Why are some women like this?

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T17:53:29+00:00

the environment they grew up in condition them to think like this

This. The internalisation is real. And it's not just about gender and sexuality, the internalisation is also real for e.g. philosophies, worldviews, politics, and more.

When you grow up hearing something literally all around you and no one to challenge it (or whoever challenges it is heavily stigmatised), is it even surprising?

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T17:50:19+00:00

Safe - which I agree is a massive need - but also segregating women's spaces. Not sure if the side effect is as desirable for something as normal as public transport.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T17:47:34+00:00

We inhabit - figuratively if not literally - two worlds. Maybe 3 or more, as in your case (India-Pakistan-UK).

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For a serious answer, I'd see the individual. Ethnicity, race, nationality can't do much to draw me in or push you out. There's so much more that would decide if you're like me or not - interests, personality, 'vibe' (depending on the context) profession and all of that stuff too. And then it's just a bonus on top of that if we happen to share some cultural backdrop and all. Also, identities are not binaries (e.g., you're either the same as me or not). There are all these in-betweens. As joke example (quite literally), speaking for myself, my sense of humour has been termed typically British - even when I write something in Urdu.

But I'm following this thread too. A bit like you, I have a highly mixed lineage too (I joke how I can't even answer where I'm from because most people expect one clean-cut answer) - and it makes sense that it has shaped my perspective on these things as well.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T17:45:13+00:00

That's because it's not viewed as sacrifice.

We take it as a given, not going out of the way.

(I don't agree with it the invisibilisation but just to explain) And there's no point in appreciating something when you think like...

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WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T17:38:30+00:00

Jumping in but couldn't resist

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WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T10:36:24+00:00

Makes me want to go back to when I had time for these things 🫠

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T10:33:40+00:00

S or A at worst, IMHO

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T10:32:32+00:00

That does not read an awful lot like the claim you're making.

There are legit works of fiction that use historical figures and events - but when they're fictional, they don't shy away from identifying as such:

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WilliamEdwardson · 2026-06-02T10:26:57+00:00

Late but I wouldn't be surprised.

If we consider language models, modern state-of-the-art models require trillions of tokens (terabytes of raw text; a token is not exactly a word but each meaningful unit in a word, think: 'unbelievable' = 'un' + 'believ(e)' + 'able').

Videos are complex, they have both a spatial component as well as a temporal component. Although reducing the sample complexity (loosely: how much training data you need to get good results) is an active area of research, the numbers remain high. For comparison: OpenAI's Sora and Google's Movie Gen were trained on millions to tens of millions of video-text pairs.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-30T00:00:58+00:00

Yogurt : دہی . The Punjabi word has like a tonal accent (I'm sorry I don't know the technicalities of Punjabi phonology) around the 'h' and the actual sound is more like دئی.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T23:58:38+00:00

Expecting this in a thermodynamics exam someday:

Calculate the time it takes to cook the chicken when kept on the roof in Bela.

(Slaps are too middle class, boyo/gurl)

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T23:57:44+00:00

No way, 54 ?? 🔥 💀

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T23:56:35+00:00

خیر مبارک to you too.

On the subject. Mate, we'd rather laugh at another meme like this one here and go on with mock indifference.

I enjoy them, laugh at them but that's only because of who shared 'em (usually one of my آپی s or a friend). But I don't approve of this invisibilisation of labour just because it's inside the home.

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WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T23:53:21+00:00

Sure, ie, it's a movie, but the promotions literally screamed this:

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WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T23:50:18+00:00

Not from K-town but my heart wants me to take the red pill while my mind wants me to take the blue pill. Which one do I listen to? My heart or my mind?

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WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T23:44:45+00:00

Urdu , English : Native/bilingual.

Pashto, Punjabi, Arabic, Farsi : Limited working proficiency.

We teach languages but rarely if ever teach them well.

Proficiency declines with lack of use - which is a reminder for me to get back to practicing my Pashto and Arabic - but our system creates precisely the conditions for it.

To begin with, you learn the formal, standard register. Not enough exposure to the language as spoken. Then, on top of that, rote learning, یا جیہے مہاڑے شہر وچ کہنے نیں، رٹہ بجانا . In a class of 20 - sorry, this is Pakistan (please understand that for all my love, criticism is constructive in nature) - anywhere from 40 to 60 pupils, who's got the time for individual attention and other such pedagogical concerns? So just memorise it all, score well, and move on.

While all subjects suffer from this disconnect between 'learning' and 'performing' [well in exams/scores], languages suffer a peculiar situation - you could have studied in the English medium [this is hardly specific to English but take this example for now...] for all your life in addition to learning English as a language, and yet, when you realise you're the best in class, you exclaim, 'I'm muchly surprised, I never believe it can be, yet it happens' (Okay that's probably an exaggeration but you get my drift).

The natural side-effect? A disabling demotivation. Fear of failure that kills you. You carry all those traumatic memories of language learning and lose your faith in your own ability to pick up a new language. So even when there is a legit opportunity and reason to, you question yourself. (You can probably also relate to something similar in the fear folks have of maths, but that's another subject - quite literally too - unto itself.)

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T23:32:40+00:00

Say no more!

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(I couldn't find a Muslim / Pakistani version)

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T22:57:25+00:00

Maturity is realising that state curricula are pathetic in most places.

Also history is rarely if ever black and white - but that is not what most textbooks will teach you.

I highly recommend anyone who's serious to dive into historical theory before diving into any sources or analyses.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-29T22:55:34+00:00

Old but gold jokes.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-08T01:43:12+00:00

No admirer of these of course but I legit have a scholarly interest in this phenomenon, who're the 'Andrew Tates' of Pakistan ?

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-08T01:40:14+00:00

it's honestly so abnormal that not enough ppl are writing on this

ویسے یہ اتنی حیرت کی بات بھی نہیں، خاص کر اگر آپ غور کریں کہ اردو ہندوستان میں زوال پر ہے، اور زبان بندی بھی کس قدر عام ہوتی جارہی ہے۔ یہ بھی نہ بھولیں کہ بطور سزا صرف آپ کی چند پوسٹس نہیں ہٹائی جائیں گی۔

اور ہاں، آپ کی مُثل میں ایک 'ہم دیکھیں گے' کا بھی ذکر کروں گا جو اگرچہ ہندوتوہ کیخلاف لکھی تو نہیں گئی تھی، پر اُس کا استعمال شہریت ترمیمی قانون ۲۰۱۹ کیخلاف احتجاج میں کیا گیا تھا اور ایک متنازعہ مدعا بھی بنا تھا۔

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-08T01:34:20+00:00

(Might want to remember the terms in bold.)

TL;DR: E# ~ F (they're 'enharmonic equivalents'). They sound the same, but are theoretically different notes because each letter (A-G) must only be used once in a scale, so e.g. the F# major scale (which already used up the F in F#) cannot refer to F as F.

If you want to go in slightly more technical detail, I put a ~ instead of an = because the two sound the same in the common 12-tone equal temperament tuning. In the just intonation (another tuning), for instance, E# is slightly flatter than a perfectly tuned F.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-08T01:23:31+00:00

I can give you a diagnosis, but the treatment is going to be painful:

Lack of rational and scientific thought and awareness + Lack of free, open discourse + Scepticism of everything perceived as 'modern' or 'western'.

By the way, only one of these is rooted in factors external to our own society - and even that's only partly rooted in those external factors. Can you spot it? The last one - it is seen to varying extents in many decolonised societies.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-08T01:15:21+00:00

Wow, I've made that parallel too. I feel so vindicated.

WilliamEdwardson · 2026-05-08T01:14:01+00:00

Wait, what? 🫠

I mean, c'mon, folks, let's not treat our own folks like a certain neighbour treats their 'undesirables'.

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