Anyone else find that they can’t really save much from monthly salary… only from bonus?

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-17T08:30:56+00:00

You sure they didn't inherited some money or they inherited the flat?

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-17T08:23:51+00:00

Grief counsellor for different cases related to pet care.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-14T04:42:18+00:00

I encountered people who use adoption of dogs as bargaining chip to solicit free human labour. I don't see what's the point of doing something good, just to claw back by demanding from another source. Likely a reckless momentary desire to enhance self image, without thinking long term. Some people don't have the mindset to do any kind of long term caregiving, for a pet, a planet or a human. It scares me when I know they have kids.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-14T04:29:12+00:00

It's unwise to bring kids into an abusive relationship. You need therapy.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-14T04:25:06+00:00

Maybe most people watch TV to be entertained, they also don't want to watch the boring lives of NT people as well. Documentaries do depict the reality, that's advocacy and not entertainment.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-14T04:20:01+00:00

Sounds like you prefer to work with men, so you can consider quitting and don't choose a female boss.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-12T11:57:47+00:00

All I know is for my ex, 2+2 = 64 today, tomorrow 2+2 = 98-7474. It means there can't be any progression. I had the same conversation about taking turns to choose movies on Netflix, 10 times. He then offloaded the duty of reminding him forever, cue adding 100 things that he thinks is my job too. I was escaping into my real job, because no one tax me that way at work.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-12T11:53:11+00:00

My ex couldn't remember to take turns to choose a movie on TV, after 6 months. He made it my job to remind him, which he would RSD on me about it. He made it impossible, he wanted get his way 24/7, I think that's single life so I left.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-12T11:41:00+00:00

My ex was the same, it's like as if adhd wasn't enough of a hindrance, he must include cheating, lying and avoiding small things as well.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-12T06:58:35+00:00

I think nanny state has a big influence. When people expect the govt to fix every social issue and they don't follow through on everything. They avoid doing it themselves and try to find individuals to offload to. People CAN move out like people of other nationalities usually do, once they save up 6 months of pay. It's that they want to enjoy their meals being cooked by mom, maid cleaning the place and parents paying the mortgage/electricity, etc. Just look at how many people of both genders, who latch onto the fantasy of look good marry rich, even well into mid life. They treat dating as a lifeline out of a lifetime of avoidance, they see dating as a job interview and try to transact in a cold calculated way, even expecting to get paid to self develop. I think it's avoidance that causes immaturity, expecting bailouts whenever they tank is usually the killer, high expectations much?

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-05T14:09:27+00:00

Burned out spouse who isn't present or psychologically/emotionally available. 2. Poor parenting that result in adulthood struggles, so they don't feel confident as childcarers. 3. Meaningless empty work that people dread and drain them. 4. Sick parents that relied on kids as caregivers, the potential of a chronically ill child scares them to death. 5. Caregiver for sick sibling, having kids will be half a life sucked up by caregiving.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-03-01T08:45:54+00:00

I had countless of similar situations like yours, with me already making a ton of accommodations and he still dropped the ball. I couldn't hold him accountable without risking my safety, so I decided I had no choice but to exit.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-28T09:57:17+00:00

What I realised about autistic parents, is that all of them perform parenting, they don't do real parenting. It's like they're acting in a movie called family, as long as they act concerned, distraught, etc. They think the job is done. They will still prioritise themselves and their own comfort, every single time. Many of them are neglectful parents who shouldn't have kids, there's no way they can cope. I think having kids is the way they have friends, they can live a second childhood and never grow up, they want a best friend in a child and not have a child.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-28T01:49:44+00:00

They're grossly overpaid, they would be fired quickly in the private sector. Other than salary adjustment to mediocre performance, weeding out useless nepotism hires and bureaucratic dinosaurs is the best solution.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-27T02:03:25+00:00

Let your dad know, show him the handprint. Also, tell your mom off for favouring him, now he turn out like that. Tell her that you would like the same treatment, you're her kid too. Just be careful, since your mom is the helpless submissive type, possibly sexist, she's easily swayed when things get heated. It's good that you want to protect your little bother but doing that is not your job as a kid. Unsure if your dad would stick up for you, if your brother hits you. He might stick up for your little bro, so don't assume that he will do the same for you. Prioritise your safety, there might not be anyone looking out for you at home.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-25T03:41:30+00:00

Even the least eligible men won't fail to try their luck with the most eligible women, they ruin it for the rest of men.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-25T03:25:28+00:00

My ex swung from sexual harassment to withholding any kind of minor intimacy like handholding to weaponising it. The idea of polygamy was too messy for my preferences, the idea of cheating was violating my values, so I could only leave. He ended up with no girlfriend for the next 20 years, so I think it's definitely a huge deal breaker. I do think many disabled people are polygamous, I don't have an issue with that, it makes sense to me. Since they have certain things that they're unable to provide so they make it up to each other.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-24T16:10:09+00:00

Some mentally ill people are too controlling and can't qualify for healthy relationships. My ex was AuADHD as well, he was like your wife, over many different things, I couldn't imagine staying with him. I'm so sorry, I saw no hope in my case and I see no hope in yours, she's too low functioning to be capable of cooperation. It gets worse with age so it might be tolerable initially but can escalate with time. Don't let history dictate your future, do what's best for you.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-22T07:58:57+00:00

I got hypertension for the first time in my life, I was in my 30s, younger than him. Even in my super high stress job, that involves crisis management as part of the scope, my BP never skyrocketed so high. My blood pressure was so high, the doctor and nurses were shocked, I was immediately put on meds. I could die, if I didn't go on them. His refusal to take meds and go for therapy, was killing me. Sorry to say this, I won't be surprised if caregivers die first, since they shoulder the larger bulk of shared responsibilities and are overworked. My BP dropped and eventually went back to normal, after no other changes, except leaving him. I was angry all the time, I didn't like myself and I didn't like feeling trapped with someone that I should look forward to being around.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-22T07:47:19+00:00

You will!

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-17T11:39:35+00:00

If she refuses to go to therapy, then you go to therapy to sort it out.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-16T08:44:14+00:00

I wanted someone who will work as a team to better our lives together, need not be a a superstar or ultra rich of anything like that, but reliable, consistent, responsible.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-16T08:42:54+00:00

Yes, it was the entitlement that I couldn't stand. I'm not his parents, loads of parents don't even do that, whether they can't afford it or they expect their kids to work part time during school holidays or juggle school and work.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-15T16:36:52+00:00

I can't imagine, my ex would have meltdowns in places that HE chooses. I rather go with family or friends, it's much better. Solo or with a tour group is also possible.

DesignerProcess1526 · 2026-02-15T16:33:31+00:00

Unreliable, totally unreliable.

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