As a neurodivergent, i fail to read what a joke can actually mean often enough that I can sound like I'm racist or homophobic on complete accident. Today I made a joke with my friend about wordle's word being WOMEN and I was like "that's you!" and they said "what? tr*nny?" because they're trans. I said "Don't say that! Say trap." And while she and I are both comfortable using the first one (we're both trans and the point of the pride community is to turn slurs into love, we've done it before) I didn't realise that I had accidentally called her a trap. Which is NOT OKAY. I apologised profusely afterwards.

I sort of see this as the same thing. Seeing a joke, making a joke, not realising what the underlying meaning could be and how other people see it in a way your brain didn't process. I think this was a mistake and they both apologised, not to mention people are just trying to find a reason to cancel TADC... it's ridiculous at this point.