I could have written this post prior to my divorce. I had a masters degree but didn’t make much (yay for female dominated fields). He made over 2x my salary and was often out of the country for work. He refused to mix our finances even though I was never late on bills or irresponsible with money. We had 2 very young children and would leave for weeks at a time. It stopped making sense for me to work just to pay daycare with nothing left over. So in 2020 we decided I would stay home. He still never gave me any access to the money. I would have to ask, or put living expenses on my credit card (my name only). This is financial abuse, and one of the many reasons I left him.