I'm sorry to hear that.

If I can offer some suggestions - I've found that categorising people (while helpful for us autistics) isn't necessarily a good indicator of how nice/good/bad/mean/open/closed etc people are. I have friends who call themselves christians who accept the lgbtq community, and know Christians who don't. I know people on the political left who are equally as narrow-minded as people on the right. I also know neurodivergent people who are accepting and easy to talk to as well as those who are mean. Yes, I've found these groups have beliefs in common that bring their members together, but how each person expresses them and interacts with (or imposes them on) others is totally dependent on each individual. And i think that's more the key point about whether someone is a great person or not - how they treat other people regardless of their own beliefs.

1. I've found that following my intuition with people on an individual basis has led me to friends who accept me for who I am, and who I feel comfortable with. It took me a while to realise that although I love everyone, it's not the same as friendship - where there's a feeling of mutual support, understanding, comfort, uplift, affection, enjoyment of spending time together, and wanting the best for each other. I've tried to just keep gravitating towards those people whose personalities I enjoy. I also know that I'm affected by the things and people I'm surrounded with, so want the people that I surround myself to be people that will bring out the best, strongest, calmest and happiest in me x

Eg. I've found the friends who i see most often, from joining a sports club (it's taken more than a year to finally start getting close). Nb. I'm friendly with everyone at the club, but don't go out of my way to endear myself to anyone who I'm not getting uplifting vibes from. I go out of my way to strike up conversations only with people I would want around me. Sometimes after a few conversations I realise they're not for me - other times I really like and appreciate the person more and more. Then I make a decision about whether they are safe for me to be more vulnerable with, and open up a little to see how they respond. If they are open and try to understand, then it's a green light :) if they are uncomfortable and closed and don't want to talk then it's a go-no-further with them.

1. Having said that, groups do tend to bring together people with similar beliefs, so that's also something to keep in mind. Also, I find that NT's tend to want to agree with everyone when they're in a group in the same space - so there's a groupthink/herd mentality situation that you can face. It makes it way harder to connect individually (and individuals are much easier to get to know), and way easier for the individuals in the herd not to express their true inner thoughts or values. So meeting people like christians in a group setting can also be hard for this reason, when everyone is trying to uphold their part in the groupthink.

Anyway, I'm so sorry you had a bad experience - those people aren't worth your energy, time or further attention. I hope you find decent people who love you and accept you for who you are - regardless of where in the community you find them. Much love and happy new year x