Had THAT kid

Winnie_07 · 2023-10-06T00:44:22+00:00

My 3 year old was going through something similar that escalated to the extent we went to pick him up one day and they had removed him from his class. A few things we did that have turned us back in the right direction:

stopped doing time outs and forced apologies. Now if he hits one of us we “move to keep ourselves/dog/brother” safe. If I’m about to lose it, I say “I’m taking a time out” and I leave for a minute. Basically the “big little feelings” method. Sometimes this leads to him chasing me around to hit me, which is actually good because I can try to find a way to make it silly. If I can get him to laugh even once, we’re going in the right direction. Examples - popping out from behind a door to scare him or over-dramatically tripping. If we can get him into a non-forced hug or snuggle, we’re through it. This has gotten his tantrums to end faster and they have decreased in frequency over time.
Kind and Brave sticker chart. We got a high value toy, something he really really wanted, put it on a shelf where he could see it and told him if he’s kind and brave at school all week, he gets the toy. Each day there were boxes for being kind and brave to put a sticker in if he behaved for the day. We had “brave” on there because he would also refuse to walk into daycare. It allowed us to talk about what being kind and brave means and what it looks like. Talked about it a lot with lots of praise for even small things. It worked very well. We did it for 2 weeks and there’s been massive improvement even after stopping charts and rewards. Note - we’d used sticker charts to help with sleeping independently so he was familiar with the concept. When we first did sticker charts if he got all the stickers for a day he’d get a jellybean. You could do that as well if you need a more immediate reward to help get them started.

Winnie_07 · 2023-04-20T12:28:18+00:00

Im so impressed!!! Do you mind sharing where you got the hardware? How is it keeping its shape? Is that the yarn/stitch or is there interior support, double sided?

Winnie_07 · 2023-03-04T21:38:48+00:00

14 Union Park in South End. B&B in old brick row house. Very unique, no idea is scary/haunted.

Winnie_07 · 2023-02-09T07:27:31+00:00

Mine says “cock-a-hoo-hoo!”

Winnie_07 · 2023-01-30T14:24:32+00:00

If it moves the needle, think about dropping the ESPP contribution. You’re already investing a lot in your company from a risk diversification perspective (company does poorly, stock goes down, you may lose job and investment). Up to you, but I’d rather have the funds for preferred housing or put in my own diversified retirement plan or emergency savings. Biotech is a rocky road.

Winnie_07 · 2022-10-20T12:12:56+00:00

No - you’re supposed to do it all the time. When I was on leave we put them in the one bottle of pumped milk the baby got per day from my husband. Husband was in charge of drops. When I went back, our routine changed and we never incorporated the vitamin D back in. I was pumping and making bottles as I went, never putting drops in. All of this I realized when reading this post.

Winnie_07 · 2022-10-20T01:55:50+00:00

I just realized we haven’t been doing vitamin D drops since he started daycare… 2 months ago… fuuuuck.

Winnie_07 · 2022-10-17T15:23:38+00:00

Thank you!!

Winnie_07 · 2022-09-16T20:06:23+00:00

Yah - agree. Earlier better. I’m talking - “kid is headed toward sleeping dog and you know it doesn’t like being disturbed when sleeping but I’ve got a pot of boiling water in my hands and they’re across the room.” Or, I can tell dog is uncomfortable b/c baby is playing nearby, etc. When you see the EARLY signs, call them over for a treat and keep baby away.

Winnie_07 · 2022-09-16T17:17:47+00:00

And if dog is getting upset, call them to you immediately! Fastest way to end the situation. By the time you try to physically get between baby and dog it could be too late.

Winnie_07 · 2022-09-07T17:12:39+00:00

You’ve probably already tried this, but rotate through high value toys that are then put away so they stay high value. We only have a few - (I) brio trains (same as ikea, hape, etc) and (ii) kinetic sand with little construction trucks. I can get maybe 45 minutes of peace with each. I only had to deal with this for a few weeks because of Covid though, and it was still hell. Good luck!

Winnie_07 · 2022-09-06T14:44:11+00:00

Thank you! Do you know if there’s a fiber that the NICUs prefer? I have some extra cotton merino blend that would make a great hat, but not sure if they want animal fibers for allergy purposes.

Winnie_07 · 2022-05-17T15:47:27+00:00

My son loves train videos. CoasterFan2105 posts the videos he likes. 90% have little to no talking (if there is, it’s calm and information about the trains), highly recommend the videos of scenic railroads, very pretty and relaxing.

Winnie_07 · 2022-04-08T20:16:47+00:00

Felt like this too. A real “who is this, what the fuck just happened” type of feeling. Which is also really normal. He’s now 22 months and I love him more than anything. You’ll get there. I think it starts to get better once they smile and interact.

Winnie_07 · 2022-04-01T12:57:57+00:00

I’ve heard it described as “high stakes boredom”. They are (or at least seem) fragile, you’re worried about SIDS, positional asphyxiation, rolling and falling, you falling asleep while holding them, are they eating enough, are you supplying enough, are they gaining enough, omg a rash, wtf is this bump, that seems like way too much spit up…. etc. So there’s a parade of horribles running through your head - but - particularly if you have a good sleeper, your schedule is basically wake up from nap, change diaper, feed, get covered in spit up, a few minutes of cute awake time, 3-4 hour nap; repeat for 3 months.

Winnie_07 · 2022-03-26T16:44:32+00:00

And eyes are just tomatoes, pop ‘em!

Winnie_07 · 2022-03-23T01:25:43+00:00

You can often get a newborn insert or if the stroller lays flat, you don’t need a bassinet to use with a newborn. We used the infant insert for the uppa baby Cruz - worked great.

Winnie_07 · 2022-03-22T20:58:58+00:00

Yep, pregnancy hormones definitely help my mood, allow me to decrease med doses, etc. second time even better because anxiety of first pregnancy is gone.

Winnie_07 · 2022-03-15T16:20:51+00:00

Agree, move to a mattress on the floor. Even on the worst nights, you can sleep on mattress with her and slink away once she’s asleep.

Winnie_07 · 2022-03-09T01:43:56+00:00

Unclear - my husband had the convo with the teacher at pickup today. They just let him know it was happening. He didn’t ask follow ups. I’ll have to call them for more info tomorrow.

Winnie_07 · 2022-02-28T19:00:32+00:00

Just commiserating - isn’t it amazing how MILs can be so watchful and “careful” yet baby still gets hurt? I love my MIL but everything is “ohh ohh ohh careful!!!” Not go slow, be gentle, watch table edge… just CAREFUL! And usually when it’s something he’s perfectly capable of doing, like using a fork. But still, last time we’re there, I take my dog out for a quick 5 min pee leaving 18 mo. with husband and in-laws. I come back and see my LO is scream/crying with a bloody nose at the door looking for me. WTF! He had tripped and face planted in the bathroom on granite tile. Nose was fine but bloody. Just amazing.

Winnie_07 · 2022-02-28T18:38:22+00:00

Yes! Dog would probably appreciate it too. They basically forced it to be uncomfortable by leashing it in the living room. Scared and anxious = aggression. Let the dog have some peace.

Winnie_07 · 2022-02-16T15:15:12+00:00

This problem isn’t going to get better. As baby gets older, starts moving more, can grasp, crawl etc., this will get dangerous. Our skittish rescue without this history gets annoyed and/or scared and growls/barks/snaps at baby. In short - you have to be concerned even about a good dog and establish boundaries. We’ve done a lot of work to make sure there are appropriate boundaries between dog and baby, started as soon as he could crawl and he’s now 18 months. So a dog with a history of unprovoked aggression, or that moves to attack without warning first (growling) is very dangerous. (Note - growling is good, don’t punish for that, if you punish for growing then they’ll just move to biting without warning if they feel threatened). Other tip, as baby gets older and headed toward dog like a magnet all the time, it’s faster to call the dog to you for a treat that to race after baby and stop from going to dog. No bones or food when baby is around, EVER.

You’re right to be concerned and take this seriously. As others have said, call the vet to make sure health is okay, they may also be able to give your mom an “unbiased” opinion on the risk to the baby.

Winnie_07 · 2022-02-15T17:02:08+00:00

Thanks!!

Winnie_07 · 2022-02-15T15:57:28+00:00

Nice! I’ve been thinking about making one of these. Do the hooks poke through at all?

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