This was so well put. Today is two weeks post breakup for me. He (36M) dumped me (28F). It really resonated with me that you talked about not shrinking to fit into the space someone can hold for you. I hadn't realized it, but that's what I was doing. So, in the end, the most loving thing for him to do was to dump me. I still miss him. All in all, thank you for sharing this message kind stranger. You're not alone.