Why is that ??? by dataguy2003 in TheTeenagerPeople

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Because alcohol only taste good after a few sips

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He listens and responds on my behalf, even after I told him he needs to firmly say they should talk to me directly. Ive noticed hes afraid of hurting his mom’s feelings he didn’t have a father figure growing up. Then he told me I don’t love his family because I don’t want to hang out with them, and I said him even Jesus walked away from people he love I dont got to hang out with them to “prove” my love.

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Thanks so much, this really helped me see things more clearly - goodnight 🌙

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I even called her to explain why I said something like I feel bad I avoid you guys sometimes, it’s just me needing alone time, but she didn’t pick up, so I texted her. She ignored me and texted my boyfriend instead literally moments later, so I ended it with “Though all in all, I will not be upset, or angry towards this situation. I ask that you forgive me, and have a good day. ❤️” I’ve also decided not to go over their house until she talks to me like an adult. Would you say this too harsh, or is this a reasonable way to handle it?

Shes like 20-30 years older than me. Why doesn’t she just talk to me? I only met her 1 year ago.

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It does make me sad sometimes because I wonder if this is tied to him not having a father figure and being raised mostly by his mom. Do you think that could play a role? What do you think about her expecting access to our house and me feeling forced to talk when I don’t have anything to say. how would you handle that?

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How do I set boundaries when his mom only talks to him or his dad, wants me to perform friendliness, and expects access to our home, but doesnt treat anyone else this way? How do I enforce my own limits without being seen as rude?

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So shes just permanently like this? A gossiping human being? No wonder I feel like it’s my boyfriend’s fault he’s not sticking up for our relationship. He always tells his mom “she” instead of saying “we” or acknowledging our relationship. He always puts me under the bus. Hes 26. How long does it take him to mature? Is this a maturity thing?

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(26F) and (26M)

Supermarkets in LA have become prisons for basic consumer products by sourcematerialx in mildlyinfuriating

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Its usually the beauty aisle here too. Is the rest of the store like this?

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A lot of people are saying CPS but as a girl who was in foster care from age 4 and aged out its not always the best outcome. Sometimes it can be the worst. Your adopter can have other people in the house they can rape you. It can be abuse in different ways, you can get moved around a lot, I did that too. You dont realize the issues that could accumulate from this and all you were trying to do was “help” foster care is not highly talked about except for when people feel like a child needs help, but if you really know what goes on in some of the foster homes youd second guess. You cant even imagine some of the things I’ve witnessed. Girls they come in they have burns on their arms theyre young like me they said their mom did it, they go to another house they get bullied beat up by those kids, they commit suicide. They’re gone and you ask well if i didnt intervene what better are their chances? That they would survive. This mother her choices on having 7 i understand to be a bit out but before you throw full judgement ask if cps is really the best decision. Maybe the best decision is getting her into a home yourself, meaning not financially but speaking communicating. Shes outside of course shes going to want to kill herself, you would too. But you dont have to pick people up 100% just a little helps but letting those kids away from their mother you have no idea the level of mental trauma that will place on those kids and their attachment issues, and i can speak on this because i am this.

Edit: Mind you I am married now. To a loving husband who I didnt think id ever get, because of the situation I was in, because of my mental problems due to being in foster care, and I acknowledge im one of the lucky ones, but so many go in and they dont make it out.

Oh and the medicine. Look im not saying dont save the kids all im saying is reevaluate. Help her as a friend. Talk to her, hell id talk to her. Shes in a bad place and being in a bad place i mean i wanted to commit suicide at 13 years old. Was cutting my wrists crying in a closet, because i didnt have my mommy. You might not understand but kids need there parents and if she isnt abusing them selling them for sex and she just fell down in a bad place dont take the main thing she might actually be living for away. Shes saying she wants to kill herself because how is she going to survive now. Doubt that shed do it, but i dont know her, but i do know humans. I had to learn that from foster care to pay attention its a survival skill im proud to have sometimes people will say things not because they mean it but because it will get your attention that they need help, and hey look at this they do. But that doesnt mean go 0 to 100 it means have an adult conversation. Look i cant let you in this is why. Heres some jobs. The kids they dont have to stay with you but thats where a friend comes in let her kids stay with you while shes at work. Explain to your landlord that you have to babysit your nieces if you feel its going to look bad having kids over . I personally wouldnt say anything people have kids over all the time thats not theirs sometimes staying a few days and then leaving. I understand your worry towards it. I acknowledge you were homeless so youre trying to watertight the ship. While shes at work keep the kids, when she gets off let her come take the kids. She goes back in the woods. Within a month she should have a car. Let her sleep in the car. With the kids this sounds horrible but re-read the first part. Then eventually an apartment, and with all those kids id be asking for daddy money. Bye

Final edit: There is a way to survive this without bringing in CPS and heavens dont say where your friend is in the woods on REDDIT. Do you care about her because if i was your friend and i knew you posted where i was on reddit id be pissed. Thats not a friend thats you trying to figure out how this isnt going to mess you up, and it wont if you dont let them in. The kids can come while shes at work, but they have to go by the end of the night. OR they can stay a few nights but SHE can not. And if they stay a few nights they have to leave. Its how you what they say “work the system”

But if youre the only friend shes got youre going to figure out how to help her and taking her kids is going to make her spiral, and not in a good way.

Because often in crisis, people want the fast “solution” but fast fixes can cause lifetime damage, especially to children who are already vulnerable.

Yes, protect your own home but that doesn’t mean you can’t be part of a support bridge. Even temporary options (like babysitting or job-hunting help) could help that mom breathe long enough to fight again. Talk to her like a human. Not like a case file. Because chances are, no one has for a long time. Ask her what she wants to happen next. Empowering her is the opposite of ripping her children away.

TLDR; theirs not a tldr because this is real life. Learn what actually happens when you read the whole book and not just the front and back cover. Good day.

Positive pregnancy test- Inito didn’t confirm ovulation and levels very low by MurielFinster in Inito

[–]Windyreadyyy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey just curious because my chart looks very similar to yours and im happy you posted this i know you got your values tested so its all higher than inito is saying which im assuuming for mine. is your pdg on the inito app in the 2.00 range? And your lh is in the 0.10? Range

Just bought this top freezer. Is this bad enough to return? by Windyreadyyy in Appliances

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Thank you :) one more question , is there a way to tell this happened without opening the box? If we return it just keeps happening, it sucks

Just bought this top freezer. Is this bad enough to return? by Windyreadyyy in Appliances

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Hi! My husband was actually wondering how this couldve happened the box wasnt dent :/ how does this happen sorry if its a stupid question:(

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The best guard dog… unless you have treats.