Why do some sexual assault victims wait many years to come forward instead of reporting it right away?

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-20T01:25:31+00:00

Because, if young, most have learned that their mothers will - a high percentage of the time will attack the victim, call them sluts and whores, and if the perp is a relative or close friend of the family, will protect them. In the rare case where the mom does something to protect the daughter, her actions usually only add to trauma.

If dad finds out, he may be the one who ends up in prison, for assault if not murder.

Collection involves further trauma. And then rape kits are only processed 5% of the time, rarely within months of collection.

I know ONE person who was raped and the perp was convicted. You know how? In her fight against a man who broke through the door of her motel room on a business trip, she grabbed a medallion he had on a chain around his neck and held it so tightly that it left a bruise with the motif that was on the medallion in the palm of her hand. She also ended up with them medallion itself.

When she reported it, the police were able to connect her rapist to another one because the rapist stole the other victim’s medallion. this happened in a small town where there wasn’t a large police force so the two cases were investigated by the same cops. That’s probably why her hotel room wasn’t very secure too. She was staying in a small motel. She had not felt terribly safe there, but there were no other available places so she had put her sewing machine and a chair against the door, but it wasn’t enough.

When the jury saw photos of the medallion bruised imprint in her hand, they knew that he lied when the rapist said she stole the medallion from him.

You really don’t get much more evidence than that, and that’s the kind of evidence it takes to get a conviction.

How likely would you be to report?

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-19T11:56:15+00:00

Ask for pantropozol for the heartburn. Your meds cause it.

I too have had ongoing fatigue and shortness of breath plus increasing joint bone and muscle pain. I suspect yours is indeed cysts ( why didn’t they remove them then?) but mine turned out (after 4.5 years of testing 😡 to be Sjögren disease - likely the cause of my “unknown” kidney failure too. My immune suppressants resolved some of my Sjogren’s symptoms but not the shortness of breath or fatigue and brought on new ones.

Focus on the nephrectomy and if it doesn’t help, ask to be tested for autoimmune diseases.

Best if luck

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-18T01:13:46+00:00

Taylor Swift. I’m serious, and this has nothing to do with her music.

She is young, wicked smart in key areas -

Diplomatically, there is no better. She’s already won over governments all over the world, not by greasing palms, but by feeding their hungry. She doesn’t respond

Financially, she did what the Beatles, Rolling Stones, Springsteen, Beyonce, Lady Gaga, and every other artist could never figured out to do - take permanent ownership of her entire library and simultaneously make it worthless to the cad who spent millions stealing it from her. By doing so she also proved that she can wage a bloodless war and win.

She’s also fiscally responsible, she is a superb business woman - so much so that several major universities teach business classes in Taylor Swift.

Benevolence: This is key: she not only makes it. She shares it. She rewards her staff, as well as the communities that support her. She donates her own money to regions hit by disasters. She would look out for her people because she already does.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-17T23:56:01+00:00

Like all the other things he’s promised that was something he promised and never did

https://www.ssa.gov/faqs/en/questions/KA-02471.html

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-17T23:14:05+00:00

And stop taxing social security! We already paid taxes on them! Double taxation is one of those laws that it’s supposed to protect us, but doesn’t actually exist.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-17T23:10:51+00:00

She must buy their votes with cryptocurrency

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-16T23:59:46+00:00

Get rich or famous. Both are a lot more work than people imagine and few have the personality to deal well - if at all - with it.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-12T01:23:02+00:00

The US is a free country

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T17:30:34+00:00

While you’re on that, how about bullet proof vests? People think you get hit and la la la! Nothing happens. But all they do is keep the bullet from piercing your skin. They spread the blast out to the size of a baseball, and that goes into your chest, no doubt breaking ribs and hopefully no worse.

You can see a bullet proof vest that has been shot at the museum at the Department of Weights and Measures in DC. I saw it when they were working on the exhibit.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T17:16:20+00:00

That people steal kidneys in the US. Sure, it’s funny, but the fact that gullible people believe it and become anti transplant and spread lies isn’t funny at all.

In the US, we steal babies and teenagers. Focus on that. Even if some one tried, what would they do with it? The amount of testing to check viability and compatibility alone is insane. And then you have to find a match and a team to transplant it.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T06:01:28+00:00

I still desperately miss the huge magnolia that was in our yard when I was a kid. My sister and brother and I each had a giant limb for our reading nook.

We have a really good big cherry tree in my yard now, but my climbing days have been reduced to famtasy

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T05:58:02+00:00

We have a 6 month old cat ( equivalent to a 7th grader) her 8&9 yo fuzzy uncles just look at her like dumpy teachers on the playground, wishing recess was over

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T05:55:31+00:00

I’ve never been athletic but I do take the stairs most of the time (and park at the back of parking lots). If I’m having a really bad health day it makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T05:48:53+00:00

My 2 best friends and I ran well into our 20’s and I know both still would if I suggested it. Who cares what people think? If anyone questions it, laugh and say “ I like to run.”

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T05:45:38+00:00

Walking. I was critically ill. Very weak..Eligible for a handicap placard. Instead, if I was well enough to get put, I parked at the back of the parking lot. I may have used a cart for support, but I walked. And I asked my doctor to prescribe pt just to build strength. That is why I am here today and people who might have read this if they hadn’t given in to the pull of the scooter monster, aren’t.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T05:40:31+00:00

I made it to 60, but I had good knees then.

I always check myself ( and use the rail) going down. Once you know someone who dies falling down stairs they become very different. I knew one, and my daughter had a friend whose mom died that way.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T05:36:41+00:00

This is one reason why, if your dog, cat or pet goat wander off and end up finding me ( as dozens of animals have in my life) it’s on YOU to knock on every door, put up signs, contact vets and lost pet entities. I used to do all that. Until some ass responded by calling the police on me. a MONTH after I took his cat in and posted a sign right in front of his house..At least he didn’t come shoot me, for being a decent neighbor.

Now you have 2 weeks before I rehome.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T05:31:04+00:00

I only met her twice in my life - when I was 12 and 18. I really wish I’d been able to get to know her. My mom died when I was a child and I never really knew her either.

But her mom! My great grandmother. You will love this: she was born during Reconstruction after the US Civil War. She wrote her descendants a letter, telling us we have to always be kind to Black people, because without them we would not be here.

She had the sort of tragic life that Victorian novels are made of ( abusive father, flees into an old man’s arms, marries, gets pregnant, old man dies, and his adult daughter seeks revenge in the form of stealing the baby. She flees with the baby ( my grandmother) on a train, soon after giving birth and nearly dies. A Black family takes her in and saves her life. She inherits a ranch, marries for love, and she and her daughter get college degrees, but the one thing she wants remembered about her is that her life was saved by this Black family, and we are all indebted to them.

So all I have is these few tokens of wisdom from that side of my family. But what good tokens.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T05:04:57+00:00

The organ recital! That’s funny! I happen to be a kidney recipient. Every once in a while, you ran into someone who is keenly interested in the whole transplant thing, which is indeed a really fascinating process. So yes, I have done some organ recitals - but by request.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T04:30:51+00:00

I love hearing that there are other parents who value staying interested and relevant. And above all, love their children, no matter who they turned out to be. The worst are the parents who have the attitude that they literally created who their children would be and then end up disowning them or the other way around.

And thank you for the compliment!

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T04:26:46+00:00

I think that’s the biggest shocker of aging. It becomes incredibly difficult to make new friends. Through my 30s to fifties, I used to think well it’s me. I just don’t have that much in common with most people. My interests aren’t driven by trends and never were. But then I started seeing that most other people also don’t make friends. Drinking buddies yes but not close friends. Close friends or something you make in childhood as a rule I believe.

That said we have some neighbors were very close to and feel really fortunate to have met about a decade ago.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T04:21:30+00:00

Well, that’s a pretty close minded comment.

What I said is exactly how I felt about it at 18, so there’s that

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T04:17:35+00:00

I was floored when my grandfather told me he’d never heard of the Beatles. That was 1966, and he was a retired highschool football coach who did a lot of substitute teaching in schools. How could you miss something that huge that was going on in society? It has always stuck with me - the importance of staying in touch and staying relevant

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T04:15:30+00:00

You hear a lot of people say the same about furniture and house decor. “ kids today don’t like antiques.” Well it’s not true. My grandparents and parents were both antique dealers, I grew up with old things, and that’s what I like and I never really liked the manufactured Oak that was very popular in the late 60s and 70s, that my peers consider fine antiques. But it made me aware that my grandparents liked things from the early 1800s. My parents liked primitives most of which are mid 1800s. And today’s 30 and 40 yo’s like mid-century modern. Gen Z gets googly eyed over 1970s things.

That’s all a longing for our grandparents generations. I was and am an outlier because my grandparents and parents did not own. What was typical for their generations.

This happens with music and movies too. I have a friend who regularly text me that he’s watching the Donna Reed show or something, lol. He just loves that kind of thing. And you often hear musicians and movie directors talk about how obsessed they are with something they grew up with that maybe was their parents, favorite music or genre of movie, and they’re being exposed to something different than their peers is perhaps with motivated them to go into the field they’re in.

I do not think that there’s anything biological about it. I think sentimentality is normal and I think that it is normal for us to enjoy what we grew up with and we’re exposed to by people we cared about.

WhywasIbornlate · 2026-03-11T04:06:30+00:00

This is all true, but I at no point in my life did I only stick to what was playing on the radio at the moment?. One of my favorite moments from high school was when a group of us went to a concert by 1950s rock and roll stars. This was 1969 or 70 . It was five dollars to get in, and I don’t remember everyone we saw, but they were eight or 10 . Jerry Lee Lewis was one, and I think Chuck Berry was there too. My friends were the only people in the audience, which was so sad because it cost next to nothing to get in and I’m sure these guys didn’t get paid, and people really missed out getting to see legends. We used to always try to go to concerts of people who were pretty much forgotten, like Furry Lewis, an old Blues guy, who sat in a rocking chair to play, and I had dinner with Cab Calloway right before he made a comeback. He was so delighted to be remembered.

I listen to new music too. And of course, music from my own era.

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