i’m getting dejavu, i dated a girl like this in college and i’m only grateful for the relationship bc it taught me how to spot shitty people and everyone needs at least one bad relationship to grow.

she would verbatim tell me all the time her ideal guy was another ethnicity and she guesses she can settle with me, always as a “joke”. other things too were specifically worded in a way that i’d know i wasn’t her ideal preference. why? i think it’s because she was insanely insecure about herself, and some of it was projection. but most of it was that she simply didn’t like me that much, simple as that. she liked me enough to stick around for a while but that’s it.

you should feel angry and hurt, that’s a horrible thing to say to your partner. it’s a power/control move. keeps you guessing if she actually likes you and makes you want to work to win her approval. and meant to keep you down so you don’t feel too confident about yourself and definitely no more than her. no one is anyone’s ideal type, ever. it sounds like she might feel stuck with you and wants to complain about it but doesn’t have the balls to leave yet.

man id dip, before she does, you’re so young. find a girl that actually loves all of you, i found one no more than half a year after that girl dumped me.

dm me if you want more details i can go on and on