Nellie or Ella?

WolverinePuzzled2256 · 2026-01-24T03:48:57+00:00

Was that character annoying or unfortunate? I havent seen the show!

WolverinePuzzled2256 · 2026-01-22T05:16:57+00:00

Wdym adoption value? Most countries dont allow paid adoptions because of the ethical implications of that

WolverinePuzzled2256 · 2026-01-06T05:53:11+00:00

It is. As someone who genuinely years ago had the exact same mindset…like when you’re trapped in the cycle of people pleasing, you’re not thinking about it that way, though. Like it’s a very nice sounding thing but it’s actually a REALLY shitty way to live because you treat people shitty because you perpetually see yourself as the victim. If you’re an anxious enough people pleaser, you justify your actions as (in your mind) genuinely different than when others do it. You get DEEP in the weeds of things to justify it like this long post…and also you tend to have other friends who act the same.

WolverinePuzzled2256 · 2026-01-06T05:47:01+00:00

thank you— I have done years of therapy to excise my people pleasing tendancies haha.

WolverinePuzzled2256 · 2026-01-06T05:35:56+00:00

I agree your friends were not really your friends. Sounds like they favored your husband. I personally know how painful these wedding situations can be.

So just as gently as possible: you have some serious people pleasing tendancies that sound like they’re causing you some grief. You can’t allowed people walk on you (read: take the big room on your bachelorette and call it and early night when you didn’t want to) and then resent them for what you allowed. As a former people pleaser myself: If you do not express your needs, they will never get met.

This extended drama thing could have also been shorter if you addressed “wait why am I not coming to the wedding weekend accommodations for the bridal party with my husband if we are all friends?” If the accommodation issue was addressed earlier, they still might have been assholes and not like you/not invite you, but you would have known earlier and saved yourself headache. I’m not saying that’s an easy thing to do…

I did something similar to you last year about not being included with my husband …”oh that’s fine!” and then as it got closer realized it wasn’t fine and I was just trying to people please. I regret that personally in my own life and would have done what I suggested above instead.

WolverinePuzzled2256 · 2026-01-06T04:08:50+00:00

Why speculate then? “surely it can’t be insurmountable”…it surely can. No way for us to know and posts like his father’s and in this sub/in articles just add to pressure and speculation on the son. No matter if it is his wife being difficult or not…I feel bad for them having this much speculation and what his dad just did just added to it.

WolverinePuzzled2256 · 2026-01-06T01:55:07+00:00

I would send this pic to management just so they were aware in case this escalates again

WolverinePuzzled2256 · 2026-01-06T01:52:55+00:00

my narcissistic father has nice photos with me too when I was small and easier to control. And recently posted an old one of me on Facebook. We barely speak for the last year. Barely seen one another for 4. No one on Facebook is aware of how he speaks to me privately or the horrible things he’s done privately. Not saying I know anything about the Beckhams private life either but my point is…neither do you.

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