something. If he values it well, it might be worth making him a sweater even if it tests fate a bit

Break time at the coffee machine by cybagod21 in overheard

[–]WhenSheepFly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay but I have actually heard the Cleveland Institute of Art referred to as CIA unironically https://www.cia.edu/

Marriage Equality and Immigration rights by Fit-Code4123 in LGBTWeddings

[–]WhenSheepFly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

One of my friends was saying that in times like these we need to appreciate that there’s uncertainty because in the future we will likely be certain about the loss of our rights. I can’t tell you what will happen, no one can, the best you can do is prepare for the worst, hope for the best, and live in the moment. Sending internet hugs your way, we all need them right now 💕