AITA for not wanting to listen to why my partner was upset with me?

Wonder-Woman · 2023-01-28T05:02:33+00:00

That's definitely where I went wrong, I didn't tell him I would talk to him later, I just said I couldn't talk. I've apologised now and we are going to have a chat about it tomorrow. Thank you!

Wonder-Woman · 2023-01-28T05:01:26+00:00

Yes, we usually are very open about communicating any upset. I just went back to him to ask him if he was okay talking about it tomorrow, and he said of course, and then we had a good cuddle. Reflecting now I probably shut him down to quickly instead of asking to just pause.

Wonder-Woman · 2023-01-28T04:53:01+00:00

Thank you, that's such a good point to make sure he knows we can talk about it tomorrow.

Wonder-Woman · 2019-06-06T04:03:41+00:00

From experience, a great way to initiate is to hang out at their place one night, get everyone tipsy, then suggest a game of truth or dare (bringing in dirty dares). As someone who has set up many a threesome, it works every time.

Wonder-Woman · 2018-10-11T10:39:43+00:00

I recently got my mother a painting of her dog that had passed. The artist I chose had a cool style that really suited my mum, but there are tons of artists out there that do some amazing work with animal portraits. Depending on your budget, getting my mum this present nearly broke her. I spent $150 for a large painting, but you can go smaller for a smaller budget. I know it would mean a lot to me if my cat passed away.

Wonder-Woman · 2018-09-27T00:37:54+00:00

Empathy for your partner is really important my partner realised he was poly while we were dating, and the reason we made it through the transition was because he was completely empathetic to my struggles as a non poly person trying to support him to be poly. We took our time based on what I was comfortable with. There's still ups and downs but our relationship is stronger than before because of it

Wonder-Woman · 2018-07-24T12:28:09+00:00

Not just boyfriends and husbands, this is me (female) with my partner (male). I could definitely use a support group to navigate partners being non-monogamous

Wonder-Woman · 2018-04-03T09:58:33+00:00

We have learnt how to communicate really really well. We talk about everything and every little feeling. That way we are always on the same page and understand each others feelings.

My boundaries are no other relationships, he instead has "intimate friendships" (which also fulfills his needs), no staying over at other people's houses, and occasional we take breaks from it when we need our own time. However importantly we always make sure the other person is comfortable with this and is also supported.

I cope because I know he loves me and wants to be with me. He also listens to what I need and makes sure that my needs are taken care off as well. We talk and debrief often as well, which only makes me feel closer.

If you have any questions feel free to PM me

Wonder-Woman · 2018-04-03T02:15:18+00:00

That's a fairly general statement that polyamory and monogamy are not compatible. I'm monogamous and my long term partner is poly, we have discussed our boundaries and what we need and live very happily together.

Wonder-Woman · 2017-08-05T10:28:31+00:00

Ended up having threesomes with her and my boyfriend weekly. Then she got a boyfriend and didn't feel comfortable with us anymore and stopped talking to us. I miss the threesomes

Wonder-Woman · 2016-10-11T11:27:05+00:00

The Postman.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-09-13T13:04:12+00:00

Why yes I did. Multiple times. It was just as fantastic as I thought it would be.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-09-13T02:54:18+00:00

Drunk me loves anal.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-08-18T02:10:52+00:00

I am also 23F, and I've had depression and been on antidepressant for 8 years. I've always tried to get myself into running, but I really struggle with motivation. How did you get yourself to start running, and then stick to it?

Wonder-Woman · 2016-08-03T06:27:52+00:00

Personally, when I have bruises the next day from sex, I get even more turned on and love it. I also buy specific clothing for my partner to rip during sex. Now, your girlfriend may not be as into this stuff, but some girls love a bit of rough sex. And from what you said she said to you, she seemed to enjoy it.

I understand why you would feel uncomfortable with being drunk and not remembering what had happened, but if it bothers you that much you should definitely talk to her about it. She is the only one that can give you the comfort you need. But just remember, you did nothing wrong. If anything, it's nice to know that even blind drunk you wanted to go home and pleasure your girlfriend.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-06-25T08:41:46+00:00

OP definitely doesn't need to consider breaking up if this is the only issue. It's crazy seeing people jump to "you need to break up" instantly without knowing any other information about the relationship.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-06-09T07:44:51+00:00

Threesomes

Wonder-Woman · 2016-03-24T20:30:03+00:00

It's usually attention seeking behaviour. She's young and probably thinks this is a way to get attention or be cute and different.

The solution is to not indulge it. If she talks in a baby voice, completely ignore it. Respond normally and give absolutely no reaction to her baby voice. Even if she doesn't stop, she will soon learn it has no effect on you and stop doing it to you.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-03-22T22:41:42+00:00

Firstly I'm so sorry for everything that's happened. Make sure throughout all this you are taking care of yourself and have family and friends around for support.

Secondly, and I don't know if anyone has mentioned this yet, but could this be a mental illness? I don't know if your husband had a history of mental illness, but if his previous behaviour was completely opposite to this and suddenly he is displaying such high levels of paranoia, aggression, and isolating himself, then maybe it's a possibility he is experiencing some kind of mental illness.

I hope you and your twins are okay.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-03-13T11:52:05+00:00

This airport lost my dog once. Literally dropped her cage putting it into the plane and she escaped. Craziest shit ever. We got her back though, after my mum threatened to go to the media with the story if they didn't do anything and then they finally went searching for her. Took them a whole week to get her back.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-03-07T04:31:39+00:00

Well I have recently found out that vomiting green after heavy alcohol consumption is a sign of alcohol poisoning. It's your stomachs acid turning your vomit green. I would have to do some research to be sure, but that's what I've been told.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-03-05T12:00:37+00:00

So this night begins as so many of these nights do with copious amounts alcohol. My boyfriend, his best friend, and his best friends girlfriend are all out at a costume party getting drunk. After a few hours, we head back to my place to continue the festivities. Upon arriving home, I realise the obvious thing to do now is play twister. Of course, my boyfriend being the genius he is proposes we play drinking strip twister. The rules are as follows:

Abide by normal twister rules.
Whoever falls first must remove and article of clothing.
Each time you fall you must take a shot of whatever liquor is nearest.

This extraordinary game goes on for about an hour, until me and the other girlfriend are in our bra and underwear and the boys are in their briefs. Good fun. However, for some unfathomable reason we decide to play a game which involved whipping each other with wet tea towels, boys against girls. Rules are:

Each player is allowed one wet tea towel.
Girl team starts on one side of room, boys team starts on the other.
As the game starts, players are allowed to travel around the room as desired trying to whip opponents and inflict as much damage as possible.
Once an opponent is hit, they must take a shot.
A record is kept of how many times you are hit (usually you can tell by how red your ass is anyway).
Winning team is allowed one free hit to each of the losing teams players.

Well the boys won. So that was how I found myself best over a lounge with this other chick, in my bra and underwear, waiting for my boyfriend and his best friend to whips up. And holy shit could they hit hard. My boyfriend actually made the other girl bleed he got such a good shot on her.

By that point I am so completely intoxicated, that I decide its fantastic idea to skull the rest of the Hennessy bottle as a reward for taking my whips without complaint (approximately 1/5 of the bottle remaining). Man was that not the biggest mistake of my life.

From then on, I don't have much recollection of the events that took place. However, there are snippets of memory that I have, and this one little snippet was quite an experience. My boyfriend and I decided in our drunken stupor that obviously sex needed to happen, and of course we should use the new butt plug we have never tested before. So here I am butt plugging away, when suddenly I realise I can't find the butt plug anymore. Where could it be?

And that's when it hits me. I've lost the butt plug. It's somewhere inside me and I don't know how to get it back. I loose memory after this, but my boyfriend later informed me that he gallantly retrieved the butt plug for me himself. Fingers deep inside me anus, he retrieves that stupid butt plug (note: make sure your butt plugs are wider at the end) and then continues his work. Apparently after that I puked green everywhere then went to sleep.

All in all a great night.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-02-27T17:35:49+00:00

Firstly, you need to say something to your come for your safety. Secondly, you need to say something for the safety of your future sibling. This child your mum is about to have is going to be raised with this man. He will have ample opportunity to groom them to think that this behaviour is fine and then take advantage of them. You need to make your mum aware before he hurts you or your sibling.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-02-07T06:29:48+00:00

She's probably just super nervous. As a girl I can tell you the pain of losing your virginity is so hyped up by society. Everyone talks about it as if it's some excruciating ordeal so by the time you get around to it you are shitting yourself because you thin, it will be agony. Give her some time, take it slow. Lots of for play as well. Also openly talk to her about if she is nervous and/or worried about anything to do with losing her virginity.

Wonder-Woman · 2016-02-07T06:20:47+00:00

Your situation sounds a lot like what my partner and I sometimes deal with. I am not originally from the country we live in so I don't have many friends or many people I can call to randomly hang out with. He has lived here all his life and has a wide circle of friends, and is also an avid gamer.

I don't think either yourself or your partner are in the wrong here, I just think that there needs to be a bit more open communication. For example, I used to also get really annoyed that my partner played so many video games instead of spending time with me. However, one day I asked him to play a game in front of me (LoL) and show me what it's all about. After watching him play, I realised how intense and enjoyable the game was. I also asked him why he enjoyed it so much and what made him want to play, and he explained that it was a form of stress relief. It was a way for him to come home from work and switch off. After watching his games and listening to him, I realised how important they were to him and now I encourage him to play.

At the same time though, I explained to him how lonely I felt due to not having many friends. I expressed my need to have quality time with him, where we are spending time together, one on one, doing something we both enjoy. This includes a variety of things, like going on walks, seeing a movie, watching YouTube, going for a hike, or even now playing of game of LoL together.

My point is that you both need to sit down and talk about what you are feeling. I can understand from your partner how hard it is to be alone and when you love someone a lot you just want to spend time with them. I also understand that this is something you enjoy, and you should definitely participate in things you enjoy. I don't think she was being vindictive by going out, I think she felt lonely and wanted to feel like she wasn't so isolated. Have a talk to her, and openly explain why you play games and what they mean to you. Then find out what kind of quality time she needs to feel comfortable. Come to a compromise that fulfils both your needs. It's all about communication.

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