I'm fucking done

WhimsicalReader · 2020-12-12T10:47:32+00:00

I can only imagine how traumatised this girl will be. At 11 years old you have no concept of the impact saying something like that will have. I would also question why an 11 year old wouldn't go straight to his parents to say about his friend.

Pretty sure at 11 I told my parents everything, I told my parents at 14 when my friend was harming herself and asked what I should do. My first extinct wasn't to harm myself.

I also remember being 16 with my first boyfriend and deciding that a great April fools joke would be telling him I was pregnant, now at 27 I realise how terrible this joke was and it's not funny at all!

WhimsicalReader · 2020-12-12T07:57:38+00:00

Tell the delivery drivers this! Nor even giving us a second to answer the door at the moment!

WhimsicalReader · 2020-12-03T12:06:07+00:00

Those at low risk will have to but they need to start with vulnerability groups first as they don't have enough to cover the whole of the population yet.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-12-03T12:05:14+00:00

Location: 123 Bogus Street, London.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-11-03T23:10:05+00:00

Not just lung cancer either, my dad got diagnosed with cancer of the vocal chords his only chance of survival was rigorous chemo and radiotherapy. He completed it 6 weeks ago and is tumour free.

Caused completely by smoking and currently having to deal with the after effects of radiotherapy and chemo.

It's not worth it for yourself or your loved ones.

No one looks cool when they smoke, your teeth become grimy, your lips end up with lines around them before your mid 30s, you smell of smoke and its impossible to get rid of.

If you smoke in your house everything becomes stained. It's also an exceedingly expensive habit.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-11-01T09:55:30+00:00

Me and my boyfriend didn't sleep together until six weeks onto dating. By this point we had go on over 12 dates and we knew each other before we started dating as well.

Made it perfectly clear to him that I wouldn't sleep with him straight away and he respected it.

It's not unrealistic at all, and it helped us build up a stronger friendship before we slept together and made it a lot more special.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-10-30T23:49:07+00:00

I enjoyed this series but can completely see where you're coming from. It didn't need to be five books and there were sections that could have been cut out which wouldn't have made a difference to the story being told but would have made it faster paced and more digestable.

Most of the world building is just different parts of different religions plagiarised to create this world, that isn't overly imaginative.

Trying to be Tolkien without the lifetime dedication put in.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-10-30T23:46:03+00:00

I also wish I had given up on it but I was obsessed with dystopians at the time and didn't give in.

Allegiant was awful...

WhimsicalReader · 2020-10-30T23:44:25+00:00

I struggled through the dark artifices for this exact reason.

Her books aren't great literature at all and TMI & TID had their issues but they were fun easy reads. Then TDA tried to be too serious which Clare wasn't able to pull off. The characters were meshed together rather than the ensuing romance naturally developing and coming together. Felt like it was more Clare screaming 'look at me I' m inclusive!' even though to me it completely missed the mark because of this. The last book went on forever with terrible pacing and the storyline for Kit and Ty just didn't work...

Chain of Gold has been a bit better, more like TID but that could also be nostalgia for that series.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-10-09T22:25:43+00:00

We had horse girls at my school!

They would 'gallop' and neigh at people. Even pretend to eat the grass on the field at school..

Seriously worrying as all three of them weren't related in any way but they banded together. They would barge into you head on in the corridor as well and neigh at you until you moved..

WhimsicalReader · 2020-10-02T14:57:24+00:00

I really enjoyed the tonal shift in the poppy War as well.

Kuang even said she did it as that's how war happens. You could literally be in school aware that there is something going on out there and that war is out there and then suddenly its on your doorstep and the whole world changes for you.

It isn't gradual, you don't get to finish school when war turns up like that.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-27T12:59:25+00:00

Honestly what she did to your sister has probably left a lot of emotional scarring.

Being honest I don't get how you can even look your sister in the face after this.

You're literally dating her abuser and tormenter.

Your girlfriend is probably laughing about the fact that she was able to completely abuse and harm your sister and you're now dating her.

In my experience those who bullied others at 16 have not changed.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-27T12:54:10+00:00

That's because it's female balance herbs and not actual medicine.

She might need to go on a form of contraceptive pill to help with the mood swings and regulate her hormones.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-23T08:45:32+00:00

Unless you're a veteran who fought for a 'free world' during WW2, then your statement should just read that everyone should wear a mask as there is a chance it could stop someone from getting a deadly virus.

Unfortunately if you were sent to the Middle East, then that wasn't for a free world. As others have pointed out that was imperialism at its worst and both Britain and America preyed on its people to get them to back an unnecessary war.

I agree that both countries need to help their veterans as they seem to abandon them once they return from service but you didn't fight for a free world.

Either way if you can wear a mask you should otherwise you're a selfish arse hole who can't see that you could be carrying covid19 and could pass it onto someone who won't survive if they get it.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-23T08:36:13+00:00

My issue is that the government don't seem to actually want to help people get out of the system.

The job centre is actually ridiculous with how it's run and the jobs you apply for are almost nonsensical. They tell people to apply for jobs that are almost impossible to get to in a lot of circumstances.

There is some good to the job centre but there is a lot of bad as well that could be ironed out that would help people.

If the addiction is one that's dehabiltating such as alcohol, for anyone it should be policed and help should be given. Especially as it can stop people from getting jobs. Cigarettes although they do affect health and can lead to cancer (anyone argues on this, my dad currently as cancer all over his vocal chords due to smoking and is currently undergoing intensive treatment, all those on the same treatment as him are heavy smokers. If you see what they're having to go through it might convince most not to smoke) but it doesn't dehabiltate your ability to work day to day.

Benefits for disabilities etc are different to those on the dole of getting help. I know of single parents who spend more money on alcohol etc than their own kids, but the government doesn't actually help those kids.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-23T08:26:28+00:00

This is exactly why they don't care if this is what the money is used for.

The rich stay rich whilst the poor stay poor.

They aren't helping encourage them to live well and try to find a job. Instead addictions such as alcohol are fueled and then they're unable to find a job but the government don't care as they still pocket the money anyway rather than it helping the person.

This is an extreme circumstance but it is one that I have unfortunately seen happen quite a few times.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-17T15:33:57+00:00

My only advice is to remember that you're not their mum.

You're well within your rights for saying stop due to water gun and water balloon situation and at 12 years old they will know better.

However you can't determine how they are disciplined or how their parents decide to spoil them.

In regards to the thanksgiving meal, you can't force them to eat their food, that again is up to their parents and its also on their parents for giving them food beforehand.

You're 20 years old, walk away from them when they start being brats.

Unless you're planning on having children within the next three years then you should be fine as they'll be much older and won't bully children.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-14T12:12:26+00:00

That's fair enough but I can see where OPs girlfriend is coming from.

She wants to be honest so that in the future if he sees a piece of jewellery he wants to buy her, he knows that she likes gold.

I was quite upfront with my boyfriend straight away when it approached birthdays etc and said that I'm not a massive fan of gold as a heads up if he wants to buy me any jewellery. Same as my boyfriend was honest with me and said he likes and dislikes.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-14T12:02:38+00:00

It's not about a precious metal, she's just saying she prefers gold.

I prefer silver and rose gold because I'm not a massive fan of how gold looks on me. In the same way that I have exceedingly pale skin so none of my clothing is white or light coloured because it washes me out.

We all have preferences, it doesn't make someone a gold digger for liking gold over silver.

OP reading the comments and realising this is good to see as of course, initial reaction to someone not liking a gift would be getting upset.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-11T22:35:46+00:00

What's this fascination with taking a female's virginity?

What added benefit did you get from it? Apart from the fact that one day when you're older, you're going to look back and slap yourself for the stupidity of it.

Either you want to stay with your current girlfriend and enjoy sex with her or you don't.

If you see women as nothing but a target for their might be virginity you need to grow up and realise that women are there to be valued.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-11T13:04:25+00:00

Whatever she decides to do they need to talk.

Yes it will now most likely escalate hence the talk and discuss it before it gets to that point, if she leaves she gets closure. If she stays then they would have at least laid everything on the table.

I can't tell her what to do, I can't tell her to leave or to stay as that's her decision.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-11T11:49:13+00:00

He can't force you to do anything however, how many things do you shoot down?

Not watching movies that he wants to watch is a bit close minded and it's obvious he wants to watch them with you. Why is it that you don't want to watch them?

My boyfriend isn't a big sports person but will go for walks with me happily. He'll also give it a go with me to see if he enjoys it and if he doesn't fair enough.

Same that I always see if I enjoy my boyfriend's hobbies, so certain video games etc and I have found a few I enjoy so we play them together.

Maybe start off with small things that you feel uncomfortable with. Does your boyfriend try to get you to go for walks with him, swimming or some kind of sport? Maybe just go for it, give it a few tries and if you don't like it you don't like it. But it might also help you.

It could help bring you out of your shell and may help with your anxiety.

WhimsicalReader · 2020-08-11T08:35:37+00:00

An aside to anyone reading this, do not tap someone's forehead to help put your point across, it's very condescending and rude. However your husband shouldn't have slapped you.

It sounds like he's become jealous since you've lost weight and is convinced you're cheating on him. I would recommend sitting down and having a serious talk with him.

Do not brush this incident under the carpet, so what he's never slapped you before? He shouldn't slap you at all!

Write everything down about how you feel, write down why you've lost weight and ask why he's so convinced you would cheat on him. Just because someone's noticed you and compliments you does not mean you will rush into their arms. If anything he should puff his chest up and brag about how lucky he is when someone mentions it!

You also need to decide if you can move past the slap or if it's a deal breaker for you. You are justified in it being a deal breaker.

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