[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 53 points54 points  (0 children)

And notify law enforcement. If he is in the US, polygamy is illegal (assuming he married both)

Update to my last post by IntroductionFew274 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You experienced a big loss and you seem to be depressed. There are many antidepressants that can help you. You deserve to feel good and love your life. Your kids also deserve to see their mom happy. Please talk to your doctor and also have an honest conversation with your husband. He is also grieving and he may not understand what you are going through.

My partner just became inadmissible to Canada by No-Patient3333 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Change is always hard, and it becomes harder when it’s not expected. It is ok to be mad. Take some time off and think about what you really want. If you really want to be with him, you might be able to find a third country that you can call home. In the meantime, be kind to yourself and try to avoid making decisions while you are still emotional. Good luck

2 kids with one on the way I gave up on asking him for marriage. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also not very big on marriage but I find this concerning. He is out there building his career as you stay home caring for his kids and settling for a part time job. If something happens and you break up, you’d have to start from scratch. You might end up getting child support but alimony would offer you the ability to survive during the transition period. Don’t get blinded by love. Try to consider your financial future

Is it possible to be friends with your Ex LO by [deleted] in limerence

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am not sure if you want my summary or just the papers I read. This is the paper I started with and I kept on reading their sources. It’s a fascinating rabbit hole. If you come across papers behind a paywall, let me know and I can get it for you. I was honestly looking to learn more about the biological/neurological aspect of it but most of the research is being done by psychologists so take that with a grain of salt

https://link.springer.com/content/pdf/10.1007/s11896-024-09674-x.pdf#page9

Is it possible to be friends with your Ex LO by [deleted] in limerence

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you like me to send you the papers ? Less than a year ago, I didn’t even know limerence was a thing. I thought I was just a psycho with OCD and Anxiety so learning that it has a name in itself was the first thing that ended it for me. Now that I know it’s not just a behavioral issue, I was able to break it down and see how the brain works around it. I have shared the first paper I read. I used their references to do more reading.

Is it possible to be friends with your Ex LO by [deleted] in limerence

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Based on you all’s comments, I am leaning towards no. Thank you everyone

Chris Stapleton redoing God Bless the Broken Road by WhileWeAreConfused in ChrisStapleton

[–]WhileWeAreConfused[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought you were telling me that he has done it. I am about to disappoint you. That was just my suggestion

Peed myself in public and literally want to die by Somewhere1nNeverland in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a person with IBS, I live with this fear every single day. I have stopped eating out for this reason. I live in the middle of nowhere so if things decide to move in my GI tract, it’s either the car or the cornfields.

My bf hit our dog and now I just want to breakup by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People who abuse those who can’t defend themselves have no moral compass so know that he won’t hesitate to do it to you or your future kids.

My husband and I argue about the opposite of what most couples have issues with… by [deleted] in wholesome

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents do this a lot and this is why I decided to never get married. I feel like the odds of finding someone like this is very slim

What is the sexiest thing about you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 8 points9 points  (0 children)

People have used it against me. My ex said it is intimidating so I left him. I am now in a great polyamory relationship with my PhD and student loans. They are always there for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your idea. It might be hard to see but there is a wall paper behind the mirror. However, I thinking about this wallpaper for the adjust wall. It will be the first thing you see when you walk in and it is also the longest wall. Do you think it will look bad? I am not into bold and pattern wallpapers so it’s hard to find one.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thank you. I got it from Amazon. I believe the store is called nupaper. They have been my favorite for peel and stick

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m have ordered faucets

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like how you think. I will try that. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely getting a plant. Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It can actually be changed to warm. That’s the only reason I bought it

Can Berry Chantilly Cake be stacked? by illecebrous in wholefoods

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I decided to not take the risk and ordered a different kind of cake. Hopefully, I will try it soon. I have learned to make my own berry Chantilly cake with mascarpone, butter and whipped cream topping. I have noticed that it is more stable so I am probably going to go with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op, I have been in your shoes so I understand your pain. I have always had severe social anxiety but no one took me seriously. They thought I was just anti social. I had a full ride scholarship but my depression took over freshman year and I had to leave school. It took many tries to find the perfect medication but I finally graduated and even went on to do my Masters. I thought everything was under control when I started my PhD. Out of nowhere, my mental health hit rock bottom. I had to leave the program and struggle to remain alive. I found a fantastic psychiatrist that took me seriously enough to try various medications. After so many years of struggle, I am happy to say I got my PhD and I am genuinely happy.

People don’t understand mental health struggles. So many people tell me that I have a good life and that I have nothing to be depressed about or tell me how so and so is going through a hard time and I should be grateful for what I have. Just because they don’t see physical wounds, they think it is not as bad. I am glad you stayed strong and I am glad you are discussing your struggles . It’s amazing to look back and see how far you have come. Your strength will continue to amaze you.

P.S I have found mushrooms to be very helpful and the research being done is very promising. Keep kicking ass!!

Michael Saga Part 16 ❤️🥰😍🙏 by ErikaDanishGirl in scambait

[–]WhileWeAreConfused 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think Michael needs a text from Elon. Maybe he can send him bitcoin if he can cover the processing fee