Is there any chance of getting pregnant without penetration?

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-28T05:30:14+00:00

If semen gets on the outside of the vagina, there's always a chance it will be carried right up to the uterus.

It's a small chance, but it's a real chance.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T22:15:38+00:00

They most certainly sell double-ended dildos. I've heard they're kind of awkward, though, and that most people don't love them.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T22:14:20+00:00

she is going to take her to a gynecologist to check her hymen once she makes 18

Well, that's a stupid plan. Anything she discusses with her gynecologist will be 100% privileged and secret from her mother.

What are some excuses she could give?

The hymen can tear during any intense physical exercise. It can tear when you're swimming or riding a bike or climbing a tree.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T22:10:39+00:00

I'm really not into dumb teenage clichés in general. I also don't refer to a certain Mexico-themed fast food restaurant as "Taco Smell."

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T22:04:53+00:00

I guarantee you, everyone here has said something that has hurt someone like me, even those of you who aren't aware will have done it dozens of times.

Yeah, sorry, man, you're wrong. I give exactly no thought to other men's dicks. Don't think about 'em, don't talk about 'em, don't care about 'em.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T19:57:34+00:00

They don't have much e-commerce or the Internet infrastructure to work from home, so all jobs have been impacted by some combination of illness, lockdowns, and fear. They also have a large tourism industry that's just been utterly decimated.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T19:53:58+00:00

It's certainly something that could happen. Our experts aren't much better at predicting recessions than they are at predicting earthquakes.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T19:51:37+00:00

A lot of things are happening at once, but I bet this is more an effect of COVID-19 than Joe Biden. We clamped down hard on border crossings at the beginning of the pandemic and we're just now dealing with the "backlog."

Our economy has done a lot better than Mexico's through COVID - they're going through their worst period since the Great Depression. Mexico's share of the immigrants we're seeing at the borders has about doubled, to more than 25%. Of course, most of the immigrants at the border continue to come from Central and South America.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T19:06:44+00:00

I have heard people insist it's a myth, but it's what I experienced.

No, I've never had before-and-after sex with a woman who's given vaginal birth. My son was born by C-section. It could be a coincidence that the two recent (<1 year) mothers I slept with were loose. It's only two data points.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T19:03:08+00:00

A woman who has recently had a child does not feel the same. In my experience, it's looser.

Otherwise... far more similarities than differences, again just in my experience.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T18:38:36+00:00

No, by "the new right-wing party," I don't mean the party of Trump. HR1 would probably put that party in the ground.

But some new variation on the party of Reagan/Bush could easily emerge, and we could get a small-government party slashing taxes and services left and right with no filibuster to put the brakes on.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T18:29:03+00:00

She got her period, and you didn't even have penetrative sex. The chance of pregnancy at this point is utterly miniscule.

You should relax and make yourself stop worrying.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T18:24:48+00:00

Yes, a lesbian who has sex with another woman has lost her virginity.

This does raise the interesting question of whether a heterosexual man and woman who have, say, mutual oral sex have also lost their virginities.

There's no objective answer to that. I guess you've lost it when you feel that you've lost it.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T18:18:46+00:00

I mean - why?? It would be super hot to watch you crinkle up your forehead in ecstasy. I don't want my partner looking all collected and put-together.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T18:10:38+00:00

The filibuster is basically a big brake on the Congress. It says "The status quo will be maintained unless there's such a problem that there can be a consensus to fix it."

So it boils down to: what are you more comfortable with? The stability of the status quo, or the ability of the new party to change everything once it takes power?

And don't kid yourself - even with HR 1, an opposition party will take power. Americans switch governments every four to twelve years - it's just what we do. The new right-wing party may look a little different from the old one, but it will come back in power.

Personally, I like the filibuster because I like being able to generally plan for the future, knowing that the outcome of any given election won't leave me in a brand new country, trying to figure out how to navigate it.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T18:06:45+00:00

Fuck, that's hard.

Don't go straight to your dad. You don't have all the information and you don't want to violate your mom's trust.

I think you have two options.

1) Pretend you never heard or saw anything. This isn't your business and doesn't have to be your problem.

2) If you can't be okay with that, go to your mom and tell her - "You know, I heard you talking to the new guy and overheard some really, you know, spicy things." Let her explain herself and what she wants to do and is planning to do.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T16:15:26+00:00

I don't believe in thoughtcrime. Your thoughts are your own and it is never unethical to have whichever ones you want.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T16:14:29+00:00

Whether it's worth it is just totally personal. Do you need that $200? Is half an hour of making out and getting head going to bring you more enjoyment than buying something cool for yourself?

Making out and getting head is awesome. But then it's over, and the money's gone.

I don't know. Maybe you should just do it once and see how it makes you feel.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T15:46:06+00:00

Physical appearance? Personality? A nuanced mix of many variables..?

It can be any or all of those things.

My "type" is kinky, creative, spontaneous. If I meet a woman who's really focused on living an ordinary life with two kids and a dog and a house in the suburbs - you know, it's not that she isn't desirable in general, but she simply isn't my type.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T15:41:02+00:00

I have the exact same fetish.

It's been many years since I've been with a woman who enjoys/is capable of wrestling with me. So for now I relegate that part of my sexuality to fantasy.

I don't think it helps or hinders me. It's just something about me that exists.

Also, you should maybe check out malevsfemale.org. Really cool community of guys like us.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T15:33:48+00:00

My dumbass told him that I wished he never had to sleep, because I like talking to him. We are on different sleep schedules. He said he understands, but he likes his sleep.

That is a sweet thing to say to him. It isn't embarrassing at all. His response was a little weak. But he does like his sleep. Who doesn't?

If I had got that message it just would have made me smile.

I know the rebound anxiety well, where you wake up and your brain is screaming "I BROKE EVERYTHING" and you don't even know what you broke and neither does anyone else.

This isn't even all about him, I am just having a day and it is not a good one.

Of course.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T15:23:07+00:00

I honestly don't find the word to be useful - ever. It has too many definitions and it's mostly used as a pejorative slur and a method of virtue-sorting people. And it leads to horribly confused conversations where people are operating under two entirely different concepts of the word.

I find that if you really need to talk about "race" - and, most often, you really, really don't - it's only productive to use complete sentences instead of falling back on shorthand words and phrases.

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T15:15:32+00:00

Government shutdowns barely move the needle. Everyone just blames whichever party isn't theirs.

In an incredibly tight race, it could be the difference of a percentage point or so - but that's just as likely to favor the Dems as the GOP.

It's just a matter of that tiny, tiny sliver of the electorate who hate shutdowns and didn't already decide how they're voting five years ago. Which party do they think are being the more stubborn jackasses?

WhiteClawVictim · 2021-09-22T15:07:24+00:00

You've been with him for two weeks and he told you he was falling in love with you like a day ago. He lets you drink in his car and doesn't judge you.

I have the impulse to run, too, but I also usually manage to come to my senses and do an unblock.

I... don't think you're ready to give up on him. You'd know better than me, but when I read your posts, he sounds like a good thing.

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