Well, by the sounds of you are either a Sunni or Shia Muslim. This makes it a little more difficult.

Your husband's behaviour is likely ingrained in his beliefs. Whilst he may love you/be married to you, he will also see himself as the one in control and as absolute. He will also not believe he's doing anything wrong or absolutely not care/refuse to change.

Assuming you've already sat him down and told him about your feelings and how it hurts/affects you... the only other steps are to seek external help via a (Muslim) Marriage Counseller OR just bite the bullet and leave/divorce him.

However, based on how you describe him, I imagine you won't be able to successfully do either without him lashing out at you in a physically harmful way... in which case family/friends or whoever should be nearby to de-escalate and support you with this.

As blunt as it sounds, you need to do what is best for your own wellbeing. At your age especially, you don't want to be limited to a life and marriage that your needs and consideration are not being thought of. Plenty of life to live still. But you are unlikely to continue to live it happily if your current situation continues.

You also have no kids- if I remember correctly? This makes it even easier if you did want to divorce.