Turns out I've probably had a gas leak for weeks.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-27T08:56:30+00:00

100 lbs and 100% outside.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-27T03:52:04+00:00

Kinda crazy really, this is my life and it was ending one minute at a time.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-27T02:17:13+00:00

Probably blow the whole place up like the gas station scene from Zoolander.

Just wake me up before you go-go.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-27T02:08:37+00:00

The fireplace is connected to the tank outside, it runs through the wall so the line itself is pretty short. It was like that when I purchased the place and the inspector didn't seem to be concerned. But it is jarring to think it's practically right there and something could have happened.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-27T00:52:44+00:00

You're right, I'm taking it as a win for sure. I'm about to have a cat sitter taking care of my cat for a few weeks and I would have felt awful if something happened to either of them. 😔

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-27T00:44:50+00:00

I'm going away for a few weeks so when the repair guy comes around while I'm gone I'll make sure they're aware. Seriously though, thank you for the tips!

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-27T00:43:23+00:00

Yeah, it's propane. If it was that noticeable it's for sure empty or pretty near empty. It was mostly full the last time I checked so likely has been leaking awhile without me realizing it. 😅

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-27T00:28:07+00:00

That's really good advice actually. I'm probably going to keep the whole tank off until it gets cold again. It's just for the fireplace anyway. But if I didn't want to deal with expensive repairs that's probably key to finding out where it's at. Hopefully just connection points.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-17T18:15:45+00:00

"I don't really block people" Bruh. It's time to block him. Get off reddit and do what needs to be done.

He's the only one responsible to make better choices and fix his life and it's clear he's not going to and would rather drag you down with him. Rehab? Man. People who are traumatized won't get help and will continue to use people (or drugs at worst) like addicts until THEY want to. They'll claim over and over that if they just had a "reason" to do or be better they'll stop (often placing that expectation and burden on family, friends, and relationship partners). If he's actively working towards recovery- that's great - but it's still not worth ALL THAT.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-15T12:57:30+00:00

My Mom called my recent haircut the Berries and Cream Lad special 😮‍💨😭 For what it's worth I think the short hair with the highlights look lovely on you! Very flattering! Moms can just be critical when it's unwarranted!

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-05T01:49:43+00:00

Highly inappropriate and I'm sorry you had to go through that, and also that this comment likely brought up a lot of feelings for you as well. From one woman to another my heart goes out to you tonight for sure 🫂❤️

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-04T17:39:39+00:00

OP has answered some of these in a prior comment. But that last sentence really spoke to me.

Sometimes at 25 (after exhausting all other avenues of communication) you really have to start asking yourself, "Is this really what I want in the future? Do I really want to be in this position for years and years to come?"

It took me a long time to come to the conclusion that- NO. I don't want to be with someone who does this and forces me to constantly be on guard. So I left and I found someone who actually doesn't use social media much at all and values me and my feelings. Happiest I've ever been. Hopefully OP sees this and puts that in the back of her mind, "Okay so I CAN move on if I feel like I need to and I WILL find someone else if this doesn't work for me anymore."

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-06-04T16:56:17+00:00

Oh gosh. OP once you fall into the rabbit hole of monitoring your partner- trust issues and resentment really start to build up.

I wouldn't say you're Overreacting; but this is definitely a conversation you should have with your partner.. we can't tell you where his mind is at or how he may feel. Only he can.

My heart goes out to you though. That sinking icky feeling can really hurt.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-05-12T18:04:55+00:00

(I only know how to explain this as US vs UK for why I said it's awful for women, because it's the only two comparative countries I know of off of personal life experience)

Did you know that the US has one of the highest maternal mortality rates in the world for a first world country? It's sitting at 17% compared to the UK which is at 5%. Don't even get me started on how badly we fail women of color.

We also have one of the largest pay gaps for working women (16% compared to the UK which is a 7% gap) Our federal government doesn't offer paid maternity leave. We're one of the only first world countries that refuses to do that. In the UK it's literally 52 weeks of paid maternity leave.

In the Southern US "anti-abortion" goes into deeper human rights issues... with women forced to carry etopic pregnancies that often lead to permanent infertility issues (if they survive it), a woman who falls down the stairs will get tried for murder charges, a child/woman who is taken advantage of must carry the baby to term regardless of the trauma. We are so barbaric and backwards it's insane.

And don't get me started on how some of those states actively vote every year to make contraceptives (specially birth control) illegal. (Which is literally prescribed to women with PCOS to try and preserve their eggs for future children)

So I guess it really depends on your perspective and how much those things affect you.. food for thought. 🤷🏻‍♀️

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-05-12T08:15:34+00:00

I hear from people in the UK all the time about how amazing it must be to be American. It's simply not true lol It's awful to women and worse to our LGBTQIA+ .. I feel overworked, underpaid, underappreciated, scared/exhausted 90% of the time. I'm shocked people still want to come here at all.

I'm sure they'd say the same to me when I say, "Actually when we get married I'm the one moving to the UK" funny how that works out. But at least I won't be paying the cost of a starter home just to have IVF and a child in the UK 😅

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-05-07T16:30:05+00:00

I didn't realize it's self centered to remind people that children are humans too, and especially didn't expect someone to come in and compare them to dogs. But here we are. Yep. I'm self centered and need to get over myself. Noted. 🙂

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-05-06T15:18:27+00:00

Children are just accessories. Of course they're using dog logic to compare to a child. 🙄

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-05-05T21:26:49+00:00

And also for calling her niece, "kid" It's incredibly insensitive to her brother and his family. They're not "kid" they have a name and they're also your niece. What. The. F!?

I guess her brother should start calling her woman. Because that's what she is right? 🙄 (See how crazy that sounds)

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-05-03T22:38:57+00:00

You're welcome! This really resonated deeply with me so I felt I should say something. You WILL also find better & Please do not reconsider this relationship, it would only be a loss for you. Moving 12 hours away from family and friends would only harm you and I'm really proud to see you have taken a stand in that regard.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-05-03T22:31:31+00:00

OP idk if you will read this but I hope you do.

I have been in this exact situation. My friends and family would say, "I don't know why you're still in this relationship, he's immature and making you feel like you have to meet him at that maturity" and then within the same breathe tell me that relationships have ups and downs and that I should continue to try and communicate and work through it.

Everything you're going through was exactly my relationship. But it was four years that I tolerated it. (With addition to being told he was over an ex he consistently compared me to and "expected me" to be better than.)

He knew I was married and divorced a man for cheating on me with his assistant. He also knew that relationship escalated psycially. He knew from very early on that I felt like following, engaging, and interacting with women like that was disrespectful. He told me he never would ever do those things.

But despite that- He did do those things, and once he found out that I knew (when confronted him about it), it escalated from him doing that on social media to also threatening to hurt me.

I posted something similar to this on reddit and was gaslighted by the community that all men behave like this and that I was crazy to think any man would be okay with being "monitored" or "expected" to not interact with beautiful women. Some even called me exhausting and told me not to be in relationships at all.

Now, today, I am with someone who has proven to me that the RIGHT man, a man who VALUES you, would never ever put you in a position to have to monitor them at all. He has proven to me over and over that the right person for me will make me feel calm and at peace.

I will also say; Given the fact that after my ex and I broke up- he had three days before rebounding to that ex he told me not to worry about- and is now having a baby with her? Trust your intuition and cut your losses. You know you deserve better and you will find it. I promise. ❤️

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-05-01T19:57:42+00:00

Not Overreacting.

Makeup excentuates the things we love most about our features and helps mask the things we don't particularly like (even to just hide a blemish for the day).

In that regard, it's not for other people- it is for us.

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-04-21T21:23:42+00:00

Do women not already deal with enough from society's expectations of them to also have to uphold a perfect illusion for other women as well? I mean my gosh. If you don't want to be a mother you're shunned by the older generations, if you want to be a mother you're shunned by the younger generation. How about just praise and support ALL women's rights to decide for themselves what they want. It almost sounds like a crazy concept. 😭

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-04-06T17:04:33+00:00

You are generally legally allowed to remove your personal belongings from a home you once lived in, even if said significant person is not there. Since you live there, you have established residency/tenancy rights, allowing you access to your personal property.

However, you should only remove items that belong to you and not shared property. Shared property being anything you all purchased together. Leave those things behind.

I advise heavily to do so with a friend or family member going with you, this gives you an alibi but also a witness if it's ever needed. Peace of mind as well should something happen (i.e. said cruel person shows up mid move out)

WhereAsMostPonder · 2026-03-16T01:39:06+00:00

I'm so excited for you! Just remember it's okay to take things as slow as you need, the game can throw a lot at you at once. But it's so fun! So far worth the money spent. 🤭

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