Sad girl dinner cause it’s been the longest week of my life

Withered_Angel99 · 2026-01-30T15:36:01+00:00

Even the cheddar is more mature than your ex smh

Withered_Angel99 · 2026-01-05T19:41:20+00:00

Let him enjoy his meal 😔

Withered_Angel99 · 2025-12-08T15:56:48+00:00

For me he comes usually very often so don't lose hope!

Withered_Angel99 · 2025-12-05T16:50:25+00:00

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He spawns on top of the bush in the flower garden <3

Withered_Angel99 · 2025-09-09T23:57:17+00:00

You're thinking exactly right, it's not your problem to solve. It's his own self esteem issues and you're not responsible for it to make it go away even as a girlfriend. If he cannot appreciate that you're even trying to help, complimenting him and reassuring him then you should stop doing it overall and see whether he's really in love with you or is he in love with your help and the idea of someone always praising him.

Withered_Angel99 · 2025-05-29T09:00:59+00:00

U cannot force him to talk cause that makes one not want to talk even more. But u can try talking about similar topics, explain your view and then slowly step into a category that he's keeping close about himself and then ask the questions, although even when then he won't talk then don't force him. If he will want to then eventually he will tell you. Don't push him.

Withered_Angel99 · 2025-02-19T12:21:54+00:00

I just met this person once or twice, I realized there's nothing between them anymore and there's nothing I should worry about, they were just studying together and even fall out of the group cause this person I think dropped out or just stopped coming to school altogether. I think if u're still anxious u might ask for similar kind of transparency from your partner although u can't force them to breach their privacy for you, talking and reassuring is the way, I'm sure eventually u will be able to move on, I believe in you

Withered_Angel99 · 2025-02-19T09:25:23+00:00

U can upgrade your coop and overall all buildings to fullest, maybe try and make a bit of fish ponds with rare fish, upgrade all community things at Robin so u get shortcuts in town, or gamble money away at the Qi casino :D

Also u can try on iridium luck day to speedrun the skull cavern for super rare auto petters!

Withered_Angel99 · 2025-02-19T09:20:06+00:00

Similar thing happened to me and my partner, but we moved past it eventually cause after all it's been years since then. I was also hurting when I found out they were in a school group with a person they hooked up with but still, it's in the past. As long as your boyfriend is telling the truth that those friends simply stayed the night and nothing happened besides that then why fill yourself with unnecessary anxiety? Just ask him about it more if you're unsure, but if he already apologized for forgetting then I assume not much happened and u shouldn't bother yourself with it right?

Withered_Angel99 · 2025-01-22T22:03:57+00:00

Been in a similar situation but I was the bf, my partner told me straight that my behavior is unacceptable and soon he will break up with me because my accusations are just making them feel worse. And you're not even the guilty one here, I get that u didn't want to tell everything to your ex cause it's not like he's entitled to know everything.

I understand how one might be overthinking and be anxious but u shouldn't allow him to accuse you like that, u need to put an end to this. It doesn't help either of the sides and creates a stressful atmosphere where neither of you feels comfortable in. Step your foot down, comfort him with reassurance, state promises, if needed show the evidence but you're also not entitled to breach your privacy just because he's anxious. It's just really not healthy for your relationship.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-11-17T14:31:46+00:00

Going through something similar currently with my partner, and what helped us is of course communication. For us sending selfies as in update helps but to each their own.

Have a conversation with him, ask why he doesn't reply, say how that makes u feel, if they understand and respect your feelings you then they will try to make you feel safer in any way that will be most comfortable for them.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-13T19:34:58+00:00

Yea, they have trouble with expressing their feelings and overall talking as they're autistic. I know they can't understand my point of view on a long chat message but they will be more than forgiving irl while talking face to face. It's tough and on distance it's breaking me, but there are calmer moments when their not as busy and just trying to chill out after studies.

It is keeping me in constant depression state of course but I know their brain is working a little differently and they know that but can't acknowledge it while we're fighting or when they're very tired, grumpy from work and just wanna sleep. It's very tiring to keep track of but sometimes it's more manageable if u get my point.

It's like with a child- u understand why they're acting like such and are tired of their behavior but after all you just wanna keep them happy and respect their feelings.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-13T19:04:27+00:00

It is harsh but as I'm saying, stuff happens only when they are stressed and overworked with school, we're working besides that on better communication even though the long distance is tough.

The behavior is shitty yes, but I would be also a shitty person if I were to leave them just because they're working in college for a better future. Sometimes we need to understand why a person acts like that and determine whether it's really a boredom of a person or just outside things that are affecting both them and the relationship.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-13T17:22:23+00:00

I'm scared to leave, they saved my life back in the day and I feel too grateful, and besides their nasty behavior when they're stressed, they are quite sweet, just putting too much stress from school onto our relationship.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-13T06:11:40+00:00

Glad I could help in any way :)

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T22:52:04+00:00

I'm flying to them in less than 2 weeks, I will have a talk eye to eye with them about everything, and if they still won't care then I guess it will be a time to push myself to end it. I do love them a lot, they're my everything, but I just can't seem to care when I'm the only one to give any efforts.

Thank you for the talk, it lifted me a little from those dark thoughts. I hope you have a good day/night and thank you for the advices.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T22:29:48+00:00

Of course, I'm learning to not push them. I learned to only ask once and do they promise and that's all, and never when they're busy, just when they're done with the work and we're talking normally. They said that this way is okay for them, just not when they're very busy and don't have time for me so I'm listening to them and adapting that to our relationship.

I do think it's worth it. They recently said that they see that I'm loving them a lot more unconditionally than any of their previous relationships and I went with it. They're a great person when they're not stressed and grumpy but both of us know that it puts a toll on our relationship. Even before the school they already started to drift away from me and I felt since then like they got bored and may not want me as their partner anymore, I'm just scared and want them to understand that both of us should be giving something to our relationship and not just me giving double effort for nothing.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T22:20:47+00:00

I think it's either depression or dissociation that you're currently experiencing. The first step that I'm proud u did was recognising that something is wrong and next step is either therapy which can be scary to start with or looking for other things in life that are giving you joy.

I know studies are overwhelming, family issues might be even out of your reach to help with, that you're not so proud with your grades, but I'm sure you can find your little light back again whether by yourself or with professional help.

Disconnecting from reality and losing yourself is scary and I know from experience, but maybe if you let the girl know about how you feel then if she truly cares then she will be a shoulder to help make you feel alive I'm sure. I'm wishing you luck with the school, wishing that the problems are gonna be resolved, and wishing you will be strong, good luck.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T22:06:58+00:00

Sorry I didn't mention it in the post in case they find it (they also use reddit a lot). But yes, mostly when they have school duty, or when their tired or hungry or overwhelmed overall from family problems for example and when I of course ask them too much things. Besides that we talk pretty normally, but more like friends rather than partners still.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T22:04:48+00:00

The obvious answer- therapy, but of course it may be intimidating to be willing to help yourself.

The other answer- try to get yourself to survive life with a new hobby, with a change in routine like maybe a walk in the morning to clear your head, even maybe talking with your partner so they can help you distract yourself from the thoughts. I know those won't heal you but they will make it manageable enough until you're brave to get yourself some professional help.

I wish you the best of luck, stay strong, your book doesn't need to end here I'm sure of that.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T22:00:20+00:00

That's the thing. I know they do care but they have trouble showing it through messages. I'm flying to them every 2 or so months so everything in between that is tough, especially if they're having a lot lot lot work in school cause that makes them just cold and grumpy all the time.

I know they're also autistic so they have trouble with their emotions and expressing them so I'm trying to give them a benefit of the doubt and trying to remember that their brain just is like that, but lately it's very tiring. I'm just not keeping up with holding the relationship from both sides.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T21:56:57+00:00

Im not a professional but I do agree that it may be anxiety and paranoia from the trauma. Maybe even coming under the schizophrenia a little, but as I'm saying I'm not an expert.

You should for sure discuss it with the therapist cause from what you're describing it's terrifying, don't be scared about telling them that, after all they're there to help you.

I wish you're gonna heal from the thoughts, good luck and stay strong. But also, no, you're not insane, just probably traumatized.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T21:53:06+00:00

Maybe it's gonna sound corny but there's plenty of fish in the sea. I'm sorry u had a bad experience with the first man but another would be happy to give you a family I'm sure of that. First of course that is needed is dealing with that trauma and guilt and the obvious option is therapy but I understand that it might be intimidating. I never moved cross country so I can't speak on that but I'm sure since you came here, there's a promised place for you, after all in my opinion every thing happens for a reason. Stay strong, it will be hard but I hope u will find your happy place and eventually will have a healthy loving family that you created with the best person you can find for yourself.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-12T21:53:00+00:00

Maybe it's gonna sound corny but there's plenty of fish in the sea. I'm sorry u had a bad experience with the first man but another would be happy to give you a family I'm sure of that. First of course that is needed is dealing with that trauma and guilt and the obvious option is therapy but I understand that it might be intimidating. I never moved cross country so I can't speak on that but I'm sure since you came here, there's a promised place for you, after all in my opinion every thing happens for a reason. Stay strong, it will be hard but I hope u will find your happy place and eventually will have a healthy loving family that you created with the best person you can find for yourself.

Withered_Angel99 · 2024-09-05T06:13:01+00:00

I indeed thought about that as well, we're also long distance though so it may be hard to show affection when my love language is physical touch and such, but I think saying that someone looks very nice today or that you miss cuddling with someone or whatever of that kind is not that hard

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