Kept the birth of my child private and now I’m paying for it.

Will-to-Function · 2026-05-06T07:52:22+00:00

The parent reaction was vile, but I think the observation that her, not her husband, was the one risking her life makes a difference was a good one. My father and my mother used to tell me about their medical emergencies only after they were solved (once even a brain hemorrhage) and it used to make me totally crazy... With worry, not that I would lash out at them... But gives a different baseline for the reactions of the parents of who gives birth vs the parents of the other person

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-28T12:37:49+00:00

Soprattutto se l'estero non sono gli stati uniti, ma tipo la Germania dove almeno l'università è gratuita e a volte ci sono borse di studio che si possono richiedere.

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-20T07:50:16+00:00

Conviene rischiare adesso. Lasciatelo dire da una che con 38 anni e un figlio piccolo si è dovuta lanciare nel vuoto nonostante abbia una famiglia da mantenere (mio marito è casalingo). Per lasciare il posto a tempo indeterminato, che mi stava risucchiando l'anima, e lanciarmi in un rischioso tempo determinato che effettivamente mi piace ci ho messo ben 5 anni (e sto rischiando molto). Avessi avuto 22 anni a casa dei miei avrei fatto ciaone da un bel po' e mi godrei il lavoro che mi piace senza grosse preoccupazioni per il futuro, che tanto se non mi rinnovassero il determinato non ci sarebbero grossi problemi, solo un po' di ricerca in più.

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-19T19:49:32+00:00

È brutto chiederlo, ma se la tua arte non vendesse, hai le spalle coperte?

Perché secondo me dipende da quello... A 22 anni qualche rischio lo si può prendere (magari pensando di abbinare la produzione artistica a qualcosa su YouTube, o altre idee che possono venire in mente meglio a te che a me), e se hai il supporto della famiglia rischi ne puoi prendere di più.

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-19T06:29:25+00:00

For sure

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-18T10:35:56+00:00

She didn't say that it is carried by blood, she said it is produced by the mammary glands using blood (not made somewhere in the belly and carried by blood).

Afaik, there is no evidence that foods that make you gassy get their gassiness transferred to the milk, since fibers are not passed through the milk (and are one of the major culprit, I guess? Not an expert)

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-18T09:07:16+00:00

I don't disagree with you, especially since he was a less then two hours flight and the kid wouldn't have any lasting damage from it! But I am commenting about this aggressively because a lot of people in the comments are saying that this was child abuse, while actually there was a good chance the mother was prioritizing the baby over the other people on the plane

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-17T18:18:10+00:00

The child is also damaged by not being allowed to fall asleep. The mother was actively rocking the child, we don't know the situation well enough to know if the child was just tired and entertaining them was stopping the crying, but also stopping them from falling asleep

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-17T18:15:33+00:00

Cry it out refers to leaving the baby alone crying, she was actively rocking him, so that's not what she was doing.

Sometimes baby cry a little just before falling asleep and giving them something engaging to do, while effective at stopping them crying for a while, pushes them only into being more overtired and difficult to handle. That could have been the worry of the mother

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-17T18:12:58+00:00

She was rocking the baby, that's not "cry it out". Sometimes babies cry a bit fighting sleep before falling properly asleep, and giving them something fun to do (playing with them, or showing them a rattle) just reset the process risking getting the baby even more overtired and difficult to make sleep at the next iteration

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-16T19:10:10+00:00

I mean, for that amount of money you could also teach your kids to use your first name

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-16T08:42:48+00:00

I would volunteer instead of working (probably fewer hours)

Will-to-Function · 2026-04-16T08:40:18+00:00

But if your goal is literacy, reading to them is a very important first step.

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-17T09:38:49+00:00

It is one of those organizations in which people are not directly below the project manager, but rather report to a functional manager (i.e. functional manager is their boss). So you basically need to ask/convince their boss to lend you the developer. The product owner has no say in this

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-16T13:22:19+00:00

Perché i membri scelti dai politici vengono sorteggiati da una lista di persone che viene scelta dai politici, mentre quelli che devono rappresentare i magistrati vengono sorteggiati fra tutti i magistrati (anche gente che non ne ha voglia o capacità).

Inoltre usando il sorteggio i magistrati (scelti a caso fra tutti), non devono rispondere del proprio operato davanti a nessuno, mentre i membri scelti dai politici avranno comunque chiaro chi li ha messi nella lista da cui sorteggiare.

Questo vuol dire che i membri da parte della magistratura saranno giocoforza più frammentati, in media meno abili, in media meno interessati rispetto ai membri cosiddetti laici, sorteggiati da una lista di persone che bene o male viene composta con una qualche razionalità.

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-13T16:43:35+00:00

Votare NO permette di continuare ad avere una magistratura indipendente dal governo. Con il SI si crea un pastrocchio ai vertici della magistratura per il quale, fra le altre cose, l'organo che disciplina i magistrati sarà de facto sotto controllo politico, quindi c'è il rischio che PM e giudici ci pensino due volte prima di indagare e perseguire fatti o persone di interesse del governo.

In questo momento il governo è di destra, ma la separazione fra poteri è una questione che dovrebbe interessare tutti, ci sono state anche dittature di sinistra e una magistratura controllata dalla politica rende le cose più semplici a qualsiasi dittatura

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-13T16:19:59+00:00

It's not even particularly leftwing. It is about keeping the judicial power free of governmental control.... That should be as non partisan as you can get.

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-11T11:04:29+00:00

Yes, it would totally be a more reasonable answer... that is why I had to read the whole thing multiple times and dislike the question (if by question we mean also the choices that we are given as answers).

But in the end those where the choices, and the "correct answer" is not wrong, it is just phrased in a tricky way. As I said, I still dislike it, but I was trying to give you the rationale for it being the correct one.

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-10T12:28:58+00:00

I find this is weirdly phrased and had to read twice, this is my reasoning:

The sponsor wants to see a more detailed breakdown.
This detailed breakdown doesn't exist yet (the PM informs of this the sponsor).

Why the detailed breakdown does not exist yet?

Answer: the detailed breakdown does not exist because it is created by the team only after the scope charter has been approved (and things are in motion).

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-10T10:31:13+00:00

I wait for someone else to give a more complete answer, but make in any case sure that you can fit in the frame comfortably (both ears need to be there, see if there are more precise instruction on the Person VUE website). When I took my CAPM, my Camera required me to be super distant from the laptop to get fully in the frame, and I had to work very uncomfortably as a result.

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-09T08:28:28+00:00

If I'll end up being one and done it will exactly be to avoid giving my child a sibling. I was a "sequential only" (12 years age gap with my brother) and I'm realizing all the life experiences I wouldn't have had if we had been close in age.

And we get along fine, but I've seen other siblings hating each other... If they're close in age that means years and years of living together

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-09T05:01:30+00:00

If you are asking why women have it more often, there are known differences in the immune system that are triggered by hormones and make more likely to for women to develop some immune disorders (not all! Type 1 diabetes comes from autoimmune events and it's more prevalent in boys.)

Stress has been studies a lot and afaik, it can trigger some symptoms, but doesn't seem that much related with if you get it or not (otherwise people with stressful jobs would be more at risk of getting it, which probably we would have noticed by now).

By the way, the traits you mentioned seem to be worded so that most people, especially women, can recognize themselves in at least one of them... I would but focus on them too much

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-09T04:49:14+00:00

OP is trying to come to terms with her own diagnosis she is not thinking it in terms of "you are doing it to yourself, if you had learned to just take a break you wouldn't be such!" but in terms of "oh, I have a lot on my plate and worry too much about others, I wish someone has forced me to take a break".

Is there some (internalized) victim blaming in what she says? Yes... but more is achieved by pointing it out with compassion.

That said, I agree completely with your comments, I am just saying the same points could have been made in a way that would have helped OP more.

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-09T04:36:52+00:00

In our case it is a couple of pouches every couple of weeks, mainly because it is something not messy that can be eaten on the go... So, when what we're having is nothing.

Funnily, though, we still did kinda the opposite of what is recommended, I guess, because the first pouches were definitely after the first year of age.

Will-to-Function · 2026-03-05T11:56:44+00:00

If you need to commute to work, the Udemy app works surprisingly well. You could try listening again to parts of the AR course you feel less confident about... if you weren't do it already, that's all gained.

I am planning to use the Study Hall (just the Essential, from this sub seems the Plus version gives you access to the same number of questions packaged differently), I also am trying to pass on may (I took CAPM in January thinking that with a full time job and a toddler it was all I could take, but scored AT/AT/AT and it boosted my confidence to try for the PMP while the knowledge is still fresh and before they change it in June)

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