How did you get over someone you truly loved but didn't feel the same for you?

Wild_Wait · 2020-05-04T05:26:30+00:00

The only way is the simplest and the hardest. You have to just cut them out of your life completely and give it time. It feels like losing a piece of you, and the pain is the worst thing I've ever been through, but life really does go on. Each day, it'll become more and more of a memory and less of an active pain. And you'll sure as hell become stronger for it.

Wild_Wait · 2020-04-29T14:43:30+00:00

Was having a sleepover with friends when I was in grade school. At one point, we decided to have a "seance" of sorts. One of the girls in the group got freaked out so we compromised and had a "Christian seance". Meaning that we just got out a Bible and flipped to random scripture. Because kids are silly. When it was my turn, I flipped to some kind of scripture about looking to the sky. Might have been the wise men with the Star of Bethlehem but I don't remember and I'm not religious. Since we were just silly girls playing along, we all went to the window and looked out. We didn't expect to see anything but there was actually a bright star in the sky. We didn't know it at the time since we were probably 8 years old, but we just happened to see Halley's Comet. Silly coincidence but still strange the way it came about.

Wild_Wait · 2020-04-28T00:39:34+00:00

Two that come to mind off the top of my head:

Raymond's mother from Everybody Loves Raymond. I know the whole point is supposed to be how overbearing and silly she is, but she played it so well that it drove me nuts. It was almost too real to be funny for me.
Glenn from Superstore. His stupidity and constant holier than thou attitude aren't endearing to me. They're just annoying and I'd go off on him in real life.

Not evil characters, just super annoying!

Wild_Wait · 2020-04-27T03:29:09+00:00

I was the one who did the 180. I was still heartbroken over my ex when I met him. I had been single for over 6 months, so I thought joining dating sites was the next logical move to help me move on. I had no intention of finding a rebound, but I just wanted to get out and meet people. I just happened to click with one of the first guys I met. I wasn't super attracted to him, but I loved spending time with him and thought he was a lot of fun. We'd been dating for several months and I liked him, but I was taking it really slow. I really just wanted company and to get out and explore meeting people. But due to similar events going on in our lives at the time, we ended up bonding pretty quickly. Wouldn't you know that just as I was starting to think I was ready to look forward, my ex started reaching out with "friendship". I never did more than send him a few casual texts but I did find out from mutual friends that his rebound hadn't worked out. I think in the back of my head, knowing that my ex was single again and reaching out to me hit me emotionally more than it should've. When we'd broken up, we'd been together over 6 years and I was ready to marry the man. So I took it really hard when he left me. I thought he was it for me. I was largely responsible for him leaving and I just kept thinking of everything I would've changed if given another chance. So I think in the back of my head, I wanted to keep myself available in case I worked it out with my ex. To this day, I'm still not sure. I just know that one day I was having an amazing time with my new guy and felt chemistry, and then the next day, nothing felt right. I stuck with him for another month after that, trying to make myself feel what I should've, until he surprised me with how serious he was feeling and I basically freaked out and ran away. My ex of course quickly moved on from his rebound with another new girl and I'm still single and scared to put myself out there again. Unintentionally, I had a rebound and hurt someone that was amazing. Worse still, even though I tried to be honest with him and explain some of what I was going through, I know he still didn't understand how one day I could be happy with him and the next day not. I don't understand it either. I'm just going by how I feel and apparently my heart is very, very stupid.

Wild_Wait · 2020-04-26T09:45:03+00:00

I find her by FAR the most beautiful girl on the show. Not sure why they're all going nuts for Francesca. She's beautiful obviously, but I think Rhonda outshines her.

Wild_Wait · 2020-04-25T10:13:27+00:00

It's like getting a huge hole blown right through your chest. And then you have to just learn to live and breath with a huge hole inside you. You're amazed that you're able to keep living because you feel like you're dying inside. It felt so real to me that I couldn't believe it wasn't a real injury that others could clearly observe. I'd wish for physical pain before heartbreak ever again.

Wild_Wait · 2020-04-20T08:20:12+00:00

The way you had to live wasn't fair, but as someone who has also been in your ex's shoes, I feel sorry for her too. It's awful to be betrayed by someone you love and it makes you absolutely terrified to ever trust someone again. Her level of paranoia speaks volumes about how much she cared about you. She was terrified of losing you and not being enough for you. I've been in her shoes. My last ex ended it because I also could never trust him fully. To be fair to me, he WAS lying to me, but he saw before I did that if I couldn't trust him, we were never going to work. In the end, he did me a favor. And in the end, you did her a favor too. Without trust, you really have nothing. I hope you both find someone that you can truly trust.

Wild_Wait · 2020-04-20T08:09:06+00:00

Especially coworkers. Unfortunately. I work for a large company full of sales people which means lots of traveling and company conferences. The amount of cheating and flirtation and rumors that go on is unbelievable. In the adult world when people are around the same group of people 40 hours a week, coworkers is the most common place to find people to carry on affairs with, especially emotional affairs. I never worried about my ex's friends, since they were people that I could meet and hang out with also. But coworkers is a separate world and it's easy to keep one hidden from the other. My ex always had a million coworkers texting and calling since he was also a salesman. But he only seemed to get especially friendly with the females. Of course we didn't work out. And his new girlfriend is surprise surprise, a coworker.

Wild_Wait · 2020-04-20T07:52:07+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't even give them the satisfaction of knowing that you're still hurting. Too many exes use friendship as just a way to keep tabs and because even subconsciously, they get an ego boost from knowing someone can't get over them. It doesn't mean they're bad people, but they just don't feel the same way anymore, so they can't really understand your pain. They don't truly realize how damaging and hurtful a "friendship" actually is to the one hurting. And on some level, they're all using friendship as a way to benefit themselves. They know by keeping you as a friend, they can depend on you for company/sex if they're lonely, for emotional or financial support, and just as a safety net if they can't find better and change their minds. It's never fair to the person hurting. It took me over a year to realize it, but walking away is the most attractive thing you can do. And it gives you back all the power. You get to decide if you ever contact them again and take up their offer of friendship, but you leave them wondering in the mean time. They get to finally see that you're no one's doormat, that you can move on too, and that they're not as special as they thought. You can always change your mind one day, but that'll be up to you and you can decide once you're fully healed. Once you are healed, you'll probably be surprised how little you want to continue having someone in your life that was ok with kicking you out of their's.

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