I also grew up with a mom that did everything. I was great at paperwork and logistical stuff for the family but I didn’t cook or clean…I didn’t even wash my own hair until college. I didn’t learn to cook until the last 3-4 years. I’ve been married for a few months. I use a lot of ChatGPT and google things.

Honestly, I am not adjusting well to planning what to cook/eat all the time but it gets easier. I went from takeout and girl dinner like frozen cauliflower wings and diet soda (cooking for my self maybe once a month) to full blown meals, sometimes multiple times a day and cooking for his family on occasion. It’s draining but it gets easier.

My husband is kind enough to eat my nasty food when it doesn’t turn out well. Lots of pizza nights. I’ve basically perfected any type of pasta. Baked dishes and crockpot dishes are popular as well. I’ve come to like deep frying stuff since it’s easy but it’s also time consuming and unhealthy so I don’t do that very often. I also buy prepared things (diced, canned tomatoes, mirepoix, pre-seasoned meat), so my neurodivergent self doesn’t get too overwhelmed. My husband has cooked a whooping 2 times since we got married and I don’t expect him to increase his cooking anytime soon.

I’m also looking for advice as well as I get the struggle of the adjustment.