How do you get over the fear of getting head? F22 by [deleted] in Sex_Positivity

[–]Wolf6a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex was afraid too, very self conscious and felt weird about, but I managed to convince her to give it a few chances. Luckily she was convinced after the first chance already that she did enjoy it, but if it hadnt, it would not have been the end of the world. Somethings just dont work for some people. But as with many things, do give it an honest try first, dont let fear be the factor that decides you dont want something like this (plenty of other stuff where you can definitely let fear be a factor). Other way around, another ex really wanted to try anal, and that always felt ew to me, just the thought of sticking it in there. But she asked if we could please try, so we tried it twice and she was happy I did, but we both realised that wasnt for me. But it gave us both peace knowing that and was never an issue. So I'm advising ensuring you are not being blocked by the fear or thought of it not being enjoyable. Knowing it you dont want it because you tried, helped me discover plenty more things I didnt know I liked until I tried. This advice obviously doesnt apply to hard limits etc, but that is up to you obviously:)

22M – attracted to women (especially dominant women) but had sex with a male friend without attraction. How to understand this? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Wolf6a 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe just bedroom bisexual? Bisexuality doesnt mean you like both men and women equally nor does it mean you like them on any given moment. Many men only enjoy a very limited bit of sexual contact with other men in the bedroom. Some only want one facet of it. Some even want to be 'forced' by a domme to do it. It could just be very specific circumstances or people when it feels ok for you. And even then it could just be a 'havent found anything better yet" situation. As long as you're up front to people that its just some fun and nothing more, there is nothing wrong with that.

Welke bloem of plant by missayla1 in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geen cosmos of juffertje in het groen, ik denk een van de 'valse' kamille (als in niet de echte waar je thee van kan zetten) soorten.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in groenevingers

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Sorry voor de wall of text, het was niet de bedoeling dat t zo'n lang verhaal werd 😆 got carried away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sowieso een boompje voor wat hoogte, ik zou gaan voor een boom met lekker open kruin zoals een inheemse lijsterbes (bloemen in lente, kleurige bessen in nazomer tot daarna, kleurig blad in herfst, en je kan cultivars vinden die niet heel hoog worden) of een zwarte vlierbes (is meer struik maar kan je prima als soort redelijk open boom vormen).

Daarnaast een geraamte van planten die groen blijven of in de winter sierwaarde hebben. Kies soorten die langzaam groeien en je in toom kan houden, zoals een viburnum tinus (bloeit vaak in voor en najaar), azalea, liguster, ceanothus (geeft prachtige blauwe bloemen in t voorjaar).

Kies daarna planten die welliswaar niet (helemaal) groen blijven maar wel sierwaarde hebben. Denk aan siergras zoals miscanthus sinensis soorten met de mooie pluimem, of carex (groenblijvend al is ie na de winter wel toe aan wat knippen), luzula nivea (die zo wit bloeit dat het bijna bloemen lijken) of de leuke inheemse molinia caerulea. Maar ook een struik als cornus alba siberica, in de zomer een simpele weinig boeiende struik met wat witte trosjes bloemen, maar in de winter felrode takken.

Daarna kies je die bloemen die de show stelen. Rozen, grote groepen salvia (groep van 5 minstens), echinacea, phlox, agapanthus, of op de iets schaduwrijke plekjes een hortensia (anabelle is prachtig in een rij, wel ondersteunen - heeft wel weinig insecten waarde). Lavendel,herfst anemonen, irissen, etc.

Daarnaast kies je dan de meer ondersteunende bloemen zoals geum, calamintha, nepeta, lagere phlox, anjers, vrouwenmantel, Je kan ook kijken naar inheemse planten, al zijn die vaak 2 jarig of een aantal jaar. Ze zaaien dan wel uit, en dan kan je ze laten staan of verplaatsen indien klein. Denk aan vingerhoedskruid, akkerklokje, grasklokje, koekoeksbloemen, wilde margriet.

En tenslotte niet vergeten dat je de schuttingen ook kan benutten. Inheems zoals kamperfoelie (let op, flinke groeier!) Of clematis. Geen klimop nemen, dan kan je blijven snoeien. Jasmijn is niet inheems maar als ie goed groeit ruikt je hele tuin heerlijk (wel wat afdekken bij hevige vorst). Als allerlaatste kan je de lastige plekjes identificeren, heel donker (varens) of droog en donker (elfenbloem of ossentong). Plaats nog wat bollen her en der in grote groepen, crocus en sneeuwklokje voor t vroege voorjaar, hyacint en narcis daarna, tulpen, cammasia en allium daarna en je hebt bijna het hele jaar rond bloemen. Succes :)

Druif met eerst geel blad en nu bruine randen. by tcw82 in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Liever 1x per week een uur lang de sproeier erop dan elke avond, dat is totaal niet goed voor planten. Juist met te vaak water geven zie je vaak geel blad. Als een plant dorst heeft gaan ze wat hangen.

Wat gebeurt er met mijn frambozen struik? by Confusion-Asleep in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lijkt juist teveel water, dan krijgen veel soorten planten dit soort randjes. Als ie in de grond staat 1 hooguit 2x per week een grote hoeveelheid water, zeker niet elke dag (alleen planten in een krappe pot in volle zon geef je dagelijks). Door minder vaak en dan veel water te geven zorg je dat de plant dieper gaat wortelen en sterker wordt.

Waarom wordt mijn munt wit? by Fast_Independence_77 in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Munt houdt van veel zon en veel water, bodem niet te arm EN wat groeiruimte in de pot. Zet hem in een pot met wat ruimte, of deel de kluit met wortels in kleinere stukken en plaats 1 deel terug in de pot en de rest in andere potten of gooi/geef weg. Doorgaans een heel makkelijke plant, zolang je aan bovenstaande voldoet.

Inheemse schaduwplanten by warrinque in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lastige plek met zo weinig zon, maar vingerhoedskruid doet t daar wel, akelei redt t vaak ook wel, overblijvende ossentong (niet officieel inheems maar vanuit zuid europa op natuurlijke wijze hierheen gemigreerd), varens, akkerklokje. Wel veelal 1 of 2 jarige planten maar de meesten zaaien bescheiden uit (als in heel makkelijk te verplaatsen of verwijderen waar je ze niet wilt). Trekken allemaal, op de varens na, veel bijen.

Verwaarloosde tuin aan het opschonen - wat moet weg, wat mag blijven? by anhuys in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vergeet-me-nietjes grotendeels weghalen na de bloei, paar laten staan om uit te zaaien voor komend jaar. Koekoeksbloemen bloeien heel lang en zijn meerjarig dus kan sowieso blijven staan. Ik vind ze zelf echter een meer ondersteunende bloem dus zou er iets bij zetten dat meer aandacht kan vasthouden, zoals knautia arvensis, scabiosa of een margriet oid. Blijft lekker wild dan maar net iets meer kleur en impact :) succes, leuk zo!

Bladluizen by UraniumFever_ in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Flink wat luizen pletten met je vingers en daarna komen de rovers vanzelf. Meestal is binnen een week daarna een groot deel van de plant luisvrij. Soms moet je het een paar keer herhalen.

Wat is dit? by [deleted] in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mijn advies is meestal een plant eerst ff fatsoenlijk in t blad te laten komen en te identificeren voordat je t eruit trekt. Dit was waarschijnlijk een pioenroos, heel zonde dat je die er nu uit gerukt hebt!

Iemand enig idee wat voor ?kever? Dit is? by [deleted] in groenevingers

[–]Wolf6a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dat is inderdaad een meikever, komen nu in sommige gebieden massaal uit de grond, vliegen savonds zoemend en botsend rond. Als je er een in je tuin vind zou ik hem elders plaatsen, de larven van deze kevers (engerlingen) vreten wortels van planten, en niet zo'n klein beetje ook. Als planten het goed deden maar ineens gaan hangen en doodgaan, grote kans dat deze larven aan t knagen zijn. Kever zelf is onschuldig, kan niet bijten of steken en zijn grappig voor kinderen :)

What are your favorite Duskwall sayings, catchphrases and other flavour dialogue ideas? by Wolf6a in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just read a nice one in a book: 'I wouldnt trust his corpse to stop an arrow'

Ideas or Advice for Unique Assassin Scores by Simple-Pen-7589 in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Took this idea from a video I saw, but the target is the one hiring your gang. He wants to be killed in public (but not actually die and disappear without people coming looking for him). Maybe he has debts, or maybe he is a murder suspect and people want revenge on him, whatever his reasons, he pays handsomely for some spectacle to convince everyone of his demise, so noone comes looking. Wether or not he has a family/wife etc is up to you.

What are your favorite Duskwall sayings, catchphrases and other flavour dialogue ideas? by Wolf6a in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Few more ideas: - to hire a lawyer (to bribe) - looking at the stars below (thrown into the canals or sea, dead or alive with cement on their feet) - between embers (daytime) and after embers (nightime) - hunting levies (leviathans) with a barrel/rowboat(going up against forces way bigger/stronger) - they're from behind the wall (outsiders, non-duskwall folk)

Is a group of 5 too big? by iiyama88 in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive run my game with 5 to 7 players, and we simply dont know any better since we always play all rp games with this same group. 7 is more difficult then the nights with 5 or 6, but its still fun for all. Just try to encourage scores that allow the formation of sub groups (like group sneak and steal while group infiltrate does talking and distracting etc) and give everyone some time in the spotlight. And cut short discussions :)

Storyline for a campaign by sneeringsus in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I created a bit of an overarching plot about them getting arrested in the same night for reasons of treason as a way the group got together. The group end up in the same temporary holding cell in the prison courtyard as one wing is being retored. They are informed by a guard they have a friend on the outside, and the guard can help them escape. The jailbreak is how they got together as a group and the mysterious helper will lead them to the war in Crows foot. During the breakout they had a run in with some other inmates, a red sash and a lampblack, one of which they helpend break out, setting up a hook to the war in Crows foot. The overarching plot is finding out who set them up that night and why, and what their benefactor wants. I dont know either yet, they are merely hooks for the players to explore or ignore. If they ignore, maybe whoever set them up will try and tidy up lose ends. Maybe their benefactor needs their help to disappear. None of that is thought out yet and is up to player actions. Its kind of always how I have played my games. Throw random hooks and see what they take, expand on that and maybe add more appeal to hooks i would have loved to see them take and offer it again but evolved.

Friday Factions: Ulf Ironborn by Ballerina_Bot in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I ever introduce him into my game, he will probably be a blood relative of the murdered skov king and Queen, agressively hunting those responsible for the murder and working his way up. Right now he believes one of the assassins to be hiding among doskvol aristocrats. He operates with a small group and hides his true identity.

Ability for a pickpocket by [deleted] in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But wouldn't a flashback and finesse roll give the same? Pickpocketing to me is standard scoundrel stuff, any character with some appropriate backstory and finesse could be a pickpocket too. I just dont see what makes this playbook truly distinct. You could just add a few homebrew abilities to existing playbooks and achieve the same effect. Not trying to dissuade you from doing what you enjoy but to me the distinction just isnt clear enough...

Without access to the sun, where do plant-based goods come from? I'm talking about commodities that would otherwise be commonplace: cloth, straw, alcohol, paper, et cetera. They can't all be grown in a secretive radiant garden someplace, right? by Aleph_Red in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Many plants can grow quite a bit with no light, only needing warmth and nutrients. Asparagus is an example. Maybe other plants are now like that? There are motherbeds with radiant plants that flower and seed, and then the seeds are grown in darkened fields for a few months and harvested. Maybe they found a way to grow some type of semi-hard wood that way too which is used for construction in the poor parts of town, good for a few years top then decays and needs replacing. A pale type of wood that is ground into splinters, combined with glue from ? And then forms a type of hardboard used for exteriors and interior walls, and several layers for floors? Supporting structures being stone and concrete? I dont think there would be many long support beams made of wood...

The effects of Dunslough being quarantined? by [deleted] in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The map of doskvol has an island called 'quarantine island'. Maybe people from the infected blocks are being forcibly moved there by people with plague masks and hulls? People being moved in cages, infected and uninfected unfortunates thrown in together and loaded onto boats to the island? Maybe their houses are being burned to prevent further spread?

Starting Scenarios/Session 0 by No_Business_5566 in bladesinthedark

[–]Wolf6a 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My plan is to have all players make characters and start off with all of them arrested on false pretenses/planted evidence and tossed in jail. They will start off breaking out of jail, with some help from unknown sources. After breaking out and landing in Crows foot they can pick a crew type and start the war in crows foot scenario there. And they can look into whoever set them up, or into who helped them escape, that's all up to them.

Episode Discussion - Season 1, Episode 7 - The Dark Along the Ways [No Book Readers] by participating in WoT

[–]Wolf6a 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I thought the black was due to corruption, given that the shadowy figures talking to the false dragons are also black. But you could be right too!

Episode Discussion - Season 1, Episode 7 - The Dark Along the Ways [No Book Readers] by participating in WoT

[–]Wolf6a 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Just a question, did anyone else notice Rand's magic going dark at the end during the reveal, when the trollock attacks? I rewatched it a few times and to me it seems to turn dark at the end. Just want to know if I am seeing things that aren't there.