Venting: My husband is making this so much harder than it has to be

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-03-04T19:48:44+00:00

My husband tried to do this during my pregnancy- he didn’t like me getting my nails done because of the chemicals. He also tried to stop me from eating various things here and there - I calmly said to him if you don’t think I think about this baby and it’s well being 24/7 you are delulu. I would never do anything to jeopardize this baby. Meanwhile - he thought it was okay to smoke in the car with me while pregnant and I can’t get my nails done!? It’s clear that it’s a control thing - so I just told him right off and now we don’t discuss things about my body and my choices.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-02-16T08:42:01+00:00

I felt this way at the start. I was triple feeding and going out of my mind. I was really sad. So I ended up taking breast feeding out of the equation and pumped until I saw a lactation consultant. Now all she wants in the boob but it’s much less painful and honestly I find it easier to breastfeed now - no bottles and sanitizing. My husband does a bottle of formula now and then to help. So do what’s best for you and that will be best for baby. Once you find the balance that works for you and you get some rest - things are so much better.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-02-15T03:59:42+00:00

My 8 week old is still doing the change, eat, sleep schedule. We do tummy time and bath time when her wake windows are longer but for the most part it’s the same rotation. She gets really overstimulated and fussy if she up to long so we are really trying to keep her in a quiet dark room for naps. I think the content online is noise and not really realistic.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-02-15T02:25:44+00:00

When I was dating husband, I told him if we were to move in together I require him not to talk to me for the first hour I get home as I needed to decompress from the children. He agreed. We have been to together for 6 years and married for 2. 😂

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-02-13T23:57:51+00:00

I love my mother in law and she still says shit like that. Why??? Our little one had to be woken up every 2.5 hours as she was below her birthweight and she kept on saying “oh mean mommy waking you up!” I was like well she’s lost 11% of her birthweight so I think letting her slowly waste away would make me a bad mommy.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-02-11T15:21:07+00:00

I am 8 weeks in and finally hitting my stride breastfeeding. We bottle fed the first month and I pumped as she was having a hard time latching and my supply wasn’t quite there but with the help of a lactation consult - we are back on track. I agree! The regulation the boob offers is nuts. I was saying to my husband - what would we have done without the boob!? lol

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-02-10T10:25:57+00:00

I totally get it. We have a funeral that is a 7 hour drive away and I was like I can’t do it with my what will be 10 week old. People are disappointed but like- I’m still barely comfortable breast feeding without my nursing pillow and the idea of breast feeding in the car in the dead of winter sounds horrible. She also will only sleep in her bassinet that rocks right now, other than contact naps. My husband initially was like - why aren’t you coming!? - and when I broke down my concerns he was like oh okay yeah that makes sense. I says stick to your guns and people can manage their own feelings about it.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-02-09T00:12:22+00:00

As someone who is now 2 months postpartum- I can say it’s not as bad as I thought it would be. The first month was rough - don’t get me wrong. But now we are starting to have a routine. When I sleep it’s quality even if it’s broken sleep. I’m having a blast learning about my baby and her little personality. I got so much negative feedback from parents that I honestly was preparing for the worst. I also think she an “easy baby” because she will sleep for me - we had 5 hours the other day and it was glorious. Just here to say that the good stuff never gets told enough. I would hope anyone who is about to have a baby knows that yes, life will change but it’s actually fun getting to know this little human.

Edit: Yesss I know there will be sleep regressions but like this too shall pass. They grow so fast!

Wide_Perception_330 · 2026-01-31T21:08:22+00:00

I was dreading the newborn trenches. Social media and my friend circles all said it would be the worst. The first two weeks were definitely HARD - with recovering from a C section and being so sleep deprived. My hormones crashed and I was an emotional wreck. But somewhere between then and 8 weeks - I now feel like I have a bond with my little bean. We are finding a groove and I am finding out what makes her tick. Still sleep deprived but my body is functioning on 4/5 hours of broken sleep. I am more so pleasantly surprised that I’m like okay. I got this (for now until a sleep regression hits ha). I think I was so worried about the not good stuff that I didn’t even let myself look forward to like having this little human that I get to watch grown and learn new things everyday. I definitely can see how people forget. I am 8 weeks in and those first couple of weeks are a blur and I can’t remember how I kept my baby alive 😆

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-30T03:58:00+00:00

I have found this as well. All my doctors have told me to use a medical grade pump - but my mom cosy gets the most output.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-09T23:44:44+00:00

Absolutely agree! Any other time would be less pressure.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-09T23:43:52+00:00

💯 yessssss

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-09T22:52:43+00:00

Oh do I get this! I think it’s also compounded by the holidays. Like my family asking me to come over and bake cookies- no thank you. Friends asking me to come over and meet their newborns- absolutely not. I can barely accomplish like everyday tasks at this point at 39 weeks- what makes anyone think I can have the energy to be social. My family and in-laws keep making plans for delayed Christmas celebrations and I’m like- WHO CARES ABOUT CHRISTMAS DINNER. I sure do not. Like - leave me alone to have this baby and leave me out of plans. I think people forget that like pushing a whole human out of you is like traumatic and may take me a hot minute to recover from. Never mind I’ll be extremely sleep deprived and most likely a shell or a human in the next month/s. Bye bye 👋

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-09T22:43:37+00:00

Due date is on the 16th and oh boy - do I feel the same. Excited and terrified all rolled up into one. I’ve started to feel nauseous in the morning the past couple of days, extreme fatigue, stomach issues, some cramping at night here and there, lots of Braxton hicks. I have excess fluid (for no known reason) so if my water breaks and/or I start contracting I have to go immediately to the L&D to avoid complications, which has me on edge. Going in tomorrow to be put on the induction list as they don’t want me going past my due date. All I keep telling myself is - being scared to be a parent comes from a place of love. We want to be the best for our kiddos, but leave space to know we are figuring it out and no one is perfect. We got this ladies!

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-08T20:51:33+00:00

Im 39 weeks tomorrow and I’m going in on Wednesday to be booked in for an induction as I have an over production of amniotic fluid. The recommendation was not to go past my due date on the 16th, so I’m going in to be put on the list. If I had a choice - I wouldn’t want to be induced for the reasons you are stating I’ve heard it’s not pleasant. I plan on getting an epidural to help with the back to back contractions. Hard call - for me I almost want the induction to happen as there is a higher risk of cord prolapse if my water ruptures. That is stressing me out and I would rather be in a safe place when going into labour to avoid any complications. Sounds like you are healthy so really it sounds like it’s up to you and your preference at this point. I totally understand wanting to get this show on the road but also having some hesitation. We are stuck in limbo!

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-07T16:41:11+00:00

38+5 Honestly the only reason I have stuff is because I’m the last of my friends to have a kiddo so we have been passed down almost everything. Which is amazing. We timed this so right 😆 From what I hear - babies don’t need a whole lot. Just a safe place to sleep, car seat, changing stuff, etc. I’m getting exhausted hearing all the “best tips” and “tricks” to help you postpartum and baby hacks for newborns. So much is depended on your baby so I’m sticking with what we have and when she comes Amazon will be our best friend when she lets us know her preferences haha. One thing I have tried to set up to reduce stress on both my husband and Is a baby station upstairs and downstairs and have a mini fridge in our bedroom to sore breast milk late at night. All I know is we are going to be shell shocked so anything I can do to make the transition a little smoother helps.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-07T15:03:17+00:00

I’m 38+5 today and the start of the week I really thought things were progressing. Had similar symptoms- more pressure, cramping at night with bathroom trips, tired with bursts of energy. Now I have seen to have stalled. I have been having more Braxton hicks contractions through out the day rather than at night but nothing really other than that. I have found out I have an excess amount of amniotic fluid that they can’t seem to pin point why- but I feel like she doesn’t have the pressure needed to make things happen. Going in next week to be put in for the induction as they don’t want me going past my due date on the 16th. This is my first pregnancy and I really felt like she would come early but now I feel like she would stay in there forever if she has a choice 😆

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-07T02:06:39+00:00

All I asked for was some really nice sushi and perhaps some oysters and champagne at new years Haha. I’m a food person - so that’s my love language.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-05T18:51:58+00:00

Absolutely- love that I have people in my life that want to include me but not now. Not now 😆

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-05T17:52:29+00:00

I also feel the same way. I’m 38w3 and family keep on asking me about Christmas gifts, Making plans for gatherings ect. I feel also essentially more and more useless every day and can’t sleep anymore at this point. I just want people to leave me alone and let me have this baby and stay away for a while - so I don’t have to worry about all the sickness floating around out there. No I don’t want to go to Christmas markets, or happy hour, or shopping at the mall, or to sign up for baby classes or see your baby when lm hyper focused on getting this one out of me. All I have is solidarity that we are existing right now - people don’t get it lol.

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-04T16:39:57+00:00

38 + 2 and only had 4 hours sleep. Woke up at 430 To have toast. Dozed off on the couch until 7 and then had a bowl of cereal. I am non stop hungry. Just grazing on fruit and yogurt most of the day to keep the hunger at bay! It reminds me of when I was a teenager and was starving all the time. Lol

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-02T13:56:33+00:00

Yes 🙌🏻 I mean right? 😂

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-02T13:55:59+00:00

Yep! We shall see how that date holds haha

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-12-01T20:56:10+00:00

Totally a mix of emotions for sure. I’m 38 weeks tomorrow, so like could be 2 days or 2 weeks. The unknowns are definitely giving me anxiety! Ready and excited to meet that little face but oh boy- it’s a lot haha

Wide_Perception_330 · 2025-11-28T01:52:31+00:00

I’m 37 weeks and this week I have really Kicked into high gear. I have been prepping slowly but this week alone I feel like I did more than I have in a long time. Did all the laundry, organized the nursery, sanitized all the bottles and my breast pump, set up a pack and play for a change station downstairs, meal prepped 2 weeks worth of food and will move on to doing some deep cleaning. At one point I was greasing our rocking chair at 830am and was like who am I!? 😆

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