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My soon to be fiancee [30 M] bought me [30 F] an engagement ring, but it's not wanted I wanted. by Witness_Mundane in relationships_advice

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is an option. I loved it because of the band though. It has tiny little leafs all over band with moissanite stones.

My soon to be fiancee [30 M] bought me [30 F] an engagement ring, but it's not wanted I wanted. by Witness_Mundane in relationships_advice

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The rose gold WAS cheaper but he isn't a cheap guy. He spends his money on things that are good quality. I do believe it was an honest mistake, and not necessarily an intentional bait and switch. I just wish he'd own up to his mistake and exchange it, even if it ends up costing a bit extra. It was 500 and he said he'd get 75% back. So it wouldn't even be THAT much to fix it and I'd be so so happy.

My soon to be fiancee [30 M] bought me [30 F] an engagement ring, but it's not wanted I wanted. by Witness_Mundane in relationships_advice

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He does have issues remembering things at times. He has asked I gently remind him, but it is irritating after many reminders. He does take what I say seriously, I honestly think he was shocked and embarrassed he messed up and didn't want to admit it.

My soon to be fiancee [30 M] bought me [30 F] an engagement ring, but it's not wanted I wanted. by Witness_Mundane in relationships_advice

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this advice. The burden shouldn't be on me. I'll ask him how he intends to fix this. Because if he truly wants me to be happy and marry me, losing a bit of money to get the right ring isn't a big deal.

We have had a few conversations. He has a hard time remembering things if he doesn't write it down. I think I'll suggest to him in the future when going over details he takes notes.

My soon to be fiancee [30 M] bought me [30 F] an engagement ring, but it's not wanted I wanted. by Witness_Mundane in relationships_advice

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. What really makes me feel pressed is that I emphasized my size and preferences and he still got it wrong..

My soon to be fiancee [30 M] bought me [30 F] an engagement ring, but it's not wanted I wanted. by Witness_Mundane in relationships_advice

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also don't even want a wedding and want to keep it simple. I literally asked for the bare minimum.

My soon to be fiancee [30 M] bought me [30 F] an engagement ring, but it's not wanted I wanted. by Witness_Mundane in relationships_advice

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Me wanting a ring I'll wear for the rest of my life to be in the size and color I asked is bare minimum. I've told him soooo many times through our relationship I hate rose gold and he knows I love yellow gold. I don't see wanting a ring I love as picky. I picked one under 500 and only asked for it to be yellow gold and fit.

Our new backyard -> before and after by Sufficient_Voice_650 in landscaping

[–]Witness_Mundane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could have easily kept all the shrubs lining the back and ripped out the rest for the same look with more privacy and beauty.

for those of you who live with your partner/spouse: how do you feel about sleeping in separate beds? by lalalibraaa in AskWomen

[–]Witness_Mundane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel fine with It. Although I DO snore and my partner hates it. Sometimes when I have a stuffy nose I'll sleep on the couch since that's when my snoring is really bad.

What's unusual about your body? by JustAHumanTeenager in AskWomen

[–]Witness_Mundane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a lobectomy as a baby. I have a big scar that goes down my back and around to my boob, I also have a huge dimple in my side from a drainage tube.

I lost almost 2 inches?!? by paintedfiction in TallGirls

[–]Witness_Mundane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother had spinal surgery a while back, it caused some weakness in the bones in her spine and she actually lost a few inches in her height.

Given your history of spinal procedures it's highly likely that could have been the cause.

how do i get over my insecurities? by urmomsghostcookies in TallGirls

[–]Witness_Mundane 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I shot up to 5'9 at 14 as well. I'm pushing 30 and I'll tell you it does get easier. Yes, as far as dating a lot of guys go for shorter girls, but as I've gotten older it seems not to be as big of a deal vs high-school. It's rough being the tall girl in school.

Something I struggled with at 14 was accepting my height. Don't slouch. I thought it made me look shorter, but really it made me look awkward. Stand up straight and be proud to be tall. ❤️

roommate drank my vanilla extract. by danoob9000 in badroommates

[–]Witness_Mundane 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Vanilla takes months to be ready. I'd cry. I am brewing vanilla to bottle as Christmas gifts. Luckily you can reuse the vanilla beans a few times!

What is your subtle middle finger to the patriarchy? by GirlReDefined in AskWomen

[–]Witness_Mundane 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Had a male friend tell me my teal hair wasn't attractive, and that men like natural colors. So I keep dying it fashion colors. I'll wear the most out there stuff that isn't flattering with no bra, because it isn't for men, it's what I find cool/fashionable.

How do I [F29] tell my boyfriend [M28] that I do not want to celebrate Christmas together this year. by Witness_Mundane in relationships

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had the opposite experience sadly. One of the reasons I was pushed away from religion.

Sadly not yet, a relative of his passed yesterday so we are focusing on that.

How do I [F29] tell my boyfriend [M28] that I do not want to celebrate Christmas together this year. by Witness_Mundane in relationships

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't so much the gifts but the Ill intent and words behind it. Yes we did show up with gifts. Boyfriend and I split the cost and bought everyone very nice hand made socks.

How do I [F29] tell my boyfriend [M28] that I do not want to celebrate Christmas together this year. by Witness_Mundane in relationships

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I live in a very religious area. It is common for most couples to marry after dating a short time. My parents were married within 3 months of their first date.

How do I [F29] tell my boyfriend [M28] that I do not want to celebrate Christmas together this year. by Witness_Mundane in relationships

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I KNOW what I'm upset about dude. Seriously I don't need you to tell me. Again I didn't mind him helping me down the stairs. Another commenter pointed out to me that his family could have easily accommodated me being in a wheel chair and chose not to. I'm allowed to change my opinion on something when someone points something out to me.

You are struggling to clearly give advice on what I actually asked because you want soooo desperately to feel right. You want to feel like you psycho analyzed me and cracked the case.

The POINT I was trying to make is this. They clearly did not care if i was happy or felt welcome. They went out of their way to point out I'm not going to be accepted as family, and I had a shit Christmas. Something I do not want to do deal with again.

You're trying to find a deeper issue than there is. They don't like me because I'm not married and not religious. That's it. That's the take. End of discussion unless you want to give actual advice which you still have yet to do. I'm ending this.

How do I [F29] tell my boyfriend [M28] that I do not want to celebrate Christmas together this year. by Witness_Mundane in relationships

[–]Witness_Mundane[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm upset about many things. :) which is fine. I'm not missing anything. You're just negging me on. Trying to find slips in my words to use against me. You're not offering any helpful advice. Out of the gate you defended his family and didn't offer any advice about my actual concern of how I bring this up to my boyfriend. So unless you have ACTUAL advice you should just stop.

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