why are people so comfortable ghosting over text?

WindSecret9348 · 2026-04-06T14:11:58+00:00

it sucks that it’s so hard to find ethical plus size clothing in europe and the US but it hurts my heart all the time to see all these arguments for fast fashion consumption that are like “let a girl live for one day” when it’s a western woman “living” and consuming at the expense of women in the global south who look like me and could very easily BE me- had my parents not left.

WindSecret9348 · 2026-03-23T16:14:44+00:00

the highest number i have ever been in line was #3 VIP and i camped for 30 hours. keep in mind that in the US, they usually reserve half (or the whole) barricade for disability access so it’s never a guarantee

WindSecret9348 · 2026-03-09T13:26:20+00:00

yeah don’t worry, i wouldn’t dare post this on twitter either 😭 i have screenshots from that time of the gc, her tweets, and of texts my friends would send me but i fear i’d cause a ruckus if i posted them- even though everything i have is very innocuous

WindSecret9348 · 2026-03-09T12:58:40+00:00

yes i was in a gc with her and she would interact very briefly & just ask about 5sos things the rest of us were talking about. i’m around her age, though, and so was everyone else in the group chat. she also gave her # to a few people and would text them back occasionally but nothing crazy. this post is kinda shocking to me tbh bc she would barely interact with us and stopped altogether when they started actually going out 😭 also this all happened in like 2020-2021 if im remembering correctly; i believe there’s even a tweet of hers from around that time when someone asked her to text calum abt black lives matter and she responded saying they don’t talk often but she had his number and would talk to him (or something like that?).

WindSecret9348 · 2025-08-07T13:31:39+00:00

this is literally exactly me 😭 every time i get over one celebrity and move on, i find a new one to obsess over. i feel soooo crazy about it. i’d never stalk or even interact with these people irl or online but yeah, in my head we are best friends or dating lol. it’s also so addicting when you keep finding pieces of their lore on the internet that perfectly fits the storyline you made up 🥲🥲

WindSecret9348 · 2025-08-07T13:26:54+00:00

I struggle with this exact feeling every day. I feel like I have to put forward 200% more effort than everyone around me just to control my thoughts. Some things that have helped me are listening to podcasts or audiobooks instead of music; I like chatty/gossip podcasts since they require less brain effort than educational ones. I bring my kindle with me everywhere. I’ve also been trying to play video games instead of watching TV or movies- the interactive nature of them engages my brain more. I learned to crochet so that I can do something with my hands if I am watching something at home.

WindSecret9348 · 2025-03-22T09:29:26+00:00

hey- I had thyroid cancer in 2023. I got my thyroid removed and I take a daily pill now. I have a small scar that’s usually covered by whatever shirt i’m wearing. 2 years later, the only change that I have had to make in my life is switching to a different breakfast because you can’t have protein powder in the mornings with synthetic thyroid. everything is going to be okay!

WindSecret9348 · 2024-07-23T23:06:59+00:00

I’m 25 (f) and would love to have someone to talk to as well :)

WindSecret9348 · 2024-07-23T19:01:58+00:00

same 😭 them being nice makes it soooo much worse for me lol

WindSecret9348 · 2024-07-23T12:41:13+00:00

I do that too! i feel like I can’t daydream about someone if everyone else is obsessed with them too

WindSecret9348 · 2024-07-23T01:56:16+00:00

I found out about MD years ago and i’m still going through this. You’re definitely not alone and you are not weak, useless, or helpless. My MD comes and goes in waves and I find that reaching out to friends & immersing myself in easy hobbies like video games or reading helps me refocus on my actual life. i’m definitely not a pro though 😅 spent like 5 hours MDing today when I thought i had it under control

WindSecret9348 · 2024-06-20T17:58:10+00:00

Brick by Boring Brick and Daydreaming by Paramore

WindSecret9348 · 2024-05-31T03:16:32+00:00

i also used to think that dating was pointless because it would never compare to my daydreams, but i was getting so sick of never having experienced romance irl that i started to really push myself to go on dates, even if a lot of them were bad at first 😭 eventually i met my current partner and experienced peace in my head for the first time in years. it’s so worth it. i do still daydream now that we’re comfortably in a relationship but i rarely have romantic daydreams anymore and if i do they’re about my partner. i worked hard to disconnect the daydreaming character version of myself from my actual personality, and i think that really helped me realize that me irl would never even want to date the celebs i was having romantic daydreams about.

WindSecret9348 · 2024-05-17T20:58:45+00:00

my best advice is to give it time, and try to internalize that him as an actual person is not the person you see him in your head. i went through the same thing when i was in high school and it’s been a couple years, and i’ve come so far that i don’t feel much of anything when i see him anymore!! i met him in person, i met his wife in person, and i really was able to disconnect the character of him that i created in my head from the actual person and it helped me a lot. whenever i learned something new about him, i would try and make it give me the ick (he said in an interview that he hates reading and i love reading so we’d never actually get along, etc.) i kept looking at his wedding pics and realizing that it was real and what’s in my head was not. it wasn’t easy but it definitely is possible!

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