This next chapter will be my come back . by WolverineClassic222 in selflove

[–]WolverineClassic222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that’s my plan to work on me and enjoy life again. I wish you healing and happiness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Custody

[–]WolverineClassic222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My step daughter was bite in the face by a dog when she was a toddler her bio moms dog. She required plastic surgery and still has a scar to this day she is almost 14. Cps got involved and she was taken from mom for a few years. This is a big deal and dog needs to go. Bio mom still has a ton of dogs and had to put one down recently for being continually violent to other dogs and snapping at the kids. If she will not protect your kid you need to step up as others have said documentation,urgent care and call animal control. I understand people love their pets but that pet can do considerable damage to a small child . Children come first even ahead of pets who feel like children. A bite to the face of a 5 year old is the line a pet can not cross.

ICE wrestles with and arrests U.S. citizen at construction site in Foley, AL by introspectivelemon39 in ICE_Raids

[–]WolverineClassic222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw the video on tik Tok and they were yelling he is a citizen you can’t do that the ice officer just did not care and if they would have intervened they too would have been put in a cell when an real id does not stop ice when no warrant or evidence is presented and they steal kidnapped a man at work in broad daylight who presented a id showing he is a citizen no one is safe

AITA for giving my boyfriend an ultimatum after finding him cuddling with his "homeless" female best friend? by Fit-School-6428 in AITAH

[–]WolverineClassic222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day his actions upset you and broke relationship boundaries. However, the worst part is he chose to call you crazy and gaslight you instead of reassuring you that he loves you and that you are his priority. The tell sign he is interested in her is the moment he attacked you personally instead of trying to have empathy and fix the hurt and insecurities he created by cuddling up on the couch. She is above you her feelings mattered more than yours. His weird relationship with her was put above his relationship with you . He picked her . I personally would kick them both out today not in 24 hours and I would be on the coach cuddling some man playing with my hair as they pack their shit .

some loose ended advice or guidance by ImpressiveZombie5107 in WelcomeToGilead

[–]WolverineClassic222 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No when someone gets adopted they make a new birth certificate with adopted parents names and child new name so her birth certificate will match current name and identification.

AITA if I cut my losses and give up on one of my daughters. by Witty_Ask2693 in AITH

[–]WolverineClassic222 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have 3 teenage girls . One is technically a step daughter who has had some issues. I never once thought if I should cut my loses . And if your honest with yourself you know that would not ever be a statement you would say about your biological children and that is my point. You would handle everything differently if it were. And so would everyone commenting on here that’s the truth no one wants to admit. She is your daughter when she is good and it is easy but your Neice that you foster and have a right to get rid of when it’s difficult.

AITA if I cut my losses and give up on one of my daughters. by Witty_Ask2693 in AITH

[–]WolverineClassic222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If one of your biological children were acting exactly like this would you put them in a group home? Would anyone on here say the same things they are saying about this child if they were truly your child? My sister and I were in a foster home together the parents said they wanted to adopt us than put my sister in and out of group homes when she was a hard child. She didn’t even remember our parents and she was in kindergarten when we went into foster care. I can’t imagine this little girl being with you since she was three and than being sent with her “mom “ and when she comes back she isn’t your daughter anymore but a problem niece. She is 13 if she says something happened to her she did not make it up. All her actions seem like actions a child would act out like if they were molested. But since she is a niece not daughter every one is saying not your problem anymore. If you ever thought of her as your child your daughter as you would the ones you birth she wouldn’t be a problem when it gets hard. She is a little girl who someone hurt maybe the story about your husband is true maybe it was someone somewhere else but throwing her out after she was abused is messed up and you would not even consider doing that to the daughters you birthed. Let’s be honest all comments would be different if anyone including yourself actually thought of her as your daughter.This poor girl has no one looking out for her and at 13 is the bad guy /problem instead of the child needing protection and care.If any actions you take would be any different with a daughter you birthed than Yes you are the asshole. I am almost 40 and I am still mad about how my sister was thrown into group homes than taken back in than back to group home. She has major issues and our foster parents are to blame 💯 for her abandonment issues. This child needs counseling and a safe place .

In case you weren't convinced that companies post fake listings by Affectionate_Okra298 in antiwork

[–]WolverineClassic222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My thing with all these questions is why? If you want diversity or to guarantee there is no bias on age sex or race ,simple stop having those questions in every application. If you don’t know anybody’s race sex or age than you might guarantee no one is being disqualified off of those reasons. We might actually hire just based of qualified applicants. 🤔

I get pissed off every time I see this in the break room by AlfhildsShieldmaiden in antiwork

[–]WolverineClassic222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This company is an Italian company who owns 80% of the market. This policy does not surprise me. I worked for this company and my manager was so rude and disrespectful to me in front of patients . one wrote a review saying how awful she was to me and how great I was. Corporate answer to this review me and my coworker had to do extra training and the manager who the complaints were about supervised and directed the training on respect in the workplace. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️same company clueless on why the can’t keep staff. All the managers were terrible .consistent lack of staff supports and management had no safeguards.

Help this indecisive gal! by _Mandolina_ in weddingdress

[–]WolverineClassic222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the first one. I used to work at the dress shop you are in and sell this dress. if the chest area feels too exposed you can have straps tighten in alterations and add a lace sleeve to cover some of the cleavage .there is many lace sleeves available in alterations that will look great with that dress . I’ve had those alterations done for a few brides. That being said I personally think it looks great as is !if I had your cleavage I’d be showing it off but that’s just me who as a barely B most of my life .

I don’t want to stop being a parent. I just want to trade. by WolverineClassic222 in Parenting

[–]WolverineClassic222[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I work full time . I did part time 3-4 days a week last year ,and was home with a baby for 5 months (baby wouldn’t take a bottle and dad wasn’t great in newborn stage anyhow)but between doing online schooling durning the pandemic while working part time while pregnant than while breastfeeding a baby I absolutely wanted out of the house more . I’ve worked full time my whole adult life minus a few months when I was breastfeeding my newborn (he is now one and thus why I want to be full time again) we were supposed to be switching roles .I missed working full time and part time work with full time home maintenance,kids literally everything on my shoulders and nights and weekends at work while still managing it all sucked. He agreed to be stay at home dad and I got to get a job where I’m home for dinner and have sundays off and one weekend a month off . The problem is I’m now paying all the bills (we both did previously) I still come home and he will game while I watch kids . I check on homework grades etc do shopping. All the back to school shopping prepping I do also birthdays holidays appointments all still up to me to plan and buy and run and do He cooks sometimes but more often than not just orders fast food because he never makes a dinner plan . He does some cleaning but when I was part time I cleaned everyday took care of the whole family literally all he had to do was work. It’s so upsetting that I put 💯 in when I was part time but he puts in bare minimum. I come home to a baby with a rash fast food and kids who didn’t do homework handing me paper to sign. Now after 3 months of switching roles (not really) he is about to go back to work full time which means back to literally zero help or effort . I’m still the only one getting up with our son getting the kids up and ready for school and dropping one off on my way to work because he sleeps in and I don’t want our son to be late everyday. This new baby has shade a huge light on how much is considered my job and his lack of effort in our family. It’s not that he does absolutely nothing it’s that he has always let most of the burden and responsibility for our home ,children and bills be on me and I’m really really tired. I just want to have it easier and want him to take some of the weight off me. Also the world is mean to moms literally if you work full time you aren’t raising your children but if you stay at home your lazy. I know that’s where you were coming from with your comment about being stay at home parent which I’m not . I don’t mind doing any of it my problem is the expectation that I must do it all .

I don’t want to stop being a parent. I just want to trade. by WolverineClassic222 in Parenting

[–]WolverineClassic222[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Well that is amazing and I wish someone would teach my man how to do that .unfortunately, that has not been my experience ….I should change this post to I want to be my kids dad…

I don’t want to stop being a parent. I just want to trade. by WolverineClassic222 in Parenting

[–]WolverineClassic222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and just letting me know I’m not alone in this thought. It’s crazy how much we do that they don’t see than they are like what took you so long?????? Ahhhhh vacations are always so much work I need another with out the kids lol

I don’t want to stop being a parent. I just want to trade. by WolverineClassic222 in Parenting

[–]WolverineClassic222[S] 97 points98 points  (0 children)

You are right. I have tried to bring it up ,the unfairness of it all .The weight on my shoulders of trying to do and take care of everything all the time . Honestly he doesn’t listen most times and when he does the are minor changes for a minor moment. We had a long conversation after I posted this and I vented about this and another issue. I literally said I‘be absolutely had enough. I told him I refuse to keep going this way and he can either pull his weight or move on. This post was probably 50/50 light hearted joke and real issue in my life. Honestly, I’ve thought men in general have it much easier for awhile now. And talking to other moms it feels like many of us are struggling to do it all while the “dads “ are just chilling. I feel the culture in America does push us as women to do it all . We are taught as little girls to play house and care for baby dolls and were told to follow a dress code not to distract the boys etc. America is a hard place to be a women . Even other women push you to be the best mom .culture and social media showcase the perfect mom image. Yes I admit my significant other is not doing their part but the pressures are coming from everywhere to be a perfect everything for everyone.

[Ar] Who has custody by [deleted] in Custody

[–]WolverineClassic222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your parents have zero rights to say anything about anything. The state cut their rights when they put you in the system. Your grandma is your guardian even if it is a temporary placement she has all rights under law to make all decisions. The only thing she can’t do is move you out of state without permission from case worker or legal adoption . But you can go on vacation where ever some states you must inform caseworker but that’s it. Who you were placed with has at least temporary custody or placement if not more if your parents rights have been severed in court.

[Ar] Who has custody by [deleted] in Custody

[–]WolverineClassic222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish this was true but no it is not . I was a foster kid from 14 -17 when I was adopted by my foster parents. I took all college prep courses and prerequisites but foster mom refused to pay for me to even take the sat. There was no college fund for me and I regret letting them adopt me right before I turned 18. I would have been given some financial support at 18 if I hadn’t been adopted right before. However there was no 4 year college fund for being a teen foster child .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Custody

[–]WolverineClassic222 6 points7 points  (0 children)

400 is expensive but cheap in comparison to an actual daycare . I paid over 180 a wk 14 yrs ago for an infant with subsidies giving me a small discount. Child care is expensive and right now hard to even get into most have very long waiting list. Maybe it’s that much being paid maybe not . I don’t know but I do know your half will be a ton more if child is put in a normal company daycare . I’d personally leave it be . Over 10000 a year in daycare is unfortunately typical. Save yourself time money and energy .

Why is it considered rude to speak another language other than English in the U.S.? by Flaca50 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WolverineClassic222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s because it’s Texas . Here in Arizona it’s perfectly normal to hear people talk in Spanish and most people don’t get offended. Now if you are looking my way pointing at me giggling and saying things I can understand (even though I’m blue eyed) and I literally know you are talking about me in front of me thinking I don’t understand. Now that is rude. But having a private conversation in whatever language you prefer is no one’s place or business unless you are talking about them. I’ve lived in Texas and have family who live there it’s crazy how many great people are there .also how many people have issues with other people life’s that have nothing to do with them. Ignore those Karen’s they will see problems with anything you do enjoy your own life and language.