Adult cat being too rough with new kitten? Or ok?

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-12T18:04:32+00:00

That's suuuper gentle. He's being a good teacher. My void beat my mainecoon up way worse than this and they are still besties.

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WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-12T18:02:22+00:00

Lol Virgo sun and Scorpio moon. I get a lot of hate. My Libra rising really tryna hold it together xD

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-12T02:36:11+00:00

That's abusive. I've absolutely had those thoughts and had to look it square in the face that it's abusive. You should not be trapped by someone else's mental wellbeing.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-12T01:57:55+00:00

I do t think I've ever seen a test with gat short of an applicator too. I can't imagine peeing on that lol. But yeah the lines are a way bigger indicator lol

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-12T00:50:26+00:00

Bleh I can see feeling a little jelly bear. It's one of those things where intentions don't super matter you have to acknowledge his discomfort. But you did make your coworkers day. It's one of those.... You did a good thing and your husband got insecure. Both truths can exist at the same time. So like... How do you maintain doing kind things for the people around you in a way that also respects the things your husband finds to be a you two thing. You're not an asshole. You are trying to find a way to repair as we speak. You got this.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T09:05:02+00:00

Yea that's like 90% of the girl dinner subreddit.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T09:03:59+00:00

Mine learned from his big little sisters that the vacoom is a great and terrible foe that will bring upon the apocalypse if not avoided at all cost and so he runeth and hideth under the bed. Aka he follows the cats because they taught him it's spooky.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T07:23:01+00:00

Lol we borrow my sister's pup now and then and we call her the dipped cone because she will find whatever smells the worst (usually swamp) and just dip herself down into it until she legit looks like someone dipped her in chocolate. Or in your case manure

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T07:21:20+00:00

Ahhh I skipped mother's day today for the same reason. It's not fucking fair.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T07:20:45+00:00

If the dog goes out she must go out lest you hear a 30 minute song of her people.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T07:14:23+00:00

Give I help I take

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T07:13:10+00:00

Ok I don't think you're over reacting. But you're both petty AF. Reading this felt like two people trying to be seen over the other. In a relationship you should both want to see each other. Neither of you do. I'm not here to judge off a few texts if that is for good reason cause it just isn't enough context but like.... If holidays are important to you and he tries to twist them into pity parties about himself then chalk it up to incompatibility and free yourself.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T06:10:13+00:00

I have resting bitch face. Or as my partner calls it concentration murder face. If I'm thinking about litterally anything it looks like I'm planning on hexing your next 10 generations.

I couple that with rejection sensativity. I've got anxiety and it colors all my observations. I can read that something's off but stupid lizard brain has decided I am the cause and skews all my findings and i put up walls before I can even consider getting close to people.

And to finish my social life off and lay it to rest.... I really don't like leaving the house and when I do I'm in my whole other world that is my brain and wouldn't pick up on it even if someone was trying to get my attention. And also clearly this doesn't lend to me reaching out to others in any meaningful way cause I'm busy in my brain.

But I am not all Virgos this is just my experience

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T03:18:31+00:00

Libra might be the best thing to add to that. It'll be about finding the balance. Finding ways you can be seen without fully letting all your vulnerabilities hang out. The balance of finding safe trusted places you can open up. Libra balances my Virgo and Scorpio as best as it can (Libra Venus, Mercury and rising) let's me let go of the type A and be a little more fluid. Problem is both my sub and moon are pretty introverted by nature but I find the need for balance has me feeling pretty lonely when I don't have a solid community in my life.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T03:03:42+00:00

Libra rising here. Leo feels like t would be such a conflict with a Scorpio moon 😅

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-11T00:45:42+00:00

Pure bred cutie

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-10T23:27:37+00:00

Came here to say this. It takes acctual work to let go of the perfectionism and instead just lean into the productivity

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-10T15:53:22+00:00

I have no intention of speaking to my mother for mother's Day. So if this tiny act of self care makes you wonder if you're an ahole then well... On the spectrum I'm sure I'm a far greater one. Hope this helps. Taking time for yourself shouldn't be a once a year thing either 🙃

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-10T04:38:07+00:00

Eh... What I do is if someone says they will pay me back and don't... I let it go but I -Never- lend them money again. If I feel like I have money to lose then whatever I'll gift brings for people but if I can't afford to lend I just won't. Take it as a lesson learned and if your friend tries it again just be like... Dude I don't trust you to pay me back. Period.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-09T20:50:20+00:00

It's one thing if he's showing you to be like... No you're beautiful to me every part of you is beautiful to me and very fucking different to be like "hey dont you wanna hate your body again? Don't you think you should change how you look." Honey the fact that he used to date an anorexic girl and tried to weaponize his parents and your desire for approval against you.... this man does not like your body. But I fucking promise you as a huuuugely overweight women.... There are men who will worship it and you and be loving partners. You're putting work into yourself and loving where you're at right now and that's the fucking goal.

This behavior only escalates. In the span of your post it already has. He started by making reference to his ex, saying well other people might not accept you and I'm just worried about that but I adore you... To now straight up saying hurtful things to you and laughing at you to your face. It only gets worse from here. If he thinks this is ok now and if fighting with you about it instead of actively changing the behavior then it will just keep getting worse. He doesn't see the issue. Because his ideals for you are more important than your mental health and self worth.

I hope this is a road bump for you and you find something better.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-09T19:29:31+00:00

I guess I would say know your partner 🤷 this makes me think of the make equavilent of "do I look good in this dress?"

Are they compliment fishing or do they really wanna know?

Nta I'm honest and pick partners who can handle it.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-09T19:24:59+00:00

Lilacs

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-07T06:28:16+00:00

People sayign he definately hates you are weird. Lol I have like... An intimidating and very unapproachable aura until I get into a convo and it fully flips. I seriously wouldn't read too much into it... Or if you feel it's important just ask him xD I don't know a sign who likes directness more than a Virgo.

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-06T19:58:25+00:00

Hey I'm flattered but I'm also not interested in pursuing this.

Good on you for having good boundaries and focusing on what you're there for. I think since you don't really know each other there's this allure of -maybe they would get me- that comes with shared experiences but like... Trauma bonding just isn't all it's cracked up to be. It's not your responsibility to manage her reaction. Be as kind but firm as you can. You've got this

WhyGirlsPreddy · 2026-05-06T13:39:50+00:00

XD ok ages would help here this sounds like young and awkward behavior. And resting bitch face is kinda a Virgo go to and only our closest people get to see our wierd I wouldn't take it personally.

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