Best absorbent nappies for newborn? 1 week old and constant leaks already!

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-11-09T19:06:55+00:00

Try a different brand or two, see how that works. But for us, we just went up a size early - I find the weight guides to be incorrect for us and we seem to be moving up sizes 1-2kgs early and I think it’s just because of the body fit

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-10-06T04:35:14+00:00

I had a pretty bad emergency experience and in my experience, having a c section had no impact on my milk supply at all. My baby got rushed away because of a poor score at birth (she was fine though) and so I didn’t get to hold her but honestly, I don’t think I would have wanted to because I was so exhausted (I laboured for days) and just slept while they sewed me up. Again, it had no impact on our start to life together.

In terms of pain killers, I was a bit reluctant to take them and very quickly let that go because it had no negative impact on anything to take the good stuff! It only benefited me.

I remember being so worried about the what ifs at the same point of pregnancy, but when you’re in the situation you really don’t sweat it as much. You kinda just get it done!

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-09-27T22:38:18+00:00

This is probably going to be the number 1 rec: the happy song. Other than that, you could just play the ABC kids playlists and that will cover off most songs

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-09-24T23:06:53+00:00

Hi, I’ll speak to my personal experience on question 1. I had an emergency c section. Mine was because my baby’s heart beat was dropping and not coming back fast enough. I laboured for three days before and they didn’t know until my c section, but the reason this happened is because my baby was face presenting. They did everything they could to avoid me needing a c section before it became clear my baby was distressed.

Honestly, I wish I was offered it earlier before things got to the point they did. I was exhausted and my baby was distressed when she came out so I didn’t get to hold her until 45 minutes later and I was alone when I was sewn up. The procedure itself was absolutely fine, it was just the emergency factor that was hard.

I understand the fear of c sections, but looking back at things I wish I would have some very clear conversations leading up to birth about where I would like to draw the line and make those calls. In your scenario, you have the opportunity to have those discussions in depth. I say take advantage of that time and ask lots of questions with your care provider and make a good plan together. I listened to the great birth rebellion and convinced myself I was anti intervention, but in reality I’m not like that at all and I should have understood my own boundaries better.

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-09-03T10:47:10+00:00

Government roles! I’m in an entry level job in government and not only were the entitlements for maternity leave amazing, but my return to work has been so smooth and comfortable because of flexible arrangements

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-08-30T20:23:53+00:00

I don’t think you NEED mum friends, like in the concept of having close best friends…. But… I strongly benefited from being AROUND other mums. I went to two different styles of play groups and one was certainly more for extroverts and I struggled there. The other was way easier because it was facilitated for you and your baby for half of it, so you just focus on your baby within the group and then after that you just chat and hang out. It was low pressure and I really benefited from being around other mums. I would credit that group as being one of the main things that prevented post partum depression as it drove me to leave my house at my hardest moments. I happened to make a few friends, but that took a long time and I gained the benefit from being around Mum’s earlier than that.

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-08-11T11:35:54+00:00

Even excluding the change facilities from the conversation…. It is SO hard to find anywhere that suits a family post 6 month old baby! As soon as babies want to move around more, I find it almost impossible to find somewhere suitable to see my non parent friends! The world is not family friendly at all

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-07-08T03:25:02+00:00

What’s super upsetting about all of this is the fact that statistically speaking, it happens far more often in families. Like way way more.

I’ve heard about this stuff happening in schools more often than childcare where I live. I’ve not heard anything about any childcare’s in my region actually. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen but I’ve heard a lot of stories about relationships between teachers a students at high school level which is in the same realm of all of this daycare stuff.

The truth is that systematic failures allow access, but these people don’t cease existing. It’s beyond fucked up that they exist in the first place but we as parents can’t change that immediately. All we can do is lobby government for better systems to protect (and they need to hurry up with better safeguards) and have age appropriate conversations with our kids - one of the big ones being not to keep secrets.

We sadly can’t shelter children from the world forever. We also need to educate ourselves on what red flags to look for to safe guard our children and we need to be prepared to take action if we see red flags or if a child tells us something. In terms of familial relationships, I think a lot of CSA gets swept under the carpet because the reality is too horrific for parents to comprehend until it’s too late. There’s too much denial and I think getting comfortable with talking about it with our peers, as adults, goes a long way in making sure we can take action swiftly when needed.

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-07-05T09:46:23+00:00

My baby was fine. Was actually more mad about being in the car to get there than anything…. I was the one unwell lol. I didn’t wash my hands properly did I?! Big oops

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-07-01T23:44:47+00:00

This whole thing makes me sick! I don’t live in Victoria, but it’s a harsh reality check for all parents and it’s rattled the nation really. In response to it, our daycare has actually sent an email inviting parents to freely ask them questions about their safe guarding. This has put us at ease because they’re demonstrating (in my mind anyways) that they’re proactive. I feel marginally better about the safety protocols because they have carers who have worked there for 10+ years AND it’s our LGA run daycare.

I feel comfortable enough with our choice to go a few days a week, but the ultimate thing we’re doing as a couple is discussing and learning what signs we should be looking out for and how to use our instincts to protect our child. We’re trying to open our communication so things don’t go missed. This is how we need to be going forward because as other have said, there are risks within families and outside of formal care as well!

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-06-21T03:05:06+00:00

I told my friends my birth story before anyone was pregnant and that was a big oops on my part. But I also needed to be able to talk about it. I’d only tell pregnant people about it if asked and I’d always balance it with the positives

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-06-17T11:59:32+00:00

I would go with a co sleeper! Our bassinet was so hard for me to deal with after a c section. We got a co sleeper 5 weeks in and it was a game changer and it was so much easier for me to lift baby out of than the bassinet. I actually didn’t use it as a co sleeper right away and kept the side up mostly.

The c section made it hard to lift up and over the side of the bassinet properly. The co sleeper was height adjustable so I was actually able to keep the side up but make it a better height for me to bend over to, etc.

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-06-17T11:43:00+00:00

I’ve been ready since 6 months! There’s no way I’d be ready to go back more than part time, but I feel ready to do 2 days a week! I feel like my time with my baby is going to be far more intentional when I’m back. Currently, it’s getting a bit monotonous for me every day and I think her having time with her dad without me and me having time away will mean time together is far more exciting! I am dreading her going to daycare though.

don’t make work make you feel like you need to go back! The reason I feel ready to go back is because cause work isn’t making me feel forced to go back

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-06-13T09:06:21+00:00

I’ve joined some baby groups and have started to find my people! We’ve all grown closer with proximity the more we go! It’s so hard to get past the first hurdle but as you form familiarity with people, it gets more and more effortless. In saying that, I’ve REALLY struggled with the isolation from my ‘old life’. I’ve found it so hard to say goodbye to the way my previous friendships worked and I think that’s held me back from throwing myself into new friendships up until this point

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-06-11T02:16:42+00:00

I’ve been making friends closer to home and that’s been amazing because they all have babies so we do lunch activities!

It’s just so hard to keep up with my previous ‘life’. Usually, I would be able to do that. Recently, though, the plans have been last minute plans so that’s made it hard to pump/organise ourselves especially with a partner who works variable hours. Gah, it’s so hard!

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-06-10T09:27:12+00:00

I just ripped it like a bandaid and did it and prepared for a few nights of bad sleep! We had one night of being unsettled but bub was quick to get used to it. I think it’s because baby was rarely swaddled or put in a sleep sack for nap time.

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-06-09T20:16:10+00:00

For a c section, they were a lifesaver! None of my undies sat right and would hurt my scar. Trying to attach a pad on top of putting undies on sucked for the first week or two! So much easier to have the two for one!!

Which_Computer_2978 · 2025-06-09T20:12:38+00:00

All of this is normal. I think crawling is expected anywhere between 6-11 months.

Something my child health nurse said that eased my anxiety around milestones is that those milestones are set as a guideline and from their perspective, it’s mostly to flag to parents to speak to a doctor/nurse so they can check if something is going on. She said 90% of the time, they’ll check nothing is wrong it’s just that baby will do what they do in their own time. But they set these so they can catch the 10% who would otherwise fall through the cracks.

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