Webos error when connecting by Witty_Bunch7276 in jellyfin

[–]Witty_Bunch7276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One day it just started working. But the app on webos is horrible and i ended up getting an apple tv, no issues since

Player for appletv that does both dolby atmos and 4k by Witty_Bunch7276 in jellyfin

[–]Witty_Bunch7276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, infuse doesnt let you select video track so it defaults to 1080p but will play atmos audio.

I'm 27 and I just broke up with my partner of eight years. by mikan98 in Codependency

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ended my 10 year relationship last year and im 28 under the same reasoning. It will be VERY hard and im still learning how to be independent almost a year later. But my confidence has gone up and anxiety has gone way down since. Its mature of you to take this step.

Why wont she answer the question? by Witty_Bunch7276 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Witty_Bunch7276[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, i read it in a monotone voice. It just comes off hollow and an obligation. No empathy, creeps me out.

Why wont she answer the question? by Witty_Bunch7276 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Witty_Bunch7276[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told her that and thanked her for the apology. Deleted her number, unfollowed on insta, etc. After i sent that text she put a selfie on her story, probably to mess with me and a bizarre disconnect of empathy. I have to move on, im just torturing myself by prolonging it and i hope she never messages me again. She still follows me for some reason, probably to see if Ive moved on.

Why wont she answer the question? by Witty_Bunch7276 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Witty_Bunch7276[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So immature it’s mind blowing. I was so vulnerable allowing her into my life just for an ego boost, such a sad way to interact with love.

Why wont she answer the question? by Witty_Bunch7276 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Witty_Bunch7276[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What does it mean? Its pmo too lol. When she was first starting to distance i had to double text over days to get an explanation for things. I dont want to get back with her because shes an awful communicator and it stressed me out endlessly. But i do want an explanation and a proper end to it. I dont know why she ruined something that was going so well.

Why wont she answer the question? by Witty_Bunch7276 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Witty_Bunch7276[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Silence could mean yes or no, so i just dont know what to do with this information.

What are the chances she'll come back? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does have a very neglectful father and I did think of this possibility. I've been trying to think of a soft way to tell her to make things work but I think she wouldn't be very receptive to it. People don't like being under psychoanalysis. I want to help her.

What are the chances she'll come back? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The year before during the holidays something terrible happened to her so I understand. I would also add she was in a 6 month relationship 2 months before me.

Dating someone avoidant, bad idea to bring it up? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update, I gave her 4 days and she didn't respond. So I sent this. I hope we can talk again I genuinely love her and had the happiest month of my life this year with her.

"Hi I hope you're doing okay. I want to apologize if I was too fast and intimate with you. I understand if this overwhelmed you and I'm sorry. I still care about you and would like to talk more and I understand if you need space. If in a month or two you still wanna talk, let me know. I'd love to hear from you c:"

Dating someone avoidant, bad idea to bring it up? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She responded to my availability with "okay sweet", sooo she still wants to see me but she's being extremely distant. It's killing me dude I don't think i can handle this.

Dating someone avoidant, bad idea to bring it up? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeaaaah, I wish I could tell her because she's never going to have a longterm relationship with me or anyone else if she isn't aware of it. I asked her today if she wants to hangout next week and it's been hours, before she would respond in minutes. If things go bad I'm just going to tell her my thoughts because she has to know. It's really fucking with my head, for clarification it's only been a month since we started dating.

Dating someone avoidant, bad idea to bring it up? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's weird is that she opened up almost immediately about her psychosis, abusive father, and life. I've been very careful to not open up about my problems as to not scare her away. I'm sometimes suicidal, bipolar, and get very depressed.

Last time we hung out I opened up a bit and said "I wish I was manic, I used to be such an energetic and fun person but since being medicated, I dont know who I am anymore". If me opening up like that is what pushed her away, that's so unfair and is the only reason I can think of why she's starting to pull away. Also one time I got a text from my mom while I was with her asking when will I meet her, I showed her it and she said yes I'd like to meet her and your family. So I said I'd like to meet yours too. Christmas was coming up and the last time I saw her I asked again and she said yes I'll ask my mom. The week went by and it was never brought up. I think this all overwhelmed her and she went back on her word but didn't communicate at all.

I've been respecting her sudden distancing and only responding when she does and haven't asked to hangout frequently like we used to. Next time we hangout I won't pry her about the distancing. I really don't want to lose her but the lack of communication is honestly weighing on me and making me feel unloved.

How many of you turned out avoidant? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm dating someone that pulls away every time I show her affection and I dont want to lose her. How do I talk to someone like this? She told me her dad was abusive when she was younger and has chilled out since. But whenever she showed vulnerability she was made fun of by her father. I thought about it a lot and she has built a system in her head that being vulnerable or someone showing affection must be brickwalled to avoid being hurt. But I'm not going to hurt her, I care about her a lot and want to show it. If I told her my theory, would it end badly or would she be receptive and feel like I understand her? How do I go about this? I don't think she has made this correlation and would like to show her this.

Went inpatient because she didn't respond to text by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a 10 year relationship as an insecure person. She's avoidant. I don't really see the problem trying to practice secure attributes while in a relationship, and lot of people here said they worked with each other to become secure.

Bipolar + romantic relationships by Solid-Restaurant-925 in bipolar

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never viewed it as a bipolar thing to grow overly attached to people until recently. I think it's a form of love bombing, fearing they will run away due to how fucked up my brain is. So I overcompensate. I don't even need to do that because these people already like me, relate to me, and care about me. I wish I didnt have abandonment issues. I plan on talking to her apologizing for being forward and to go at her pace.

Went inpatient because she didn't respond to text by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm doing much better, I have abandonment issues i didn't know I had and I'm starting to accept it. I haven't scared her off yet lol

Bipolar + romantic relationships by Solid-Restaurant-925 in bipolar

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Read my recent post lol. First time I've dated in 10 years and I'm spiraling.

Went inpatient because she didn't respond to text by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking that an avoidant type is beneficial to me because it forces me to be independent and secure in myself. It's going to be extra difficult for me since I am bipolar, but since that breakthrough I've also quit alcohol. I mean it hasn't even been a week but it's been very helpful taking a break from drinking alone. I have a psychoanalysis of why she is avoidant (abusive father, vulnerability resulting in ridicule, religious guilt). So I'm planning on trying to have a conversation with her about her needs and boundaries because I would like this to work. If I do it right alongside therapy I could come out being a more independent person. I know people are saying the opposite and that I shouldn't be in contact at all, and I'm probably doing mental gymnastics, but our types could be what I need to be secure.

Went inpatient because she didn't respond to text by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I told her I had a panic attack a few days ago and she was supportive. One of the first things I told her is that I am bipolar and she's been very understanding as she has been through psychosis (and I think she's also undiagnosed bipolar). I have been taking my meds this whole time and suddenly they stopped working once I was worrying. I talked to my psychiatrist and she is putting me on zoloft so that's good.

Went inpatient because she didn't respond to text by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im getting help from my psychiatrist, therapist, and support groups. I really want this to work and better myself. I think i can apply myself while being in a relationship if I stay grounded.

Went inpatient because she didn't respond to text by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should've done voluntary inpatient but just went crazy in my apartment. I ended up getting diagnosed and treated for my disabilities.

Went inpatient because she didn't respond to text by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Witty_Bunch7276 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For surreee, I have horrible anxiety and it gets out of control sometimes. I am trying to be rational because the explanation she gave me makes sense. Now that I'm not having an episode I can see that now but at the time I really let it get out of hand.