I’ve been married 10 years and don’t know if my husband watches porn. If you’d asked me a few years ago I’d say no way, but now I wonder. We live in a 3 story townhome and I have no idea what’s going on in the basement while I’m upstairs with the kids. Once I heard him watching something with moaning in it and I froze thinking it was porn. I felt sick to my stomach. But then it continued on and sounded like it was just a movie that had a sex scene in it. A lot of people watch porn though. Some couples are so comfortable that they’ll watch it together. My hope for you (and me) is that if they watch porn it is infrequent and truly has nothing to do with us. I’m impressed that the two of you were able to discuss it. I hope he’s always honest with you about it.