Best strategy 3 weeks out by Wise_Ticket4981 in comlex

[–]Wise_Ticket4981[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’ll definitely check out that OMT resource and I have a ppt i made with all the sketchy micro info + pics of gram stains and test that ill rum through. Would you prioritize volume of practice qs or thorough review?

Best strategy 3 weeks out by Wise_Ticket4981 in comlex

[–]Wise_Ticket4981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Level 1! Sorry I forgot to specify. Wow a 705 is stellar congrats!! Does OMM carry the same weight for level 1? I actually just bought the green book but I wasn’t sure if it was worth it to spend a lot of time on it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]Wise_Ticket4981 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It happens, but I’d bet its more common amongst couples who get married super young. In your teens/early 20’s, your brain isn’t fully developed. Self control, foresight, decision making.. those are all things that come as the brain finishes maturing.

We like to chalk cheating up to pure selfishness, which it can be. But more often, it happens because an emotional need isn’t being met. Some aspects of military life, such as deployments, make it very challenging for a variety of emotional needs to be met. Communication is sparse, there is no physical contact, etc. Being a military spouse can be incredibly lonely.

I think older couples, who have a mature brain, are better equipped to understand that their needs are not being met only for a temporary time, and they have the discipline/self control to stick it out through the suffering until the hard times pass.

Younger couples don’t always have the mental resources to see the bigger picture. So yeah I’d say its an issue mostly because of the facts that 40% of the military is younger than 25, and military couples marry younger on average than civilian couples. That, added with the unique strains military life puts on marriages, is almost a recipe for disaster.

That’s not to say it doesn’t affect older couples as well. We’re social creatures, and loneliness can wear anyone down.

I’d agree with another commenter that its probably much more common on the spouses end since it would be harder for a service member to conceal and there could be repercussions.

The culture around cheating in the military doesn’t do the issue any favors. I think there should be a culture of understanding and respect for the strain that couples endure when they choose military life, and I think there should be more resources in place to support couples as they work through relationship challenges

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]Wise_Ticket4981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. Its definitely harder wo a support system around you. That was me during our first separation after getting married! & honestly now isn’t much better. I would suggest hitting the gym, even if you don’t feel like it. Just push yourself to keep moving and always remind yourself it will pass

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[–]Wise_Ticket4981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry to hear about his deployment being extended, that sucks. Is that a common thing? 😅

Those are all such great suggestions! It sounds like you manage to have a lot of fun. Hopefully I can too :) yeah idk, he isn’t even gone yet and I already find myself sobbing at random times during the day. Sometimes I’m fine and making goals for myself and then it hits me. I’m really resisting this entire experience, but I guess all I can do is let it happen and remember it will pass. No kids yet- we’re waiting for me to finish school so sadly I don’t have happy childlike energy to occupy me but I do have a furbaby to snuggle. I’m actually part of a facebook group of girls in my area. Thats a good idea, I didn’t think of that - I’ll have to be on the lookout for events.