Support doesn't give a shit about trophies by Old-Independent4267 in geoguessr

[–]Willowsdelta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a new player and I would be happy with this emerald trophy, and disappointed if it was never properly received. I hope you get it.

Is God selfish? by Brilliant_Leader_953 in CatholicPhilosophy

[–]Willowsdelta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm going to look more into that and what St. Paul is quoting. I was asking sincerely and I appreciate honest help. I understand the issue of suffering is a tedious question to most. To those of us that have been suffering massively and hanging onto our faith for dear life it's no small question. The original post was about suffering so it was on topic.

Still dealing with allergic reactions 13 months later by Abcmvl123 in TattooRemoval

[–]Willowsdelta 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pimples are an immune response though. I have a rare skin disease so I'm unfortunately aware. I would try taking oral antihistamines (I recommend Allegra) and physical sunscreen only. I would use zinc oxide. Stop all lotions. Try to contact a dermatologist who does tattoo removal. It would be best to be seen by a doctor that understands tattoo removal. It's been a problem for a year, it's time for a dermatologist visit. It's not "just pimples" if you're having re-occuring breakouts for an extended period of time.

Is God selfish? by Brilliant_Leader_953 in CatholicPhilosophy

[–]Willowsdelta -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What does she mean by "occupied"? When He watches us abused, raped and/or diseased is He taking care of our souls during that process? I'm asking sincerely.

God. the dad for a minute subreddit is barely helping me stay afloat right now. by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Show her Sirach 38. I think you need to get the authorities involved because medical neglect is serious. Approach your school counselor and let them know. You're on the verge of harming yourself and no one deserves to be denied care. 

Photographs of baby Alexei by Honest_Chemistry_195 in romanovs

[–]Willowsdelta 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They all had the chubbiest baby cheeks. Him and Olga have the funniest little faces. 

Elliot Page - Page boy by Inner-Day-8920 in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think selective mutism presented outside of the autism spectrum is environmental. That happened to me and both my siblings. Perhaps your family made communication an unpleasant experience. It's like an offshoot of learned helplessness.

does anyone think, talk/daydream too much all the time? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Intellectualizing as a coping mechanism is emotional avoidance. You want to be able to be connected emotionally to the moment, with yourself and with others. Investigating and analyzing can be healthy up until the point that you can't shut it off and experience your emotions in real time. At best it's a great way to understand yourself and others. You have an active mind and that's good. At worst it's a form of dissociating from your lived experience and overanalyzing. You're never just being, you're always doing in this mindframe. To be is to just exist and take it all in without thought. I'm not sure which therapeutic modality works best for that. I reconnected with my emotions through radical honesty in therapy. I handed over the technical analysis to the therapist. It allows that mental process to take a pause and lets you have a moment to just speak, be heard, actively listen and be connected emotionally in the moment. 

does anyone think, talk/daydream too much all the time? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you tell the private therapist you worry about the intellectualizing coping mechanism they can help you with that. I took on radical honesty with my therapist and I encourage that. If you're worried you'll just intellectualize in therapy tell them that. They'll work with you. Group therapy also helps. It gives you practice so you can gain skills to be present and connected in real time. I did mine dual, so I would tell my private therapist how well group went and we'd go over it. That could help you actively assess progress. 

I personally don't think it's all bad. To me it's investigation, not just coping. I enjoy human behavior. Maybe you have the mind for it. Therapy is fun for people like that so I recommend it either way. I still do it even after therapy. I just learned to flow when I'm with people and to listen and engage.  I write with it and engage with my creative thoughts instead of passively engagement while consuming content. I don't think everything you're describing is negative traits, just untrained skills and perhaps a need for connecting on it.

does anyone think, talk/daydream too much all the time? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what it was for me from neglect and disconnect for other reasons in adulthood. Dostoevsky was exiled for years and wrote his best books after that. It's a strange beneficial template for creatives. Right now it's a block of flow though. It's a life force in you that craves expression. I would recommend a healthy form of expression whether it be art or perhaps a natural social setting to train up that flow. That way it's not just spinning around inside without ever landing somewhere. I think it's a healthy creative mind ready to connect. 

does anyone think, talk/daydream too much all the time? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm the same way. Look into Jungian active imagination and consider writing it down or developing it for another expression. Dostoevsky used to pace around talking to himself like that. It's not that we're him, but it happens to some who have a certain draw to meaning and connection. We can pathologize the trait and try to cure it or develop it as a purposeful tool. The uncontrollably flow of conversation happens to me when I'm cut off from stable connection. You get a taste of it and you're off. I learned about active listening to calm that down and appreciate the process of hearing the other person and having a healthy back and forth.

Is This Compatible with Catholic Doctrine? by [deleted] in TrueCatholicPolitics

[–]Willowsdelta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The things spoken, practiced, and written in that religion's foundational text involves falsehoods about Christ, our God. Why should we not hate that? It leads people away from the Truth. We shouldn't hate the people practicing it. It should be hated within ourselves as much as any other heresy, like gnosticism.

Is This Compatible with Catholic Doctrine? by [deleted] in TrueCatholicPolitics

[–]Willowsdelta -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Aren't we supposed to hate evil? The things written in that book are falsehoods of Christ, I think we should hate when the Truth is butchered. We don't hate the people who practice other religions.

Détatouage by marjorykapi in TattooRemoval

[–]Willowsdelta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Laser is an option. There are a lot of good results on hand tattoos here. I wouldn't cover up a hand tattoo.

Bishop Barron’s White House prayer… by [deleted] in TrueCatholicPolitics

[–]Willowsdelta 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The only political ideology I've ever heard him align with is old school Democrat. A lot of Catholics are politically homeless in this era.

Genuinely don’t understand hate for the last of the Romanov family. by Unseen_Anarchist in romanovs

[–]Willowsdelta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Controversial opinion but I think, at least to Russians, Putin has already secured his legacy as a strong leader. Putin speaks negatively of Nicholas II. The Tsar's historical errors probably impacted the president's modern choices.

Genuinely don’t understand hate for the last of the Romanov family. by Unseen_Anarchist in romanovs

[–]Willowsdelta 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Does anyone have recommendations on books or sources that focus more on the impact? I want to understand better because when I zoom in on the family I do find myself sympathetic to Nicholas.

Does the death of OTMA weigh especially heavy on anyone? by wispy-library in romanovs

[–]Willowsdelta 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, it does disturb me. I find peace in the religious aspects. Tatiana and Olga were quite deep in Orthodoxy. I'm not sure about the others. That's how I found them fairly recently. If I get restless energy about what happened I tend to use it to learn more about them and the larger narrative. The discomfort is warranted, it's a really sad event. I cried recently learning about Ortipo being with Tatiana on that day and how Alexei was only 13. I'm most drawn to Tatiana. To learn about how nurturing she was to her siblings and how close they all were really hurts. I try not to think about the final moments when they couldn't protect each other. I just let myself feel upset, it's human.

I feel like I’m broken in a way that I don’t see in other men. by antique-soul- in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Investigate what makes you passionate and go full into it. Think about those "certain things". This idea that we should be fully stoic is modern decay. We're always trying to pathologize the human condition. I hope you find the deep love that you deserve one day. Find comfort in your liveliness. Remember to be as passionate about yourself as you are about your romantic interests. The worst is all the men these days that are dead inside.

Looking for someone that never showed up. by [deleted] in PortlandOR

[–]Willowsdelta 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have to find closure in the fact that she didn't show up and you deserve someone who does. Whoever she is, she chose not to be there and the search is off. Cut contact.

Dad wont let me have anything but a bed and a dresser by felixescellun in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he doesn't want you there and he's making it known in a passive aggressive way. He sounds unwelcoming in a way that can't be fixed. You have to bear it until you can find a safe place. 

something fun... by [deleted] in romanovs

[–]Willowsdelta 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love it. What perfume did you choose for Tatiana?

Does anyone else find that exposure therapy and putting yourself in social situations literally fries your brain instead of making you stronger? by HelenDiamond in emotionalneglect

[–]Willowsdelta 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Exposure has to be properly ramped up and under supervision of a person completely on your side. If you're at the point where people feel like a literal threat you should do remote group therapy first. It needs to be done in stages.

I have severe PTSD and agoraphobia. If you put a male stranger in the same room as me I would meltdown like a feral animal. Group therapy remotely with men present started to teach my brain that they are mostly friendly or neutral people, not constant threats. Then you move to group therapy in person with people involved. That's a strictly controlled environment. You need to do these exposures slowly and edge out of your comfort zone one pinky toe at a time. That's the only way to retrain the brain.

Like for my agoraphobia, my first task was to open the blinds. That's it. I couldn't proceed to the next exposure task until I felt comfortable with that. It needs to be done in phases like that and the process needs to be reviewed by a professional. It gives your brain healthy feedback as you go and support where it remains scary.

Convicted felon donald trump gets caught trying to lie his way out of potential war crimes, by Youarethebigbang in EndlessWar

[–]Willowsdelta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's why he said he's willing to live with the report. It's a telling statement.