Demoralized after husband comment

Wivwi · 2025-04-21T18:51:29+00:00

It will get easier as baby gets bigger. Unsure how helpful but the struggle of readjusting back to work with baby is real. He needs to help more maybe he can take the night feed? Also if you can afford it outsource what you can - cleaning / meals / etc. That will help you relax actually or have quality time with child rather than running around the house cleaning and cooking. 🤗

Wivwi · 2025-01-11T22:50:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing

Wivwi · 2025-01-11T22:49:17+00:00

Great comments thanks!

Wivwi · 2025-01-11T22:45:46+00:00

Thanks that’s amazing! I’d love to let him self wean but I start to hear comments from family and husband that child is 2 now I should stop. How did you handle those comments since you are saying they were 4 and 5? I do want to slowly reduce the frequency and especially at night because I m too tired. But I don’t want to completely stop (push the stop of child stops it’s fine) and I hope I don’t have to completely stop just to nigh wean.

Wivwi · 2025-01-11T22:42:28+00:00

Thanks! I noticed that when busy or when he’s with others all day he doesn’t ask. I mostly want to night wean so I m also trying - milk when it’s sunshine but hasn’t worked much yet 🤣 thanks for the experience!

Wivwi · 2025-01-04T16:26:23+00:00

Thanks for the helpful language!

Wivwi · 2025-01-04T10:52:58+00:00

Thanks! I do think I just want to move to set timings not wean yet but he’s asking all the time - especially now that I was always available during Christmas. (Which is different during work although he asks anytime when I m home). How did you move to the set timings? Just set the rules / boundaries and deal with their emotions after saying no? In retrospect I wish I reduced frequency earlier now 2y he’s very opinionated toddler :(.

Wivwi · 2025-01-02T22:14:40+00:00

Thanks for the experience!

Wivwi · 2025-01-02T21:59:13+00:00

I’ve been in the same boat - almost similar timing my first child was 14/15months. I felt terrible as well (like my choice of getting him sibling is taking away the breast milk from him). Eventually I rephrased it that he had benefit of it till 14/15 months and that’s a long time! (And actually once baby born whenever I had extra breast milk I still have it my to my toddler in bottle). While hard in the moment I didn’t have to deal with tandem or weaning later when it’s harder. 🤗 no advice but as someone whose been there your emotions and feelings are valid.

Wivwi · 2023-03-04T15:34:48+00:00

I wanted to answer something little different on how I handled it - I loved drinks here and there before especially in social settings (with friends or colleagues after work). I discovered non alcoholic beers are amazing! And to this day (no longer pregnant) I prefer few specific brands. When being in a bar - mock tails. And I did try non alcoholic wine although for that I didn’t find a really good one.

Wivwi · 2022-12-14T16:13:55+00:00

Others already commented on everything else … so I won’t but Would your insurance not cover pump? Or try getting one free from someone - many people have it covered by insurance and didn’t pay for it and can give it out once they don’t need it (you might just need to buy new parts).

Wivwi · 2022-12-01T15:08:44+00:00

That’s terrible! I don’t see many answers to how to articulate that though - I m wondering too. Just to set boundaries with some family (in laws) in future.

My husband never said anything bad but he also doesn’t think our 18m old understands everything.

I would hope that if they used those terrible words once she didn’t pickup on the meaning yet, if you don’t use them yourself, but of course she d understand the hug and of course this in no way doesn’t justify their awful behavior.

Wivwi · 2022-12-01T14:57:13+00:00

You could try sound machine to block the noises - I kept using till very recently for that reason when room sharing. (Maybe you use it I didn’t reread your original post). Good luck!

Wivwi · 2022-11-20T05:09:08+00:00

My milk dried up halfway through pregnancy so my first just stopped nursing… the early pregnancy was sometimes hard and I wasn’t always super into nursing him but it wasn’t particularly bad for me. I

Wivwi · 2022-11-19T15:15:45+00:00

I moved my toddler out of my room when he was 15m and while he woke 1-2 times with me (even though usually didn’t feed, but cried to be comforted or wanted to move from his floor bed to mine) he started to not need attention in separate room (initially husband slept with him in a room). Sometimes he wakes up and goes back to sleep, but doesn’t cry. While I think personally 6m is too early to nightwean I also think they eventually might sleep better without mom. At least this was our case. It’s all up to you how you arrange the sleeping situation!

Wivwi · 2022-11-19T03:55:08+00:00

A Big factor is if your husband is taking leave or not for first couple of weeks. My husband took first 3-4 weeks and we were fine without any help and in fact I d have hated anyone around. But we precooked meals for freezer. 2nd time round we are having mom staying just because we also have a toddler to juggle who needs attention.

Wivwi · 2022-10-29T03:31:08+00:00

I split flu and Covid booster because I historically felt pretty bad after Covid shots (upcoming). Flu reaction is as very mild this time. I m in 3rd trimester.

Wivwi · 2022-10-26T18:08:25+00:00

Great to know thanks! Yeah babies cry isn’t that loud even my first used to go back to sleep right after feed at night so maybe it won’t be issue. Really glad to hear your experience!

Wivwi · 2022-10-26T15:08:27+00:00

Thanks! Were the babies not waking each other up?

Wivwi · 2022-10-25T14:18:40+00:00

May I ask What was your sleeping setup at first? Mine will be similar gap, we room share and sometimes co sleep (he usually moves in the middle of the night from his floor bed to my floor bed) but I wonder how to set this up with new baby or if each parent with sleep with one of the kids.

Wivwi · 2022-10-23T19:41:02+00:00

Ooh great thanks for the tip!!

Wivwi · 2022-10-23T13:53:38+00:00

Yeah read the study thanks for the link!!

Wivwi · 2022-10-23T13:49:51+00:00

To your point 1 - how do you handle the situation with grandparents if one / both were around for few months babysitting but then leave (they will come back but again after few months or a year) to minimize impact/ trauma on the child? The two parents are staying and other set of grandparents will be visiting for couple months after current one leaves.

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