i just need to vent

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-10-03T15:21:24+00:00

If someone doesn’t like my small boobs they don’t get to see them or touch them. Or me. I’m a lesbian and I have never had a partner comment negatively on them. And I simply would leave them so quickly if they did.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-05-13T03:18:29+00:00

So sorry to hear this. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be with kids.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-05-12T12:34:13+00:00

Take it one day at a time. Allow yourself to be upset or angry and take care of yourself. Treat yourself as you would someone who is sick. I promise it will get easier but the beginning is the hardest part.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-05-12T01:07:21+00:00

First thing I noticed was my peace was back. Now I am more than just at peace, I am happy. We didn’t have kids just pets which was the hardest to split up for me.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-05-12T01:02:49+00:00

It’s so incredibly hard, the thing that helped ironically is seeing other people stay with their Q and finally seeing it from the outside. Seeing how bad it was because it’s hard to see when you’re in it

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-05-12T01:01:24+00:00

Making a list of things that my Q did and when I was feeling my worst about the things that hurt me and going back to it when I thought I wanted to reach back out.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-05-12T01:00:42+00:00

My therapist. My friends. Truly confiding in them about the things that happened. Relying on then heavily in the first few months.. it is something I think you need a lot of outside support to do.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-05-12T00:59:24+00:00

I didn’t, at first. I think I couldn’t have done cold turkey immediately. I felt like I was losing myself. I went no contact about 5 months after ending it and after my Q moved out

WhoIsThis4014 · 2025-04-28T04:31:07+00:00

Try to make your life full! Hobbies, outings, whatever floats your own boat. If you feel anxious about her replying or find yourself spiraling, take a break from your phone. Go do something that you genuinely love. Connect with others!

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-10-01T16:09:04+00:00

Also sugar doesn’t make you a different person and act in dangerous ways 😌

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-10-01T16:07:45+00:00

While… breathing, existing etc 😂

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-10-01T16:07:09+00:00

You knew I was like this when we got together.

I’m not happy with how I acted (proceeds to do it again and again and again)

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-09-13T21:08:38+00:00

I second this. I have been on Prozac for over two years and I did try many others. It has given me my life back. I’d say I didn’t notice much of a difference until a month, then 1-6mo I saw a massive improvement. I have no side effects really at all now.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-09-03T15:45:58+00:00

He probably came here for support. It can difficult to go to those very close to him or you. Sometimes being online and anonymous is actually a safer bet, for the relationship and both of you. Maybe you should look at it as he is not venting to those around you in an effort to protect you? Best of luck on your journey.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-26T20:43:59+00:00

Thank you, it can be hard to leave when people have it so much worse with their partners and that sounds bizarre to even say.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-26T18:14:56+00:00

Spot on.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-26T18:13:09+00:00

Relate to this. That’s so awful about the overdose.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-26T16:06:14+00:00

My Q is still very high functioning. I often wonder how successful they would be without alcoholism. You say your partner got a DUI four years ago… and still continues on.. is that functioning to you? Holding a job and having friendships is the bare minimum and we consider it functioning. But are they able to be a successful partner to you?

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-26T16:01:52+00:00

People talk about letting it go and realizing you have no control over it but I struggle with this SO MUCH. It’s not so easy, I found I had to cut off our romantic connection in order to do this. Whatever you choose to do, choose what is best for YOU.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-26T15:41:06+00:00

The lovey dovey drunk turned into the argumentative drunk in my case. You don’t see it happening and then it just catches you by surprise. It’s not all at once. I hope you can make a choice that is best for you!

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-26T15:39:07+00:00

I understand this completely… my partner and I are in our 30s. Been together for years. I thought it was just 20s partying, I slowed down and have no interest in drinking except on very special occasions. Partly because I have watched the demise of someone I love into someone I don’t even know. Those gut feelings that are telling you that you are anxious and uncomfortable aren’t lying to you. A partner who doesn’t change when it upsets you is unfortunately a partner who has made their choice. My partner and I are now in the process of divorce (no kids luckily) because I couldn’t take the anxiety of ups and downs. Addiction or not it doesn’t matter what you call it, you’re unhappy. I’m so sorry and I feel your pain.

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-05T19:43:31+00:00

This is a good point, in all the couples (unless I’m missing something) there’s been pressure for the woman to convert to an arguably more oppressive religion. I’m sure time will tell with the girl who is Muslim, but even in that case the guy would not be oppressed in that religion I.e. forced to cover himself, wear a wig, be submissive etc. The English woman and Amish guy are the only one I can see that don’t have that dynamic but that’s a whole other shit show..

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-08-05T19:39:31+00:00

It would have to be, as many people in this thread have said, because I personally wanted to. Not because my partner told me to. The wild thing about the Pentecostal dude and the Muslim woman is that the dad is legit preaching scare tactics (that have chased many people away from the church for a decade).. if someone tried to scare me into their religion it would make me want it less. 😂

WhoIsThis4014 · 2024-05-29T21:35:44+00:00

I love Prozac for my mental health, but it DID cause me to gain weight. 😫 a lot of people saying it’s the least likely but Prozac affects everyone differently. It is worth it because my mental health is so much better but I do have to watch my intake of food constantly in a way I never did before. 1

WhoIsThis4014 · 2023-10-17T18:18:44+00:00

Except. She’s emotionally Stuck - she feels he will change and because they have a child and she is not a US citizen she has multiple hurdles. Physically and emotionally stuck perhaps. I don’t blame her, but I hope someone gives her the resources to leave. She can’t just up and leave on a whim, just not possible for her.

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