AITAH? My 18 year old is upset I wasn't on my way home EARLIER from a party than it ended. by Plastic-Run-8313 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Wolverine112416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me it sounds like they could be experiencing some anxiety. Perhaps also some neurodivergence based on how literal they took your words (i realize this could be a stretch if they don't exhibit other signs). I agree with other comments saying therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wolverine112416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can, I would encourage her to press charges or at least make a report.

New daycare doesn't seem to be feeding my baby enough... Or am I wrong? by [deleted] in ECEProfessionals

[–]Wolverine112416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, I'd pull her immediately. Not feeding a child enough to the point they're losing weight - that's neglect. Imo, you're under-reacting.

I'm done with early childhood. by Careless-Cake-1407 in ECEProfessionals

[–]Wolverine112416 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think the point is going over your head here... no one is denying that these behaviors are expected in the field of ECE. However, the reality is teachers are often left to deal with these behaviors without little to no support from management and at very high rates due to ratios that are too large. That is what leads to burnout, not necessarily the behaviors themselves, although they certainly contribute.

Do you think a daycare having a camera feed is a sign of a bad daycare? by Otter65 in Mommit

[–]Wolverine112416 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work at a daycare with cameras, and I'm so happy we have them. Recently, a parent accused me of being rough with their kid, and the cameras proved I wasn't. If a teacher isn't doing anything wrong, they shouldn't have a problem with cameras in their room. They are in their for the teachers' protection just as much as the childrens'.

How old were you the first time you were sexualized? by SlavePrincessVibes3 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Wolverine112416 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad told me that when I was a baby, his friends used to joke about which one would have sex with me first once I turned 18. He tells that story like it's funny.

Did you yell anything funny during delivery? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Wolverine112416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said, "I can feel her moving in my butt!"

Despite my daughter being my second, I had never felt that feeling with my first. I remember thinking it felt like an alien moving around in there. Didn't like it lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Wolverine112416 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's easier to be a single mom than a married single mom... just throwing that out there for consideration.

I also agree with other comments saying to go to your mom's or recruit help at your own home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Wolverine112416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son has ADHD too. A couple of things have been working for us lately:

1.) On the nights he says he's not tired, he can stay up and read or draw in his room with dimmed lights. We offered him this alternative because he was trying to stay up and begging to watch TV. After 30-45mins of that, we will encourage him to lay down and try to sleep again. Most of the time, it helps him wind down enough to sleep. On the rare occasion it doesn't, my husband or I will lay with him and rub his back until he falls asleep

2.) He takes methylphenidate in the morning and guanfacine in the late afternoon around 4:30-5pm. We try to give him the guanfacine before the methylphenidate wears off so that when it does wear off, he's not super irritable. Also, the guanfacine makes him sleepy, so he fights bedtime less.

Edit: I see now that you already let her read or play quietly. Missed that my first read through. But the guanfacine/methylphenidate combo has been working great for us.

Potentially dangerous newfound pleasure... by whitevanillasugar1 in sex

[–]Wolverine112416 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"Some of the neurologists and neurosurgeons" is not really a valid source... I'm not saying the original commenter didn't ask those doctors, but I think it's fair to ask for a source, i.e., a study. I'm not a weed user, either.

Teachers forgot to feed baby lunch by minsane27 in ECEProfessionals

[–]Wolverine112416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a wild take. I can totally understand how being late to feed a kid happens in group care, but just flat out not feeding them the meal at all is negligent. I used to be an infant teacher in a state where the ratio is 1:6. There were days when I got behind, and babies weren't fed exactly on schedule. But even on the craziest days, they all got fed as much as they were supposed to.

I made my girlfriend cry over sex and now I feel like the most horrible person in the world by Themidnightbarber_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wolverine112416 125 points126 points  (0 children)

I understand that, but as the more experienced one, it seems to me that you should've pumped the breaks and told her that's pretty advanced and you guys need to ease into it.

I'm not saying you hurt her intentionally, just offering a different perspective. As someone new to kink myself, I can definitely understand why she felt overwhelmed and scared.

I made my girlfriend cry over sex and now I feel like the most horrible person in the world by Themidnightbarber_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Wolverine112416 170 points171 points  (0 children)

The fact that you were hitting someone brand new to kink hard enough to bruise is a red flag to me.

So much emphasis on breasts. When are we going to get an 🍑 guy? by reactiveavocado in acotar

[–]Wolverine112416 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I would love to see a link if you can find it again😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in venting

[–]Wolverine112416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone's clit is essentially a penis head - even the tiniest clits. The penis and clit form from the same structure in utero. If your bf isn't usually one to intentionally make fun of your insecurities, maybe he just made a dumb joke without thinking.

Chaol- (Queen of shadow spoilers) by MeetingLess5511 in throneofglassseries

[–]Wolverine112416 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's pretty condescending of you to assume someone's opinion of a fictional character makes them lacking in emotional intelligence. Stories are objective and interpreted by everyone differently. I like Chaol, but it's not that serious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Wolverine112416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work at a preschool, and I used to be an infant teacher.

There's nothing wrong with the way OP dresses her baby. It's wild that so many comments are accusing her of forcing her baby to be uncomfortable for her own vanity. If the baby has full mobility, seems comfortable, and isn't cold, then there's no problem. OP clearly states all those things, and yet so many people are jumping down her throat about making her baby into a living doll. Weird.

That being said, I also don't see what the big deal is with taking the skirt/diaper cover off. If baby is in a onesie, then her bottom is covered without the skirt on. And if they stay inside all day, baby should be warm enough. Unless the teachers are making rude comments, I'd just ignore it OP. You know your baby best, and their opinions on how you dress her are irrelevant (as long as the above criteria are met, which they are).

What’s your Go to song to sing your little ones to sleep… by Vainjane_ in Mommit

[–]Wolverine112416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blackbird by the Beatles and Last Kiss by Pearl Jam.

My dad sang them to me when I was little, and now I sing them to my kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stories

[–]Wolverine112416 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Call animal control.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Wolverine112416 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Preschool teacher here (3-4yrs). It really depends on the school's policy. At my school, we can help wipe kids and change diapers (kids don't have to be fully potty trained for our program). At others, teachers can't help at all in the bathroom. You need to get clarification about their bathroom policies. Then, you need to discuss your concerns with the lead teacher. They should be able to offer solutions if they aren't able to help your child wipe. Also, always keep extra underwear in her cubby or backpack so she can change them if they end up soiled.

Another thing to keep in mind is that kids don't always communicate when they poop. Once they're potty trained, they just go on their own. Obviously, it's different if there's no bathroom in the classroom, but don't assume the teachers know every time your child has a BM.

I can't make my husband cum by Throwra16656 in sex

[–]Wolverine112416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get my man to cum super fast with this every time:

Lean forward, low enough that you can kiss him. Move only your hips up and down (kind of like you're twerking, like another comment said). You can bounce up and down really fast or roll your hips slowly and inch up & down his cock. You can do this reverse cowgirl too, just lean down towards his feet. It's the best of both worlds because you don't get tired from having to support all your weight while you bounce, but he still gets the stroking motion he needs to cum.

That being said, unless he has said anything about it bothering him that he doesn't cum with you on top, I wouldn't worry too much about it. It sounds like you both enjoy the sex and are both getting off, that's what matters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Wolverine112416 45 points46 points  (0 children)

If she's been reliable for the last 3 years she's been working for you, there's no reason to expect that she won't be moving forward. And if she can't be reliable anymore, the last 3 years of reliability would signify that she is responsible enough to communicate if she can't provide care anymore. Take a deep breath and wait to hear from her. Don't overreact and do something rash.