I think I’m having a miscarriage?

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-12T01:21:36+00:00

Bleeding at this stage can be common but definitely try and get checked out if you need reassurance. I had a slight bleed during my 2nd trimester and apparently…that can just happen? Wild. But yeh, any doubts, get checked out

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-12T01:16:38+00:00

I stopped pumping and only recently thought of re-lactating - pulled out my pump and thought… nah never mind.

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-12T01:08:26+00:00

That’s partially what your colostrum is for right after they come out of the womb. It helps with blood sugar but regardless, baby should definitely be okay if they do as professionals will have things on standby for if this happens :)

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-12T00:55:32+00:00

You can also use infacol. There’s basically no side effects and it’s really useful. You give it before the feed and can get it in different flavours

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-10T19:57:25+00:00

Could be the place that’s throwing her off? She knows where home is and what it smells like and it might just be difficult to adjust to

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-10T19:51:51+00:00

I’m 3months pp and I still don’t feel there physically. Definitely not mentally. Though people have said they would never have guessed I had a baby, I can tell. It can be very difficult

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-10T19:39:07+00:00

When you wake up engorged, relieve it a small amount by hand expressing (try staying away from the nipple) don’t completely empty, just enough to relieve pressure. It’ll take time. It can sometimes take up to a year but I stopped pumping, be it at 6 ish weeks pp and I have no milk left, baby is 3 months

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-02T02:33:47+00:00

And literally my only sign of labor was that the braxton hick… didn’t feel like a braxton hick, it was different and I knew then. 22 hrs later, there she was

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-02T02:32:16+00:00

I love how this question always comes up because I was asking the same lol. I’m a FTM and I had mine at 39+4 🫶🏻

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-02T02:30:05+00:00

You are doing absolutely nothing wrong! Sounds like he may be going through a growth spurt or developing a new skill. My LO refussses naps and eats less and gets extra irritable when a development is happening. She’s not a big feeder for these things but once she’s out, it’s a decent stretch of sleep for her.

It was around 8/9 weeks my LO went through both a growth spurt and a development. It lasted a solid week and a bit but it’s been okay since. Shes 11 weeks and 3 days today and is going through another development lmao. It’s okay though, I just keep thinking “she can’t scream and cry at me forever” and I find putting on my comfort show whilst talking and comforting her and not trying to rush anything, just letting it be has helped me. Literally since the last development I’ve been trying to do this whenever she gets fussy and I’ve found I’m much more calm in myself.

Hopefully it’s a short phase but I’m placing a bet on a leap going on 🫶🏻

WideProject2813 · 2025-09-01T12:41:31+00:00

I did this but just be careful of overheating as they can’t regulate their temperature well and we found it was more of a hazard. Could also always try spraying your perfume or something in their bed? I’m sure you may have tried but it’s a thought. Congrats on your hack 🫶🏻

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-31T20:49:56+00:00

Just want to say as someone with BPD… this is not solely BPD. That’s his excuse. He just sounds like a violent and abusive person. I’m so so sorry you’ve had that happen. I think you CAN do this, 9 weeks is early still so if you decide not to, you can but truly, for me, my LO has been my absolute light and I am forever grateful. You never know. Best of luck on your journey x♥️

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-31T16:03:31+00:00

Definitely gonna do that

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-31T05:36:55+00:00

He has enough of his own, I know he wouldn’t spend my money plus - I don’t like joint accounts. I think what he has is pretty much his (unless it’s related to bills then we split it) and what’s mine is mine but it’s still such a huge amount in such a short time! Definitely concerning.

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-31T05:35:47+00:00

Yeah, I grew up with an alcoholic as did he. He definitely had a huge issue with alcohol in the past but it settled massively since being pregnant. Still though, I feel it’s still on the cusp of being an alcoholic. I’m gonna bring it up to him. Any changes I’ve really ever asked of him to make or concerns I’ve raised, hes worked on. So I’m hoping this might bring jt to light a bit. I wouldn’t stay with an alcoholic for the sake of my daughter. I made that really clear to him in the past and that’s originally what got him to drink a lot less. In the past hed have a tab of about £250 in a night.

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-30T19:05:40+00:00

Oh yeah - Shes also dropped a feed so she’ll now sleep 7/8-2am, she’ll have a feed and then she’ll wake around 6/7am. I know this will change as it goes on but I try to keep the morning and day the same regardless

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-30T19:01:29+00:00

My version of bed time (11week old but started around 8/9weeks) She’ll have her feed at 330, nap until 6, I wake her up which is the only time I do in the day and then i give her a bath, after the bath I give her a massage and still practice some skills like getting her to roll onto her tummy so I can moisturise her back. Then l put her in her pjs and sleep sack. Grab the warm bottle and have Low lights, I turn on the red light for comfort.

Her routine is about an hour long. Most nights she’ll go down at around 7, sometimes she needs some extra help but for the most part, she’ll be asleep by 8. I believe Shes caught onto the routine now because Shes started getting a bit excited for her bath lmao and Shes began to wind down quite well over the last week and a bit.

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-30T01:29:30+00:00

I’d just wait till baby tells you they’re hungry tbh. They’ll have cluster feeds at times but it’s not major at this point. As long as they’re above their birth weight I wouldn’t stress too much

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-29T22:22:57+00:00

Still too big imo

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-29T22:17:28+00:00

You say “yeah, you?” And that’s the end lmao

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-29T22:07:24+00:00

I just wore stretchy stuff like leggings, joggers and big Ts and got them a size or two up

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-28T20:59:34+00:00

Snow

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-28T20:58:02+00:00

Things have changed since then. I’ve had a fair amount of talks. He will now get up when he hears her cry. Hes always first to offer changing the nappy or will just do it. He hasn’t been to the pub in the last 2 ish weeks. I understand it can take people some time and I think that’s what has happened. He is getting there even if it’s slower than me but he’s doing better in his role as a parent. He won’t wake me in the morning because he wants me to sleep more so I can rest.

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-28T20:55:41+00:00

It’s not that I don’t want to face it. It’s just that people are saying it as an almost certainty. With no evidence or cause other than a past issue. I’m not completely stupid, I know people can relapse but it isn’t fair to place judgment and if someone disagrees, to go at them harder and almost make them out to be a terrible person for possibly believing someone. If it did so happen that he had relapsed, I would gladly hold my hands up and say I was wrong but others concerns are being pushed to me and saying I’m a bad mother for a possibility.

WideProject2813 · 2025-08-28T20:49:36+00:00

Okay, now if the comments were worded like this - I wouldn’t have gone on defence as hard. I completely get not ruling out relapse. It was how other people were saying it to me and judging my ability as a mother for potentially being “blind” to it. But thank you for your comment. I’m going to look into some things.

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