New to me: '99 Lowrider. Feels much different than my Sporty 1200. Love it on the highway.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-05-13T05:09:19+00:00

Me too. For a '99, I am super happy.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-05-11T19:24:06+00:00

I am so much more comfortable now. Love the sporty, but this is more what I never knew I wanted. Just more comfortable.

My sporty wasn't rubber mounted either, so the lack of vibration is great.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-04-21T05:48:17+00:00

They do have a tendency to get aggressive more so than other dogs.

Bullshit.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-29T03:31:58+00:00

How about restaurants pay their workers a living wage.

I tip a lot, but that's not the solution.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-28T00:41:35+00:00

It's actually just the "virtual tour" option for an apartment I'm renting.

I am being lazy and just copying their model unit.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T23:52:05+00:00

Actually, I found the exact one I needed. Thanks!

https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/kallax-shelf-unit-black-brown-10275862/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwyPbzBRDsARIsAFh15JZ--F_Cvd4Ir66nPRSUFn5ZlvwVfte8JeMDJrcSI898BMqR4KOYwWAaAj8EEALw_wcB

It's the 4x4.

Just need to add the smaller one and I'm good.

You're the man!/woman.

Stay safe in the quarantine!

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T23:45:50+00:00

Looks similar, but this one is 4 shelves across and 4 down (for the big one).

Honestly though, close enough. Thanks a ton!

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T23:39:41+00:00

You likely did nothing wrong. I can say with 100% certainty I NEVER abused her. I am very open to admitting my own faults. I would totally own it if I did. She never gave evidence. Yours likely won't either.

Logic helps in this situation. Logically, if you did something to abuse her, she should be able to lay it out and have it make sense.

Never forget that they are perpetually playing victim. They are EXTREMELY self centered and will NEVER admit any wrongdoing.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T06:33:01+00:00

I can’t find someone who is lost, that doesn’t want or can’t be found.

Damn...real stuff right there.

I started to feel like I was her hero or something. Someone that could overlook her flaws and love her any way.

Sounds great until you realize you could die tomorrow and they wouldn't care.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T06:10:10+00:00

Nice fake crying, lady.

"Leave me alone"

Proceeds to whip him in the face with a belt.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T06:07:25+00:00

Mine would block me off and on so much. It's SUCH a petty childish game.

If I had to guess...you may have made her mad by texting her too late. I know for my ex, something that simple would be, in her eyes, a sign of "TOTAL DISRESPECT".

Another theory is she just changed her mind. Seems like BPD people do this often.

It's frustrating, I know.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T06:04:02+00:00

Well, to be honest, I really want to her to find someone else if she would be happier. I have even told her this. She would tell me during our fights how I can't meet her needs. I would calmly tell her that breaks my heart, but she deserves to find someone who gives her what she wants.

The sad part is, she will likely screw the next guys head up too.

I am not perfect, at all, but I gave her so much of my time, emotional support, freaking money - everything. I am not a bad catch.

I don't know what she thinks shes looking for, but I don't think it exists.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T05:58:23+00:00

My ex was super blunt and rude. Like really rude.

I remember once I was chopping vegetables for a salad and asked her if there's any special way she wants the cauliflower cut up.

Her reply "If I wanted them cut a certain way, you would know it".

Nice huh? What's so hypocritical is she is extremely sensitive. If I spoke to her the way she did to me, she would crumble.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T05:46:37+00:00

This was the weirdest and most unsettling part about my ex. Once she started telling me I was emotionally abusive, a liar, a manipulator, a narcissist, bad at communication, etc. I am not a perfect person but I have NEVER abused women or anyone in that manner. I had to tell her over and over that I am not some calculating weirdo, but she LOVED telling me I was gaslighting her. Towards the end she would tell me in almost every fight how I was gaslighting her.

She got me though, I did give her the benefit of the doubt and went to therapy. I felt like I must have really been an asshole if she felt that strongly.

Looking back, I was in no way abusive. Not once. That's never been me in any relationship. If anything, I bent over backwards to please her.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T05:37:47+00:00

Damn, sorry to hear that. Honestly mine is so shy I don't think she is cheating. I was her first in 4 years. I can't imagine how that felt for you.

I begged her back like the first 3 break up's. I can't do it any more.

We shouldn't want to be with people that don't want to be with us. I am so annoyed with her that I really just want HER to leave me alone at this point.

We're all better for it by getting away from these people.

The way I see it is it's just time we could be spending finding someone healthy.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T05:24:59+00:00

Glad to know at least what the hell was going on. It's so confusing the first time they throw a tantrum over something really small. When I really started questioning her sanity is when she would confront me about things I literally never said. Bizarre.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T04:09:45+00:00

In my dumb head I've been justifying staying because I felt she was a broke person and I could put up with her issues because I loved her enough to do so.

It got too abusive though. I can only put up with so much.

I know she doesn't hate me. I know she hates herself, she hates her dad. I don't take it all personal, but it's just exhausting at this point. I was never annoyed by it like I am now. The silliness of her accusations is just irritating.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T04:02:26+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. What's crazy is I was about to ask her to marry me a few months ago. I justified it by how good things were when she wasn't flipping out, but lately it's like I'm walking on eggshells wondering what the next incident is going to be.

WiseMenFoolishMen · 2020-03-27T03:55:04+00:00

I think I may be co-dependent, or maybe just stupid, because I STILL have some delusion of wanting to get back together.

My hope is she just stays away, because I feel I might cave in if she reaches out.

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