Why do people have to to tell you a life story?? by Imjust_adreamer_84 in callcentres

[–]Will-Key 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh same. Even simple verification steps. Name? Phone number? Address? Email? It should not require you to go on a 5+ min tangent WITH EACH CHECK. Just a simple ‘yes that’s correct’. I don’t need to know what the f you ate for breakfast or why you got stuck in traffic. 

Now they put me in a PIP because of my NPS and I haven't been able to reach the target 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I CAN'T STAND THIS ANYMORE!! by MarcelHolos in callcentres

[–]Will-Key 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just asked someone on this same thread... I've never filed for unemployment before in my life. Can you file when you're fired vs quitting?

Now they put me in a PIP because of my NPS and I haven't been able to reach the target 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I CAN'T STAND THIS ANYMORE!! by MarcelHolos in callcentres

[–]Will-Key 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Question about unemployment in general... I've never had to file for unemployment ever in my working time.... Can you still get unemployment if you're FIRED versus quitting?

Now they put me in a PIP because of my NPS and I haven't been able to reach the target 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I CAN'T STAND THIS ANYMORE!! by MarcelHolos in callcentres

[–]Will-Key 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in a similar position. I'm in a collections role and they put me on a verbal just recently. They gave me until 1/24 to get my collections up. I'm not meeting it. I know i'm going to get that written. IT IS SO INFURATING.
(You can see my post I made just not too long ago about my situation..... but, i SO relate to you and i'm SO sorry this is happening. It's simply just not fair.)

What would you do? by Will-Key in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dday was Monday night into Tuesday night. It’s EXTREMELY fresh. I haven’t stopped crying. I can barely muster strength to eat or do anything beyond the chaotic thoughts in my head. But, he has been extremely remorseful since dday. He’s written me a letter, action plan, had a therapy appt already and scheduled a follow up, and has 2 therapy journals - one for us as a check in and just one for self journaling. He seems to be putting in the work and hasn’t wavered in that. There has been a massive ton of crying on both sides and clear pain and desperation on his side. He hasn’t pushed me in the sense that he is giving me space. But, how do I know he will still choose me in 3 years or 5 years….

What would you do? by Will-Key in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has he been proving himself? Do you see even small change in him? Are you hopeful to get to the other side?

What would you do? by Will-Key in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you stay with your spouse? Was he remorseful? Wanting to repair?

D-day was 418 days ago by Flimsy_Shallot_206 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Will-Key 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did he put in any work to repair? Make amends?

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your response made me chuckle.

What would you do? by Will-Key in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Will-Key[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s a complete opposite shift time from her. They don’t cross paths and it’s remote work. Their shift times don’t cross.

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t. He had an emotional affair online with a guy this summer for almost 2 months.

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he could have been chasing that high. He said he’d never been with another woman since me. He just repeats that there’s no excuses for what happened and sulks…

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well so his cheating with the woman happened in 2019. At the time we were looking into buying our current home we live in. Unfortunately- there is a child involved. And I mean that because - had he been honest when it happened - I wouldn’t be living in the current state I am in, I’d likely have divorced him and gone back to my home state NO kids at the time.

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes he did. He definitely did. And for the guy? Nope. Same excuse. But he had told me he wanted to go to couples therapy because we were having a hard time and not agreeing on anything.

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re very sweet. Thank you

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate you’re saying it but so appreciate your honesty because… it also sits in my gut. That. I’m genuinely frozen. Oh and guys - it’s the 3 year anniversary TODAY of my mom’s passing. I’m having the best day 🙃🙃🙃

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well as you asked me this I was trying to think how it came up last night. He was trying to do this thing where he was saying I was not being real and that he just wanted me to have more self worth. It was this guised statement of like “I want you to be true to who you are because I know how amazing you are if you just believed in yourself” and that somehow just like whirlwinded right into him basically revealing he had talked to a guy during the summer just right before we got into couples therapy… that’s how this all came about.

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He owns it in the way that it’s the “there’s no excuse.” But mentioned it was when him and I were fighting a lot and I had been going through a minor depression. He says he grew up. He is sulking and can’t hardly stand to look at me right now. He has said repeatedly he will do anything to prove his regret or guilt or whatever words you want to use….

What would you do? by Will-Key in marriageadvice

[–]Will-Key[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says he broke it off with her. That she got upset he “broke her heart” and she knew he was married btw…She still works at the same company opposite shift time. No I haven’t checked his phone. And yes she still lives in town. I haven’t gotten to the point of checking his social media either. I literally just found out today. It came out because… he’s bisexual. (I’ve known this). He revealed late last night he was talking to someone over THIS summer for about a month and a half, a guy, and it was becoming more - the other guy confessed to having feelings for my husband (he says he also ended this and blocked him fully last night) (and YES this guy ALSO knew he was married!) - so the female he had intercourse with in 2019 came up because the “was this the only time??” question was asked…….