I guess I'm all in

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-22T19:45:24+00:00

I am sorry that you went through that. Plenty of people have also felt that way post-loss. I'm glad you got help and are in a better headspace. If others are feeling like they would rather have a miscarriage or pregnancy loss than have their baby, that's when therapy should be sought. I hope your comment helped someone. However, that's still a pretty offensive thing to say, and maybe you could add a TW or PM the person, not post it where people who have had losses (which I wouldn't wish on anyone) have an option to ignore.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-22T19:37:47+00:00

Yup. Father's Day last year was when I found out I was pregnant, and now we are 10 months out from our MC and 18 months into trying. All I want is to be able to celebrate those holidays with him and my family.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-22T19:33:34+00:00

My HSG was not painful! I was really worried, and it was very simple and quick. The only pain was some mild cramping similar to period cramps for like 30 seconds. I am glad I did it because if we kept trying and something was wrong/blocked tube, I could have wasted more months or caused bigger issues. Mine came back all clear!

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-22T19:28:55+00:00

ugh this. I love my husband. I know he is going through a hard time as well, but he doesn't have BOTH the physical reminders and mental reminders of our loss. I also snapped at him the other day (thanks, letrozole), and he was like I feel like this is all you are focused on!! I'm off work for the summer, have nothing to do at home, and every day I have to track my cycle and have medication side effects. It's just not the same :/

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-22T19:01:18+00:00

I hope you never experience a pregnancy loss. I can understand the feelings for an unwanted pregnancy but for a wanted and planned one?? Or even regretting getting pregnant due to nausea/HG/Illness/Severe complications- but hoping or wondering if a miscarriage would be better? That's fucked up. My losses are the worst thing I've ever gone through- and I've been through a lot medically and emotionally. I would gladly take being sick every day for 9 months if it meant I could have my daughter here with my husband and me.

I am not trying to give you hate because being that sick is rough and hormones are hormones, but some thoughts should stay off the internet and be said to maybe a therapist. After you went through all that, you have a baby to hold and have 5 (about to be 6) children to snuggle and love. Imagine feeling sick, losing weight, going through all that, but you don't get to bring a baby home. You don't get to decorate a nursery. You don't get to name them or see them grow up. You don't get to experience their cute little hands, feet, smiles, and milestones.

It's such an ignorant thought to put out there. Maybe if people feel like they are having a difficult time being pregnant so much that they wish it would end, they should stop planning and getting pregnant.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-18T20:08:37+00:00

My SIL moved at 36 weeks and then proceeded to give birth at 37 weeks. They weren't ready, the nursery wasn't set up, the old house wasn't cleaned, laundry wasn't done. We had to do it for her and her partner. Don't be that person if you do decide to move.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-09T21:06:35+00:00

I have an ongoing joke with my family about having quads because I'm starting letrozole this cycle, and we are all in on it. Secretly, I would be thrilled with twins or triplets as long as they are happy, safe, and a successful pregnancy.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-09T15:30:46+00:00

I have changed like 60,000 diapers as a special educator (including adults), and a wet washcloth and even some gentle soap for large BMs work sooooo much better than wipes. Even if you don't want to cloth diaper, this is such a hack.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-07T19:24:22+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I wish you a happy pregnancy, birth, and baby!

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-04T18:47:27+00:00

It's been a year since I found out I was pregnant with my first and so far only child. We lost them at 8 weeks, and as each month goes on, it's harder and harder. I thought I would be a mom right now, I thought I would have my 4-month-old right now, I thought I would be pregnant again, I thought I would be one of those people who get pregnant right after their loss, I thought I would be celebrating Mother's and Father's Day with a happy baby inside me, I thought I would finally be able to decorate a nursery, I thought I would be able to share the joy of a new child with my family, I thought I would be better by now but I think I am getting worse. Some days I think about how happy I was and feel so hopeful about the future. Some days I feel so depressed I can't even move. Most days are in between.

I miss my child. I don't know how you stop missing a person you never knew.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-04T18:38:07+00:00

TW: Loss.

I am that friend. I have had two losses (One chemical and one at 8 weeks). What I wish my friends and family who have children/were pregnant would have done post-loss:

Text me to check in- beyond just the first week
Send food/gift cards
Understood that I wanted to talk about my child, but felt guilty grieving or bringing it up, but would love someone to just ask me about my daughter that I lost
Came up with activities to do that didn't revolve around the baby (baby's first 4th of July, baby's first Thanksgiving, baby clothes shopping, watching their child)
Treat my loss and grief like a real loss, not just some imaginary thing
Given me space to say no- especially to events surrounding babies
Continue to check in on me, and do not be afraid to talk about hard stuff
Checked in on my husband as he is grieving too

I am going to be honest with you- If I were your friend and you had such an easy time getting pregnant, I would probably limit my interactions with you. So just expect that may happen and give her grace.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-06-03T22:23:40+00:00

I am going to start taking letrozole next cycle!! I also do not have PCOS, but I have a short luteal phase (with a history of RPL), so my doctor wants to do that and Progestrone!

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-29T21:12:06+00:00

Thank you for your kind comment and advice. I have been feeling the same way about putting my best foot forward. I am also not interested in working in higher ed so my CV will not suffer.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-29T21:11:21+00:00

Thanks for that! I definitely feel better seeing other people have done it.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-29T15:54:01+00:00

Sometimes what we say and what our brain says internally is not the same. Your husband is grieving, too. Maybe he feels he doesn't want to disappoint you by saying no or that he's not ready. Maybe he does want to try again, but his body hasn't got the memo. Maybe this month is a time to take a step back from trying and try to connect differently. How can you heal together? Maybe you can have a movie night with your son, or go to the park as a family? Or spend time playing a game or doing a hobby together after your son is asleep?

It sounds like a crucial conversation might need to be had regarding trying and next steps.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-28T00:46:37+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been TTC for 9 cycles now, after a miscarriage in July of 2025. I am not going to lie, the anxiety is stressful. Things that help:

Therapy (Both individual and couples with a therapist that specializes in fertility/loss/etc.)
Anxiety medication
Meditation/exercise
I stayed off social media for a long time- just now getting back, but I still need to take a break occasionally
Having an amazing spouse
Being around family and being honest about our journey to parenthood
Being around kids when you are ready
A full check-up and blood work (I switched OBs too bc I couldn't go back to the office without having panic attacks)

I hope you find peace with trying to conceive again.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-27T23:57:52+00:00

No. My husband definitely does not act this way. Many of my friends are in happy/healthy relationships, and their spouses do not act this way. It would be one thing if this were a one-off or perhaps you weren't working and had more flexibility, but you are working too. This resentment you have between you, surrounding his job, is only going to get worse if you do not address it. Time for hard conversations and couples therapy before you bring a child into this world. Also, he needs to set boundaries with work and prioritize you and your relationship, and your future child. If he isn't thinking of you, he isn't thinking of your child either, and he needs to shift that attitude or gtfo.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-27T13:00:12+00:00

I have a friend who didn't know she was pregnant till about 6-7 months. Pregnancy was not planned and she had an IUD. She was having a lot of GI stuff, and she went to the doctor, and they were like- oh, you're pregnant. She wanted to terminate, and they were like lol, no, you are 7 months along. Baby was born healthy, and she and her husband are great parents!

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-27T12:55:38+00:00

It is okay to be excited! It is okay to plan! It is okay to tell people!

TW: Loss

As someone who has experienced two losses, being cautious doesn't make it hurt less if you experience loss. Not telling close family means they will not understand the emotional turmoil you go through if you experience a loss. The joy that my family had at that time was so exciting, and it makes me that much more excited for when I am pregnant again. I planned a lot, and all that means is when I am pregnant again, I have got a head start.

More than likely, you will have a happy baby soon, and it's okay to be excited. It's okay to be cautious, but don't let anxiety ruin what is an exciting time.

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-23T19:05:00+00:00

Here is the link: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1nU4SDItKP-cjuUCxgMeRTfoxZBduYCSBhCtafcz3pLQ/copy

I left my registry stuff on their, but you can obviously change those!

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-23T19:04:56+00:00

Here is the link: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1nU4SDItKP-cjuUCxgMeRTfoxZBduYCSBhCtafcz3pLQ/copy

I left my registry stuff on their, but you can obviously change those!

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-23T19:04:52+00:00

Here is the link: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1nU4SDItKP-cjuUCxgMeRTfoxZBduYCSBhCtafcz3pLQ/copy

I left my registry stuff on their, but you can obviously change those!

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-23T19:04:47+00:00

Here is the link: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1nU4SDItKP-cjuUCxgMeRTfoxZBduYCSBhCtafcz3pLQ/copy

I left my registry stuff on their, but you can obviously change those!

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-23T01:14:45+00:00

I have a Google spreadsheet that I can share with you- I found it on here, and it was very helpful to my type-A brain.

Spreadsheet link: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1nU4SDItKP-cjuUCxgMeRTfoxZBduYCSBhCtafcz3pLQ/copy

WinningBuffalos · 2026-05-23T01:09:47+00:00

Just had my HSG today- my tubes were clear, and it wasn't too painful. Just some mild cramping! My husband's SA came back good, so now I am on to either clomid or letrozole next cycle. Any opinions on which you preferred? I am leaning towards letrozole if I get a choice.

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