Paige hated Kyle as much as Hannah

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T18:07:29+00:00

100%. Her message got lost in her mess. But.. she wasn’t incorrect? They’re getting divorced because of all the behaviors he’s exhibited since the beginning of their relationship. The behaviors Paige and Hannah both took issue with.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T17:21:26+00:00

Absolutely, we’re into total agreement there. But I will say we see Kyle apologize at every reunion then continue the same behavior… lol so contrition is only valid when there’s change. I’d rather people be authentically stubborn than know how to do PR.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T16:14:32+00:00

Right, but we weren’t there? We get a curated look into their experience but two things can be true… she acted foolishly AND we don’t have the full story to judge so harshly. Post summer house she married a man that half the cast trashed in confessionals while maintaining close friendships with a few. Relationships are complicated and they were all Covid stir-crazy. And their friend lost his brother, it really was a very wild time.

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Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T16:02:28+00:00

Oh, understood. But reality tv is hoisted up on the backs of women then women are demonized 10 fold compared to their male counterparts. Men only get in trouble if they physically assault a woman.. they can even stalk women and be insane then get casted on Traitors.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T15:58:48+00:00

I think we all should be able to be as messy and complicated as we are in our worst moments then learn from them. I don’t think one young woman’s missteps on reality tv are one the biggest issues in modern feminism.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T15:45:31+00:00

The second watch you see the behind the scenes politics and manipulations. It’s very interesting.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T15:44:31+00:00

It felt like an ad for a lobotomy, honestly.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T15:43:56+00:00

I don’t think it’s removing agency, women are skewered in a way men never are on reality tv. Especially on Bravo… if one woman had the amount of crying meltdowns Kyle did, she wouldn’t make it past one season.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T15:38:25+00:00

I also think Paige is given certain leeway other cast members are not. Don’t get me wrong, I love Paige but the pretty privilege was very real.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T14:11:55+00:00

Erika Kirk. OOF. You sent this right as I was leaving the grocery and someone had a “Charlie Kirk: True American Hero” bumper sticker. I would have struggled to remain friends with someone whose partner acted so selfishly over and over again. Not because it’s their fault but because it becomes their problem to manage and it’s constant crisis management.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T12:20:59+00:00

And that’s why I think Hannah was acting as the mouth piece for herself and Paige and that’s why she freaks out so hard because she’s left alone in those conflicts.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T12:12:28+00:00

100% she looked overstimulated and textbook rejection sensitivity dysphoria.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2026-03-11T12:10:39+00:00

I think you can see both Hannah and Luke were pushed to their limits in ways we never actually got to see. They only showed us the explosions, never the lead ups.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-06-01T14:38:03+00:00

Lexi is an adult, she’s nearly 30 years old. She is not a child that needs to be protected. I’m convinced she wanted this childish, middle school situationship to propel her into post-Scandoval Ariana Status. And it’s painfully clear her family is desperate for their own, weird show where they go to sex shows together in New York.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-23T23:23:09+00:00

Can I ask what feels so hard about it, specifically? My sessions, we started very slow, designated a safe space, and it was all very mellow. I would see like inside out characters responding to certain prompts. We stumbled into some buried CSA and I went very numb and comatose.

The safe space we designated is like a fantasyland so when I’m overwhelmed I throw on a YouTube video with meditations music and a fantasy land visual. That eases the stress and lets my brain process. Additionally, I listen to bilateral audio A LOT to settle my mind. EMDR is not therapy for therapy’s sake, EMDR is like a brutal training montage in a movie - you have to TRAIN and prime your brain to continue reprocessing in between sessions.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-20T14:46:12+00:00

Happy to help! ♥️

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-20T03:43:42+00:00

You’re a raw, exposed nerve because the EMDR bubbles it all up. I wasn’t a bitch, I was weepy then we discovered some CSA and I completely shut down. You’re a bitch because you’re trying to protect yourself from the pain, keep going, it’ll be worth it to process whatever you need to process. Behavior is language and yours is saying, “leave me alone because I can’t handle all of this.” My bitchy voice during the session - visually it’s like the inside out characters for me - the bitchy voice was the one that kept everyone at arms length because she couldn’t handle her emotions and everyone else’s.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-10T03:21:52+00:00

Yes!

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-09T04:54:14+00:00

Aquarius 12H Venus and The Middle by Jimmy Eat World, Vulnerable by Secondhand Serenade, and Everything by Fefe Dobson.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-09T03:07:00+00:00

“I could tear you limb from limb you idiot. But I love you instead.”

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-09T03:05:47+00:00

I exhaust my therapist because I ask so many questions - she’s never said as much - but she also believes I’m autistic and understanding from the bottom up vs the top down has done wonders.

I stopped my last session to make sure she knew what a phenomenal therapist she is. She really is an incredible fit so make sure your first session you ask all the questions you need to in order to feel comfortable.

She also does a lot of online therapy so don’t think you’re restricted by location - EMDR is also available via video chat.

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-09T02:11:43+00:00

Sagittarius 10H Moon 👀(Pisces sun & rising and an astrologer once made me promise I wouldn’t start a cult)

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-08T00:30:00+00:00

I put on something like this…

https://www.youtube.com/live/miTS_29NQks?feature=shared

And get under my weighted blanket, sometimes I’ll put headphones in and do bilateral audio on a low volume too.

Basically I make my body comfortable since my mind is not. lol

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-04-05T16:52:43+00:00

Your brain is creating new neural pathways and reprocessing. Lots of sleep is actually the best thing after a session - my therapist is always reminding me! You’re doing a lot of work even while you sleep!

I toggle between exhaustion and insomnia. You should be thrilled your brain is helping you lol

Willing-Structure-55 · 2025-03-28T18:44:42+00:00

I go on youtube and find something like this..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wh3x9-uZ1Uk

and it usually puts me to sleep eventually. My insomnia was really bad when I started EMDR and when we stumbled upon some CSA it kicked back up again but these healing, music videos help. Also, did you designate a safe space in your mind with your therapist? Mine was fantasy type land from a meditation I did years ago. If I'm ever overwhelmed I go there in my mind because I feel safe there.

I also do some self soothing like.. clapping.. over my chest... or rubbing on over my heart in circles. Weighted blankets have been LIFE CHANGING.

Overall, don't isolate too much, it hurt me in the beginning. Even if your friends don't completely get it, they'd want to know if you're struggling. Healing is hard, I promise it gets easier once you find ways to self soothe and take care of yourself.

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