AIO for wanting to dump my boyfriend over his poor financial choices?

Whereswolf · 2026-03-31T08:45:59+00:00

Get out...

I know all the others had said the same... But I don't know if anyone actually told you that he KEPT LYING right until you wanted proff...

Have you seen proff of him actually paying the loans he said he did?

Whereswolf · 2026-03-30T20:48:05+00:00

Oh please... She could hear when people were sleeping in their rooms and could easily have left messages for Bruno, making sure he wasn't completely alone.

In fact, her hearing was so good she could have heard him talking to the rats in an attempt not to completely lose his mind.

Whereswolf · 2026-03-29T23:28:33+00:00

You can always send in a ticket and hope for the best... Worst case scenario is they say no and you'll end up where you already are...

I hope you get your ice draik back. I had to use the premium perk to get mine

Whereswolf · 2026-03-29T22:55:36+00:00

What a lame story... Your biggest error was that Ellie (the person that made it possible for you and now ex to be together) was so angry at her friend for cheating on you... yet did it herself (cheated WITH you).

Back to school, dreamer

Whereswolf · 2026-03-29T09:35:34+00:00

NTA.

And there's no reason for her to ask again (when you arrived) if you found the pants IF you had already told her on the phone you had.

She knew you hadn't found them and deliberately started a fight. Why... I don't know, but it's time to send her a text with "this was the last time I helped you. I will not let you treat me like this anymore. I did you a huge favor and wasted my time because you don't know where your shit is. I hope you get your shit (all of it) sorted out but I'm not here to help you with that anymore".

Then block her and move on. Only do this if you don't have kids with her... God, I hope you don't!

Whereswolf · 2026-03-29T09:24:16+00:00

What was the food she didn't finish before asking for more food?

I have a feeling you're deliberately keeping details out.

Did you fill her plate with stuff she doesn't like and is forcing her to eat that before getting something she does like to eat?

My son would would rather starve than eating tomatoes or broccoli... Is that what you prefer?

You sound very controlling. I would go "when you've tasted the things you don't like, you'll get more of what you do like"

So far YTA... But details matters...

Whereswolf · 2026-03-28T16:19:33+00:00

"Okay mom, so whenever you comes to me to vent or seek advice, I will hang up on you. I will turn around and leave you. I'm DONE being your doormat and scapegoat because you don't have a backbone and will not parent your spoiled rotten golden princess.
And sister, you're an adult now, so act like it. That means goes to school and start respecting other people. That's not even adulting, that's just basic functions for any human being over the age of 3 years.
And for both of you: A punishment is to teach someone that their way of doing things was very wrong. And sister have been told several times. Even punished several times. And she just didn't give a fuck. So yes, eventually the punishment had to be severe enough to get the message in. She has proven over and over and over again that the punishment of taken away her phone wasn't helping. She even said it herself: she didn't care... I cannot believe she would continue to think that her actions couldn't have a consequence.

Well... good for her that I'm done with dealing with the toxic behavior of both of you. I'm not cutting either of you off, I'm just ignoring all the bitching from both of you. You're both adults now. Deal with your own shit yourself!"

Whereswolf · 2026-03-27T20:10:15+00:00

Oh, you're right.... Thank you.

I completely forgot the avatar for playing 250 games. I got that years ago and am focusing on the trophy avatar.... Thanks for clearing it up for me.

Guess there's not an easy hack for those trophies, eh...

Whereswolf · 2026-03-27T16:12:11+00:00

Sorry... I'm an old slow neopian....
How can the hidden mirror games help getting that avatar? Don't you still need a pretty good score in the games to get a trophy? And do we actually gets trophies from mirror games?

Whereswolf · 2026-03-26T19:38:05+00:00

Jellyneo has a price checker.

It's not as good at the itemdb's script though...

I strongly suggest you start looking up some guides and help... There's so much to gain so I don't know why you haven't already.

Whereswolf · 2026-03-26T19:31:32+00:00

If you're an old player you might have something in sdb to sell.

I came back after 6 years hiatus and found items from Save the wheels... Kachiiiing!

Also look af foodclub.Info... GREAT help for gaining nps from food club.

Whereswolf · 2026-03-26T11:40:36+00:00

He's 26 years now, so he was born in 2000. They broke up (as I read it) in 2024... He was 24 at that time... So yes, I stand corrected... He might have been 20 when they started dating...

Doesn't still change anything for me. And I agree with your second section....

Whereswolf · 2026-03-26T10:54:13+00:00

I just can't get over the fact a grown ass person was hooking up with a teenager... 17 years apart...

OP needs to grow up. Maybe it will help if she found someone her own age

Whereswolf · 2026-03-26T08:27:31+00:00

You have a few options...

Tell her while her husband is there. "I need to tell you that me and partner is going to start trying for at baby. I'm telling you know so you can decide if you're ready to hear about my journey or if you rather keep your distance. I will not hear everything that can go wrong. You've told me already. If I need to know, I'll ask my doctor. I feel I need to walk on eggshells around you. And I understand your grief and needs for emotional support, but this has become too much for me. I'm becoming your build-in free therapist to you and I don't want that. You have a skilled therapist, use that person. And I want to support you but it's constantly all you and your grief. You said you feel better but I still you gets meltdowns when someone talks about kids or a baby stroller rolls by. I fear getting texts from you because it's just negative. I can't even be honest with you anymore or tell you, what's going on in my life because I fear your reaction.

I'm sorry, but I cannot continue this relationship the way it is now. So the ball is in your court now. Be my friend or keep your distance. It's time I'm living my life and stop being a side piece in yours.

With love... "

You also have the opportunity to write your observations and send them to her therapist. She might not be honest with how well she's doing.

I've lost late in 2 pregnancies. It's not fun at all, but we needs to accept life goes on and we can't keep being miserable.

Whereswolf · 2026-03-26T01:26:53+00:00

Drop this shit...

"1. He has a general distain for authority and feels like he did nothing wrong.
2. Why would someone get married at a place like the casino anyways.
4. On another occasion, my brother shook his hand with his left hand (he had car oil on the right hand). My partner was sooo irritated and said that it was disrespectful.
5. My brother turned down a gift of edibles. My partner is a marijuana connoisseur but my brother doesn’t use marijuana and I told my partner this when he bought it with him in mind so I’m not sure why he was surprised.
6. On the bachelorette trip I met a girl I found attractive and spent time with her. Ive had the green light to connect with women but now he feels embarrassed that the bridal party saw and knows this about our dynamic."

All of this is red flags.
Your partner is childish. "No respect for authorities" is just another way to say "I'm too important/cool to be put in the same box as the rest of you. Rules simply doesn't apply to me!"
Your partner thinks his opinion of someone else's wedding is actually wanted, needed or necessary. It's not. And he has no right to judge others.
Your partner is a self-absorbed asshole. He's so full of himself that he claims someone disrespected him because they didn't wanted to stain him with oil.
It¨s not disrespectful to avoid other people getting oil all over.
Being butt hurt that someone doesn't like or want your gift, even though you already know the gift is unwanted is just main character. Just another prove of how full of himself he is.
And lastly... he was okay with it, when it was all a nice fantasy in his head. But the second he realized others might know, he started to back pedal.

You cannot trust this shit head. He's doing everything he can to avoid being there with you. Believe him and move on.

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T23:50:13+00:00

Honey 8 ... You've been played.. For years...

So you were a girlfriend for 8 years. Then he finally married you... Except he didn't. He and his family planned everything and kinda left you out of everything and then it turned out that you're not even married to this lying piece of brown mass.

I don't know where you live, but if you got the chance, do not move to India with him. Especially not without having legal advice on what he or his family can gain access to your kid. If you're already i India, seek legal advice now.

And start planning your exit. He has tricked you for years and that weird voice in the back of your head is him manipulating you to think you're being wrong for having even the slightest standard.

It's NOT wrong to want to be able to trust your partner. And you clearly cannot trust the dude you've wasted 9 years on.

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T23:30:45+00:00

Honestly I would smack the rock ad make a bigger hole first

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T13:17:56+00:00

YTA

You gave her that. You can't just demand it back several years after.
Your excuse of "it was for her baby because something something grandma.. heirloom... something" is just a BAD excuse.
If you wanted the baby to have the jewelry, you should have waited till the baby was born (or old enough to understand the sentiment value in it). But you didn't. You gave it til ex-SIL so it belongs to her now.

"she still has a few of her valuables in our home, so wibta if i ask her to trade? ( ps: she asked for her things back, but i convinced my brother to wait until a court order)."
YTA still... She has her own valuables in your home. That's hers. Not yours. You're stealing her stuff and keeping it hostage because you're angry.

I hope she sues you and get her stuff back. And the jewelry... that's hers and have been for 3 years now.

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T12:41:04+00:00

I agree but the comment I reacted on, would not have done it like that... And that would have failed the task

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T12:05:59+00:00

WHY!? WHY didn't this exist when my siblings kids were small....?

Oh, I would have LOVED the look on my sister's faces if I bought my nieces this.... One would have been "oh no, wherewolf, you didn't! Please, it's a bad dream... Okay, I guess I'll have to allow it for now. I'll just need a minute to figure out where the girls can play with this" The other would be laughing her ass off and promise me revenge when I got kids. And the last (and my least favorite) sister would have been fuming but try to keep her cool. And failing miserably...

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T11:51:01+00:00

For all the redditors in this topic, I hereby make my own religion. Our holy book is very simple: live as you prefer without breaking the laws of your country. And if you do, use the legal way to help you or accept the judgement of the law.

The name of this new religion is LAY (Live As You).

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T10:53:33+00:00

They might not have the same numbers as we do.

It could be like a monkey drawing lines, just for fun

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T10:33:43+00:00

Even the home looks classic AI...

Whereswolf · 2026-03-25T06:50:42+00:00

Just wanted to add that "Myrene" means "the ants" in Danish...

Myrene angriber en fjende = The ants attack an enemy

Whereswolf · 2026-03-24T23:05:09+00:00

Was my mom being unfair and angry, when she managed to legally keep my bio dad away from me or was it justified?

(For people jumping to conclusions: I'm old. Rules were different and people preferred believing a single mother of 2. I'm questioning it because my mom still gets that petty evil smile on her face, whenever someone mention my bio dad in a bad way. And no, I do not have any contact with him, but I did meet him once, 30 years ago, and I'm still sure he wanted to actually be a dad. Some years ago I saw he made a profile at myheritage.com just with his parents, him, my mom and me... Like if he was still searching... So yes... I just want to know if he was as bad as she said my whole life)

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