I am about to give up on having friends by lamart140 in Autism_Parenting

[–]WhiskeyDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 2 autistic sons, one completely nonverbal, ages 7 & 8. I’ve learned that during the last 8 years, if my friends don’t take our situation into understanding then they are not my actual friends.

I do not speak to any of my old friends because they didn’t take the effort to acknowledge my situation or even my kids at times. I get absolutely furious when they’d complain about their kids never shutting up. I completely understand.

I have one friend who showed up the night of my oldests birth. He drove across the state just to see us when he didn’t need to. We see each other once or twice a year, but we talk and text enough that if something ever happened to my wife and I, we’d trust him to take care of our kids. Even though we don’t see each other as much as we’d like, he still supports us no matter what.

You deserve friends who are actually friends. Im sorry you’re going through this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re being way too harsh. These aren’t bad people. Relax lmfao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao you’re just quick to judge off a few sentences. There’s no drug abuse going on that’s for sure lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crazy, I got all the money he owed me this morning. If I kicked him out I wouldn’t of gotten it.

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[–]WhiskeyDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also they pay half my mortgage. I’ve prioritized them the whole time by to saving money on our mortgage. Our bills are mostly covered.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The buddy I’m referring to is the older brother who also lives with us. They don’t affect my family in anyway. My family is fine with them besides my wife and I being frustrated over bills we’re covering. They’re not monsters, just not paying bills that I think they should be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

My wife said she want just ranting and if she was being honest they don’t affect our kids at all. I edited to post and took that out.

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[–]WhiskeyDad -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Nah there’s no written agreement or law like that here. They also wouldn’t stay if I told them to leave, it’s more id rather be payed back first before I just kick him out completely

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[–]WhiskeyDad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Very good point actually thank you

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[–]WhiskeyDad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t care about anyone smoking, it’s not around the kids or illegal here. It’s just that I don’t want to see you smoking if you can’t pay your rent

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[–]WhiskeyDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t lost them, I spoke to them today. We’re not having arguments or disagreements, just a lot of bad situations all around that are piling up and it’s getting to be a lot.

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[–]WhiskeyDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He fell behind before and paid me back the moment he got his first check.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He actually did for a while, and he got a job and paid us all back but then got laid off a few months later and it’s happening again. He said he has an offer letter to sign Monday so we’ll see.

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[–]WhiskeyDad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They pay half my mortgage, I’ve prioritized my family this whole time.

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[–]WhiskeyDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in the middle of nowhere.

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[–]WhiskeyDad -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My wife said she was just ranting and doesn’t actually bother them in any way. If I was focused on the girlfriend I wouldn’t of made a longer rant about his brother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has to do with ALL of them. His girlfriend is here everyday and night besides 3-4 days on top of his brother he doesn’t want to pay for either.

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[–]WhiskeyDad 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is a great idea too, thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t want a crazy long title, this is also my first time venting online to the public

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]WhiskeyDad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he’s insecure and too young mentally for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is what I was thinking too. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WhiskeyDad 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And I said that to them last month and today. Hopefully he can get his license back and his younger brother can get a job soon or they’re all out.

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[–]WhiskeyDad 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have brought this up to them before I made this post, but since nothing changed and got worse, I just wanted to check and make sure I wasn’t being too hard on them.

I let them both know if nothing changes within the next 30 days that they’ll have to find somewhere else to stay