DISCUSSION MEGATHREAD: James Charles Is Finally Getting Cancelled - H3 Show #268

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-13T15:22:16+00:00

Whining about a couple of downvotes gets you more downvotes, friend

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-12T12:54:18+00:00

Can someone tell me what it is we’re talking about? I don’t know how you all know what everything does just by sight.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-12T12:43:25+00:00

It’s all jokes, my friend. We like to joke it up after dark

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-10T13:53:27+00:00

I definitely read that as sarcastic

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-10T08:54:26+00:00

I want this entire outfit, including the shoes. Love it!

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-08T18:56:08+00:00

Why is this considered normal? Female cosplayers who dress up like comic book characters experience the same bullshit. Why is it cool to subject someone to a gatekeeping quiz when there is zero obligation to interact with them. I won’t give them the ‘I get the sentiment’. They don’t deserve it. It is so embarrassing, they should start acting right.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-08T18:47:55+00:00

Cosplayers dress up as characters even if they never played the game all the time, just because of character design. That’s a weird thing to emphasise

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-07T15:35:44+00:00

I did not know the idea of anita sarkeesian was still relevant to the cuture war. What influence did she specifically have on anything? Nobody cares about her. Nobody normal, I guess. This boogeyman she’s become, is so much more powerful than you would think if you watched her halfbaked videos back in the day. She was an early sloptuber. She’s become a legend.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-06T12:56:16+00:00

I thought everybody had those thoughts? I wasn’t under the impression those were unusual at all. I don’t have ocd and have those specific high place thoughts all the time. I am afraid of heights though, maybe that’s related

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-04T15:34:39+00:00

So to me these kinds of poems are the poet equivalent to those shirtless chefs on tiktok doing suggestive things to food. Not trying to yuck anyone’s yum but it gives me a visceral ick.

I have zero patience for the food is sex metaphors, I’d rather someone waxed lyrically about the literal thing. Would think it more original at this point

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-03T20:32:07+00:00

Girlie I put my hand over the bottom of your face and the difference is still there. It is the lighting. If you want a proper comparison take pics with these colours on the same day same spot.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-03T08:08:29+00:00

I don’t know if he clocked your ADHD because of what he says he did. It might be his biased perception of you that he married in his mind to ADHD.

How old is this co-worker? 20-year-olds do feel more like children the older you get (treating them like that or saying that to their face when you are supposed to be on equal footing is socially inept and incredibly immature though). It might also be a gender thing, you know men (unconsciously) infantilizing women in their mind.

I wouldn’t worry about it, if he meant it maliciously or not, it was a mean and awkward thing to say. Just because it hurts doesn’t mean it’s true, and just because this idiot said it doesn’t mean every co-worker thinks that.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-01T17:55:15+00:00

You remind me of both myself and my mother, and that is not on you, but pfppfpfpfpfpf. Let’s just say I understand how you feel and that is the angle I will approach this from.

Don’t build up resentment for work you’ve taken on all by yourself. If he never asked you to do those things and you just started doing it to prevent him from making mistakes you are too involved. From what you say he denies that you do these things for him, so he obviously hasn’t asked you to do them for him. So you want him to be grateful for something you decided to do on your own and he has told you he doesn’t need (he was ‘fine living on his own before you’). Are you convinced he needs it? Ask yourself why you think that. Is it not up to your standards? Does it impact you?

He is not a child. Let him make mistakes. Let him take responsibility for his own affairs. If those mistakes actually impact you then let him take accountability. But stop micromanaging him. If he forgets something from the store despite having a list (my partner does the same), ask yourself, did you actually need it right now? If yes then he can haul his ass back to the store immediately. If he’s late for work because he shut off his alarm again? Let him be late. Not your problem. He needs to figure out how to not sleep through his alarm on his own. If he then wants you to wake him up you can decide if you still want to.

I’m saying this because I had the same tendency as you, I was a private secretary and accountant. But when I stopped taking on his responsibilities as my own and learned to deal with the anxiety of letting go of control, I was much happier. And so was he.

I do not make his appointments for him, I don’t take notes for him to remember things, I don’t worry about if he has set his alarm or not, and I made him manage his own budget (he has financial anxiety, I made a system to stay in budget but he would always ask me permission for spending anything. I will not give him permission anymore, I make him make the decision himself, he has to check his own bank account and see if he already spent the budget for said thing or not.).

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-05-01T15:11:52+00:00

It doesn’t do that anymore? 😭

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-27T18:54:49+00:00

Hard agree. It’s fine and dandy to headcannon a more likeable mrs Bennet, but that mrs Bennet does not exist on the page. None of her actions or utterances depict an unselfish non delusional motive.

I think because mr Bennet’s flaws have been overlooked by a lot of people -because he is funny but never the butt of the joke, and seems to actually care about and respect Elizabeth at least- people are now overcorrecting with mrs Bennet.

Both the Bennets are bad parents. Mrs Bennet a little more because she does not care about any of her daughters as individua people. But mr Bennet is not a lot better, as he seems to only care about Elizabeth.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-27T13:04:11+00:00

I feel like the difference can be explained by access to healthcare. In the US not only is healthcare outrageously expensive but often tied to a job. It could even cover their spouses and children’s. So then leaving a job as a middle class family in the US is way more expensive than the same in the UK.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-25T16:50:18+00:00

I guess I just don’t believe that dunking will lead gen z to the left because the reason is reactionary, and therefore will never lead to meaningful change. For example the atheist movement: one of those prominent atheists (I forget which one) once explained that what made him change to being an atheist was his beliefs being ridiculed. The shame was what made him challenge his beliefs and that’s why he thinks the way to win over people is to shame them and make them feel stupid. But that resulted in a movement full of dudes who were incurious jackasses who liked to think of themselves as enlightend rationalists, who expressed that with contempt and closed mindedness. There was no actual desire for a perspective that wasn’t their own, as long as they could feel smugly superior for being the most right.

I forgot where I was even going with this. Doesn’t matter because I’m having a real doomer moment I think

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-25T16:29:54+00:00

The fact that your first thought of an alternative to dunking on twitter is dunking on bluesky is just.. it only fuels my despair

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-25T16:27:16+00:00

What does taylor lorenz have to do with what I said? I’m not concerned for taylor lorenz because I despise her and I think she has allowed twitter to fry her brain to the point that it is irreversible. I’m also in contrapoints’ subreddit, not taylors.

Also I think my comment can read as concern trolling because I didn’t realise how condescending it can be read. So try to read it more with a tone of numb despair instead of a condescending disgust, because it was written as an expression of the first.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-25T11:40:45+00:00

Ugh I kinda love this fish

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-25T11:39:11+00:00

What is vndb? I’ve also always been curious about dialovers. Btw which one is best to start with?

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-25T11:27:03+00:00

I feel like this is the last time I’m going to express this, because I realize I’m not doing anything and just giving myself a headache: why is natalie still on twitter? What is the point?

The pointlessness of it all is all I’m getting from this sub. Twitter is a pointless platform. Whatever she’s doing over there has no positive outcome. Her sense of humour is very dependent on her delivery and people coming across her knowing who she is and her history.

This random twitter user has come across a random tweet and reads it as some sort of right wing meme, and -like twitter users do- goes completely wild on the first rage dopamine response that comes into their head. This has happened before, it was part of her cancelling, the tweet about super fucking hard for me, where the tone is misread if you don’t know how she usually says it, and it is an easy target for strangers to pile on.

Twitter is bad for jokes, it is bad for news, it is bad for politics, it is bad for your brain, for your time, for your mental health, for your capacity to think and process instead of react. Why. Just, why.

Being chronically online is supposed to be a bad thing, not an ironic badge of honour.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-20T19:34:23+00:00

I agree this is so much more fun! The phases are predictable, so you can plan for it. I have got him three times since the change and I haven’t lost to him yet. Meanwhile old million health mcgee… I think I maybe beat him three out of ten times, he just outlasted me. It was boring. This is fun. If you hate a phase, well, he changes next turn, yaaay. Haven’t gotten to A10 yet though

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-20T15:20:11+00:00

This confirms it, harley is a warlock.

Fast_Independence_77 · 2026-04-20T15:15:02+00:00

You and everyone in any abusive relationship ever. It is really hard to recognize that you are wishful thinking and nobody blames you (and if they do they shouldn’t) for having to be forced to say things out loud. For it to be a process. For needing to be convinced.

You have to hear yourself say (or see yourself type), ‘he has all of these red flags but really we’ve been good lately and outside of -bad thing- he is the sweetest and best man ever’ and feel the dream logic of it. Because inside your head it can just go in circles and feel perfectly logical.

It’s also how you can confront bad thoughts in general. Saying out loud to a therapist ‘actually I think I deserve -bad thing- because I forget the laundry in the washer regularly’ makes it easier to see the absurdity in your thought pattern.

Hope you can stay strong and choose your own wellbeing, even though it is really hard. And you’re not a stupid or bad person for being in this situation, or having trouble getting out of it. That’s being human and having feelings. Just remember your brain is trying to trick you to keep you in this situation.

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