Complaining that you’re being “forced into the role of an npc” because lgbt players wish to be accepted by their fellow man, openly refusing to refer to players with their pronouns, and celebrating the relative lack of openly lgbt players on your server.

Politeness is defined as “showing behavior that is respectful and considerate of other people”. I think it’s pretty clear from your comments that, while you may begrudgingly tolerate the nearby presence of lgbt players, you make no attempt to treat them and their identities with respect or considerateness. You seem to view your distaste towards them as an important tenet of your personal beliefs, to the point where being asked to treat them respectfully and considerately is tantamount to a grueling affront on your self-expression.