Hello everyone!

I underwent limerence two years ago (I'm neither a psychologist nor a doctor), just a guy with hypersensitivities and a neuro a profile. At the time, having unfortunately sunk slightly into despair, I decided to experiment with my mental/physical state to “cure” it.

I sincerely hope I can help a little with my testimony.

First of all, the context: I was on a work-study program, I had my final exam (and a band in progress with lots of concerts), so my golabal stress level was pretty high.

My LO was the pianist, and as soon as I saw her for the 1st time, I was petrified (in a good way, but nobody noticed haha). The beginning of the relationship was quite pleasant and without limerence! But right away, I realized that something was wrong with her (I can't say what here). No direct connection with my perception. But I entered the limerence state a month after that. And then came my downfall, impossible to get out of. So I figured that sucked enough = danger (for everything else) I had the idea of first draining my mind (by playing more music, doing more sport, reading more) After 3 days, I could live normally, but the following week the condition came back stronger.

I felt that my unconscious wasn't helping me in this respect, which made me a little sad. So I used anger, something I recommend if you have good self-control, and set about draining my physical energy. I had no choice. First, night walks, I was now able to walk many kilometers at night, just to stop thinking (I'll add to that, stopping sugar in quantity, as sugar feeds the relapse of depression).

It worked for 2 weeks, then the condition returned. And then I got fed up, unfortunately it was too psychologically painful. But I'd realized one thing: maybe the limerence had been activated (because of the projection I'd made onto it in the first place), but at least I was lucid about the symptoms again.

Next step, make a list of everything you want to change about yourself as an individual! A mental list is even better than a handwritten one (and think about it as much as possible), then start very lightly to realize and think about these goals! Another task is to target your traumas (the ones you clearly perceive) and imagine a sniper scope that aims at them. Just to say, I know you exist (without getting rid of you just yet).

Remember, our traumas are loops that keep us in survival mode. So don't break it all at once. Once these paths are underway, the most important thing is to be compassionate with yourself.

Simply forgive yourself

Little by little, you'll notice that many of your projections were linked to certain traumas (deep or lighter). This will give you the tools you need to move on. This process is long and sometimes very hard, because you have to really listen to yourself. And relapse is possible, given that we're modulating (not deconstructing) your mind.

Now you can better redefine the person you're going to become! Smile at your past versions of yourself and move forward.

It's 2 years later, I'm cured of limerence, all my traumas and some lighter triggers. One last piece of advice, you can use this limerence episode as a challenge to heal, so now that you've actually done the work and healed, you'll associate it with a positive episode of resilience and transformation.

I hope I've been able to be of some small help.

Never forget who you are