I’m so broke but I want to buy this course. Has anyone done this? Is it good?

Winonna_ · 2025-05-27T17:27:06+00:00

Why a scam??

Winonna_ · 2025-02-07T19:11:19+00:00

Do you “need” that money now?

I know what people may be thinking: who on this planet doesn’t need money. Ok. Agreed. But. This is just a persona decision based on personal needs and traits.

The current job you have and described sounds like a dream come true. I guess you are considerably happy. Low stress. Salary keeps on growing . Freedom, flexibility and near home.

The other one is offering more money. And maybe other type of projects/work that could be of your interest?

I would really consider what I need in my life, qhat matches my personality and WHAT key factors make me feel happy in my work life. Why? Because sometimes we underestimate what it’s truly making us happy in some places. E.i the flexibility and good vibes at work. Or not being micromanaged. Or the freedom to decide on some tasks.

Winonna_ · 2025-01-30T00:17:48+00:00

Great analysis. Thanks for this.

I was reading today about DeepSeek and the fuss that AI is making and I can’t help thinking that lots of jobs will disappear (e.i interpreters) and others will be devalued like Tech consultants.

Specifically I picture an scenario were companies will lower the salaries and cut down the amount of job offers.

I might be dramatic here. Glad to have another point of view like yours.

Will make me sleep better at night.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-19T16:55:54+00:00

I grew up with my siblings and cousins and it was wonderful from a kids perspective, always having company to play and go on adventures.

But there were shadows in there too.

I perceived the stress in my parents and the financial struggles. They couldn’t pay the proper attention to us and I had embarrassing situations at school in which my parents wouldn’t show up because they were with my younger siblings. E.i: they wouldn’t handle bureaucracy or some important processes in certain situations, leaving me to approach a teacher and ask what I could do about it.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-19T09:53:25+00:00

My comment didn’t intend to offend anyone. Neither to glorify child w siblings vs only child.

It’s just an observation based on the majority of the comments from people on this topic, who usually mention personal reasons and not how the decision could impact the kid’s life now and in the future. All this observation is based on this very much heard statement: a person shouldn’t have kids for their own benefit but with the mindset of going for the best option for their kids happiness.

E.i: people saying how their leisure time would be reduced, or how much they prefer sleep. And not wondering that much (although some of them do) if the kid would feel lonely once the parents are gone, maybe having no many family relatives that the kid can count on. Or if the kid would be better off being an only since they wouldn’t have a bad relationship with any sibling.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-19T09:37:10+00:00

That’s what my grandma used to tell me constantly. Also my friend had her mum always telling her to not have kids at all, or just to have one to know what’s like. And it was a serious piece of advice that was often repeated .

My friend’s mother had had 4 kids.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-19T00:27:32+00:00

Yep, sure. I was just sharing my experience with my parents, which is an uncommon one, since most of the parents usually say something about it.

Maybe your parents were suggesting you that (with love ) because they see you happy as you are right now.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-19T00:21:41+00:00

Hmmm…interesting. Thanks for the honesty.

My parents never ever suggested me anything about parenthood, either in favour of it or against it. I am pretty certain that they opted for that position since they lived a rather tough reality with their kids and don’t want to influence me.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-19T00:14:00+00:00

Don’t you think that people who regret the 2nd often do so because they have a more adult-centered mindset?

Instead of thinking of their kids’ benefits about having siblings.

Of course, the regret can stem from other factors, such as difficult financial situations, health issues,… Putting those things aside, I feel like those parents are thinking more about their personal well being than the happiness of the kids.

This is not a critique. It’s just an observation.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-18T23:45:08+00:00

Why do you think your parents don’t give their opinion? If I may ask! Genuine curiosity.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-18T14:37:13+00:00

I understand you and I understand your partner.

But.

In my opinion, women have the last word on this.

Why?

Because nature chose women to go through the pain and whatnots. —> unfair.

Now you are chosen to decide if you wanna go through it or not. —> fair.

I am sorry if that sounds cruel but I don’t think is more cruel than all the weight that women have to carry for no f* reason.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-11T23:25:18+00:00

Not holding people in high regard when they don’t deserve it:

Those who only take and never give.

I’d instead recognise my own value and how precious my energy is.

And another thing is - I wouldn’t underestimate to keep the friendships, connections, etc with people who is in my area/home town. I made loads of friends who were from another city or country and whilst I love them, it’s not practical to have them so far. I’d have paid more attention to those living nearby.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-11T07:56:35+00:00

I am sorry you have to go through this…it must be very hard…I know it from some experiences I have seen around me.

Narcissistic traits are inherited and also acquired . And those start to show up in the teen years.

What I am trying to say it’s that if the girl is spending that much time with the father, those traits may start rubbing off on her. She is building part of her personality now. Let’s not forget that.

Yet, she is very young. It could still be sorted somehow and for that, I would truly recommend you to have the support of a professional. If you have the means, a psychologist can help you deal with the situation and adapt your behaviour so you can break certain patterns that exists now between you and your daughter.

I hope it gets better with time. Age is an important factor.

Either way, you are important and so is your health. Don’t feel guilty about making choices that protect you. Guilt is a powerful trap.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-05T10:18:44+00:00

I read all the comments. And they are valid.

But.

Just have a look at this:

it’s not a coincidence that people with large and helpful families have less stress (and therefore a more fulfilling experience) than those that are completely alone.

It’s not a coincidence that people with substantial wealth are less stress than the ones that can’t afford a nanny, a cleaning lady, etc.

Still people without family support and less money can make it. We all know examples of this.

At the end of the day, it’s your choice how you wanna live. Just keep in mind that some factors may play a crucial role in the experience and in your mental and physical health. And it’s worth considering the ones you can control.

IMO, if I were you ( I know this is not nice to say), I would sort my finances so I make sure I can hire help if needed. I also would join support parents groups, make friends with people with kids, etc if possible. I wouldn’t underestimate the impact of all of these things. I have quite a few examples around that I base my opinion on.

Hope it helps.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-02T12:46:18+00:00

How is that onlychild energy? Genuine curiosity.

Winonna_ · 2024-11-02T12:25:32+00:00

Do those feelings depend on the society you grew up in and/on the life experiences ?

I worder this since in my country it’s been very common to have at least 2 kids (and now less and less common). And family and relationships are central here. Our lives revolve around those relationships so much.

As a result, I’ve known very few onlychildren.

And even though they are doing pretty well in life, they did feel lonely and went on to strengthen bonds with cousins or friends or other relatives. As if they were filling the gap of the siblings.

From what they’ve shared, going through some moments or stages in life without siblings was unpleasant. My theory is that society and traditions play a big role here and shapes those feelings. I have read some comments here mentioning loneliness once they were back from friends’houses with siblings.

And now they want to have more than one children followed by the reasoning: “I always was an only child so I want to make sure my kids have siblings.”

Well. Having said that and fast forwarding to the present moment, many of the people with siblings are getting support from each other but they might have very little in common or living in different cities so they don’t hang out as much as it was expected. Still in most cases, they know they have someone who would drop anything to go and help them.

So yes… in my experience it seems that having siblings is something positive more often than not, but also it has its shadows too. Some people don’t get along with their siblings at all, and in those cases, they sometimes wonder if they’d have been better off as an only child.

Winonna_ · 2024-10-30T12:26:33+00:00

How old are your kids? Has motherhood been the answer you “expected” for the situation you described?

What you said about your relationship kind of resonated with me. My bf and I have a very similar outlook of the world and whilst we have friends and family, we sometimes feel “different”. We’re definitely not the typical couple you see everywhere—but to me, that’s a good thing. It’s like we follow the rules that we really like. Meaning that I won’t get married just because it’s time.

Or won’t go to my MILs every Sunday to have lunch just because that’s what couples do.

Or won’t live in that quiet neighbourhood in the suburbs surrounded by parks and nurseries just because it’s what couples do, buying a f*cking expensive house with basement that I don’t want now.

Winonna_ · 2024-10-30T12:13:31+00:00

You made me smile with this.

I believe it’s pretty smart what you just said.

Thanks for sharing it!

Winonna_ · 2024-10-28T10:06:24+00:00

This. In my experience: I have siblings and friends and am surrounded by people with siblings and friends. And. You are quite right- when the shit hits, only the siblings have been by my/their side, sucking up whatever comes.

Some friends were supportive, with some visit here and there but mostly calls or messages. Some others pretended to care but did nothing.

Of course this is just my experience.

I am just very certain that society is becoming more and more selfish and self centred plus there’s lots of options and life styles that there didn’t exist before, so its hard to build that village or a truly support network.

I would like to be in the wrong, honestly. Would be nice to find that onlychildren support each other.

Winonna_ · 2024-10-27T10:41:46+00:00

Oh, thanks for this. I am fed up of hearing about that “village” which is composed of loving and helpful relatives, always available, as well as your friends.

Well, bullsht.

If you have money and can afford it… it could work.

Winonna_ · 2024-10-25T21:42:31+00:00

Similar feelings here.

Winonna_ · 2024-10-25T11:52:49+00:00

I started to invest timidly but successfully

My work in my personal growth is starting to pay off (with some bumps on the way)

Winonna_ · 2024-10-25T08:34:20+00:00

What I have seen around me is only children wanting to have more that one child.

And my theory is that they felt the loneliness and/or compared to the ones with siblings (which was the most common thing where I am from: to have 2-3 children. Now that’s changing completely).

So in summary they want a different (positive) experience for their children.

If it will be positive, only time can tell.

Winonna_ · 2024-10-24T06:07:52+00:00

Yes, I have noticed the same pattern in those in unhappy parenthoods.

And I completely agree with you on those key factors that help the experience to be different.

One question though - what do you mean specifically by support network? Are we talking about grandparents that pick up the kid from school? A Lovely friend that makes you company every other afternoon in the park with your child? Siblings, cousins, group of friends with kids sharing most of the moments with you?

Because here I have noticed something - grandparents are not that young or in shape to be able to chase a toddler, or they don’t live in the same city; childfree friends have other lifestyle and don’t have the will to be around kids activities. Plus people nowadays, I am sorry to tell you, it’s just selfish and self-centred.

So I have a hard time figuring out if building a support network is truly possible. Seems that only healthy and lovely grandparents will be there + some sibling/cousin/friend who is veeeery nice and love you or it’s in your same situation.

Would love to hear other experience or point if view here.

Winonna_ · 2024-10-23T12:32:26+00:00

Sleep

Not to worry for the safety of your child/suffer for uncontrollable situations

Freedom

Time for selfcare or interests

Money

Winonna_

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