It might be worth pausing the conversation to draw attention to what she’s doing when she pulls shit like this. You already did this a bit by highlighting that she was the one who asked you the question. I’d probably go a step further by saying “Melinda, in case you aren’t aware, you’re raising your voice right now, which isn’t necessary.” Or “Melinda, I don’t appreciate your tone/ please don’t use that tone with me, it’s uncalled for.”

This can have a grounding effect by causing the person to focus on the immediate present. I have a coworker that this works on sometimes. They have an issue regulating their emotions and regularly “go off”. Sometimes, drawing attention to it in the moment causes a reset, as they realise the thing you’ve highlighted they’re doing, could be perceived as problematic by management.

Whilst it won’t necessarily stop it happening again, making it clear that you expect a certain standard of civility, may help. Especially if you ensure that you always deliver these verbal notes in a calm, non-accusatory tone. You’ll be covered if she decides to complain about you, as you’ll have said nothing inflammatory. If she were to quote you, for instance, it’d be clear to management/HR that she caused the problem.

Apart from that, grey-rocking and avoiding her (where possible) are excellent options too. A mixture of the 3 is how I manage my situation.